Why some married men cheat?

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by JONBALLS

It's Charlie Sheen, acting or not...no way he'd agree to "No Sex", dying wife or not! LOL Thanks for sharing.

On a sad note...I know plenty of men who have gone years without sex and after exhausting every way known to man kind to get their lady to give it up, they finally find their way into the hobby. I wonder at times, just how many don't. I almost feel like there should be a public campaign concerning this issue...it's not the healthiest emotional state of being to be denied intimacy. Unresolved emotional issues often lead to medical issues, especially for men. ijs

[BossyWillson]

Wife decides she no longer needs sex

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by BossyWillson

Wife decides she no longer needs sex

Ya know? It eludes me how anyone can come to that conclusion. It's a very basic emotional and health need.

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Apparently, I'm not the only who has felt this to be true...LOL Get to boinking ya'll! Woot!

[albundy]

Originally Posted by MaxiMilyen

On a sad note...I know plenty of men who have gone years without sex and after exhausting every way known to man kind to get their lady to give it up, they finally find their way into the hobby. I wonder at times, just how many don't. I almost feel like there should be a public campaign concerning this issue...it's not the healthiest emotional state of being to be denied intimacy. Unresolved emotional issues often lead to medical issues, especially for men. ijs

On the head! In case he or she (Wakeup) chimes in again, let me explain. I am not saying anything "justifies" cheating, but some things "cause" it. I HATE having to look elsewhere. I know some guys like variety and no matter what, they'll cheat. I never cheated or considered it until this happened about 15 years or so into the relationship. I exhausted every option except for destroying my family. Jerking off only works for so long. Is it still wrong? Probably, but she is not innocent in the situation.

If I divorce her, and by the way we both have discussed it, she has NOWHERE to go. I would have to pay for a place for her and the kids, move in with my parents, and have some other guy live with my children, possibly, while I pay for it. ALL because she decided she doesn't want to f-ck anymore. BUT, I guarantee, he or she will chime in that somehow I should just jerk off for the rest of my life or destroy my family. Those two options would be the "right" things to do.

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by albundy

On the head! In case he or she chimes in again, let me explain. I am not saying anything "justifies" cheating, but some things "cause" it. I HATE having to look elsewhere. I know some guys like variety and no matter what, they'll cheat. I exhausted every option except for destroying my family. Jerking off only works for so long. Is it still wrong? Probably, but she is not innocent in the situation.

If I divorce her, and by the way we both have discussed it, she has NOWHERE to go. I would have to pay for a place for her and the kids, move in with my parents, and have some other guy live with my children possibly while I pay for it. ALL because she decided she doesn't want to f-ck anymore. BUT, I guarantee, he or she will chime in that somehow I should just jerk off for the rest of my life or destroy my family. Those two options would be the "right" things to do.

Unfortunately, we allow what others think and believe to affect doing what we know and feel are the best for us. We each have only ourselves to be with 24/7 for the rest of our lives, so I decided a long time ago, that I can not and will not allow others to impede my health and happiness ever again. If they can not have compassion or understand that I do not fit in a mold and what is great or good for them, does not help me in the least. then I will close myself off to them as well. Cause and effect.

I think for myself, I am patient and I listen and try to learn from what others suggest which might alleviate or improve any situation for myself or others I can share that with. However, few rarely consider that I am not them, but rather someone altogether different. Being "different" is not the most popular thing to be, but it works for me. LOL I appreciate the input, but acquire my own beliefs, ideals, and lifestyle through trial and error of many things and stick with what feels right for me. Period. I have no ill will towards those who always try to impose their beliefs and morals on everyone else, because I understand they do not realize what kind of damage they may be causing, or maybe they just have no compassion for others, which is always hard for me to understand, so I stopped trying to.

I often make suggestions, but after all the crap I've been through, I understand that others get stuck, think it's a strange concept to think differently than they are used to. Basically many are afraid that a new/different belief or desire has no merit, because then they may have to consider that many of their beliefs may actually feel untrue or turn out to be something altogether different than they imagined and had been preaching with all their might as the only right or true way to be.

There is ZERO reason to feel guilt for achieving that which we believe is best for each of us. I strongly feel if there is a chance I will hurt another, I give them the option to remain in my life or not, with the understanding, I have to do what I have to do, in order to maintain. No one else is going to do that for me, nor are they responsible for doing so. I have certain experiences I wish to maintain and enjoy, because I know they make me feel better. Sex is about feeling and I love to feel, so no, I am not giving that up. IMO, no one should have to and it sucks that our society is so judgemental about all aspects of sex.

I'm sorry if what I do and enjoy doesn't work for others or they don't "get it", but...it can only hurt them if they allow what I do or feel, to do that. Otherwise, get on board the "me" train. Because, I have a life to live and it has to be somewhat about me. It's no one's place to judge my every action, thought, desire, hair color, leg length, food preference, age, desires, etc. If I hurt myself, it's on me and I take responsibility for doing so. If you hurt me, you will have some culpability in some manner, just as I would if the tides were turned. Therefore, I try to do no harm, but alas, I am human with human needs and feelings. Don't deny the basic ones and there is less chance that will occur. ijs

My point. Do not allow those thoughts and beliefs to keep you from achieving that which you truly desire or have the need for. If you have guilt, knock it off, because you are the only one at that point who is keeping the desire or need at bay. Life is too short and I know almost every gent here tried his darndest to get his beloved to share before even considering another option.

Me, I am not afraid to tell someone I am not getting what I need from them and what the fall out of that might cause. But, others have their reasons for deciding not to discuss the fallout of being denied. I understand completely why that is and do not judge. It's not my place to do so. If you have a need to protect someone from it, then it's on you to ensure you do. It's only one reason why I SCREEN. LOL I am not responsible for your actions and many would place that responsibility upon the wrong party, but that's another discussion and yes...I'm wordy. LOL

[Wizbull0]

Pretty much ever third time my wife says no I either find a girl who will say yes or go on bp and negotiate with a girl who will say yes. I feel it's roughly 95% my wives fault and 5% mine.

Example.

Today I tried for the third time in three days to no avail. Her excuse was we just had sex a week ago. A week to her I guess is 9 days but who's counting? Well, I've text a few fwb might hit it tomorrow with one but if not found a honey on bp fairly close to me that I've had my eye on. So one way or another I'm getting laid. My wife I'm sure feels just in not wanting sex and if I was a bad lay I would understand. But one "week" ago when we had sex even though she wanted a quickie because she wasn't in the mood I got her to cum twice. The second time she thought she peed because she got so wet. To me it's selfish of her to only want sex once a month and makes me initiate it every time.

I do wonder how she doesn't ever think why I go from wanting it to not caring in one short day.

[Boudin3112]

Women do not see it as men do. They want men to do and do for them but without ever having to do for the men. When I finally bitch enough I get some pussy but it is cold and only done out of her feeling she has to and not that she wants to. If men wait until women want it then we go see providers. I heard a lady say what keeps her marriage of 20 years still going is she never says no to sex to her husband and listens to him. She is his sex toy in every way he wants it. She said he only wants about once a week and what is it to her about 30 minutes of total time a week and for that she gets a happy husband that does not cheat because he gets the best at home. Women do not see this, it is "I don't feel like it." If the lady wants her man to be happy and let us hope she does because she did marry him, then fuck him often and fuck the way he likes it. Tell him what you like and let him do it. Watch how he pays attention to you afterward, watch how he starts making you happy as well in other ways. Men can do the other things to please their wife, put socks in fucking laundry room, put fucking toilet sit down and more crap, but what do we get for us paying attention to their needs - nothing. Fuck your man and he should not cheat. Don't fuck your man and he will wander, your pussy is not that good. Women think their pussy is the best and because of that men will not look around. Your pussy may be the best but average or below great pussy is better than NO PUSSY and seeing a provider may not be the best pussy but it beats NO PUSSY. This is not rocket science.

[Poppa_Viagra]

Somebody's study found that 70-80% of wives give sex as a reward or incentive for housework.
So their husbands find a better deal on pussy n town.
Since the hysterectomy I have been condemned to a self inflicted sex life (save for the hobby) and unrewarded expectations of housework.

[jj2301]

Wow, some of these stories really bum me out, to the point that I'd have to seriously consider whether or not I ever want to have another traditional, committed relationship. It seems so much easier being single, paying for a housekeeper and the occasional hooker.

[albundy]

Originally Posted by Boudin3112

Women do not see it as men do. They want men to do and do for them but without ever having to do for the men. When I finally bitch enough I get some pussy but it is cold and only done out of her feeling she has to and not that she wants to. If men wait until women want it then we go see providers. I heard a lady say what keeps her marriage of 20 years still going is she never says no to sex to her husband and listens to him. She is his sex toy in every way he wants it. She said he only wants about once a week and what is it to her about 30 minutes of total time a week and for that she gets a happy husband that does not cheat because he gets the best at home. Women do not see this, it is "I don't feel like it." If the lady wants her man to be happy and let us hope she does because she did marry him, then fuck him often and fuck the way he likes it. Tell him what you like and let him do it. Watch how he pays attention to you afterward, watch how he starts making you happy as well in other ways. Men can do the other things to please their wife, put socks in fucking laundry room, put fucking toilet sit down and more crap, but what do we get for us paying attention to their needs - nothing. Fuck your man and he should not cheat. Don't fuck your man and he will wander, your pussy is not that good. Women think their pussy is the best and because of that men will not look around. Your pussy may be the best but average or below great pussy is better than NO PUSSY and seeing a provider may not be the best pussy but it beats NO PUSSY. This is not rocket science.

TRUTH! Wisdom right there. Seems obvious doesn't it? I mean, what in the hell do these women think is going to happen if they decide "no more sex"? Oh, and just so I'm clear, I don't mean if there is a legitimate medical reason that she CAN'T have sex. But even then, there should be SOME way to show affection still.

[Wakeup]

Originally Posted by jj2301

Wow, some of these stories really bum me out, to the point that I'd have to seriously consider whether or not I ever want to have another traditional, committed relationship. It seems so much easier being single, paying for a housekeeper and the occasional hooker.

Exactly...these guys should have never gotten married...yet they did...so they get to suck up the shame and weakness involved in it...pussies...

[Boudin3112]

These guys never would have gotten married had they known the change she would make. Your comments do cause me to believe you are a woman. Only women keep talking, even when they are on the unpopular side of a debate, most men here do not resort to name calling, most men give up when caught in so many lies, So one tends to believe you are female or if a man a female acting man. But you thrive on this drama shit apparently, which is a trait of a woman. Usually traits of a scorned woman at that. I will stop with debating you as you are simply not worth my time, that is something a man would do, just stop posting to shut you up.

[Wakeup]

Originally Posted by Boudin3112

... had they known the change she would make.

Are you kidding? Please tell me you're kidding...

[Bobave]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

Are you kidding? Please tell me you're kidding...

I notice you completely ignored the real thrust of his comments. Again.

[Jon[s]]

Who knows. Maybe because one or the other individuals actually suck at choosing a life partner?