Board personas and the hobby...

[pepsirexy]

Fancy, it was what you posted that made me want to see you and it was one of the most beautiful times I have had since moving to Houston.

Yes I do pick my to-do list off of what they post on here. I am a firm believer that personality will make you beautiful or ugly, and yes I believe that this site does bring out your personality

And Valerie you made my list, but not until I hit the lottery, because I am not a rich man just a very horney guy who loves women and sex....

[4karlos]

Originally Posted by Wakeuр

It always surprises me how some people can take little blinky pixels on a computer screen so seriously that they'd contemplate physical harm to another person over it...in fact, having any type of physical, emotional, or psychological response solely based on anything written here always struck me as the height of lunacy...

Board persona or not, if you're affected by what someone says on a hooker board you've got deep seated emotional problems that the rest of us will never be able to help you with...

Your 5,657 Posts @ 30 sec the pop rerturn a total nearing 50 hours.

You have dedicated 50 hours to a place which according you, should mean nothing physical, emotional, or psychological.

Congratulations Wakeup. The least performing of the hookers turns 50 hours into about $10k, you turned your 50hours into.....nothing?

[dearhunter]

You are incorrect..........this is not Wakeup's first "Wakeup".......ijs.

[Guest121624]

Originally Posted by TransAm
You assume that every board persona is a lie, at least to some extent. While I agree that there are elements of unreality in the online lives we lead, you yourself said that you're really not that different from the person you portray on this board. Same here.

Originally Posted by Wakeuр

Wait...you believed me when I said that? Why? See where I'm going with this?

WU, I think the numerous proclamations you've made lamenting you are being yourself here, including this one, gave him no reason to doubt you. I see where you're going with this. You're using it to back your argument that none of this is reality and this too could be a lie. Are you also using it in an attempt back your argument that your statement "everyone dies'' was said simply as a fact in an otherwise untruthful thread?

Regardless of your attempt to explain why you said it, which did not need five paragraphs prefacing it to explain, the bottom line is you knew how it would be taken by those in that thread and I believe that's the reason you posted it. When a serious question is posed to you, rarely will you simply answer it. Your diatribe to TA, as you later stated, was not meant for him, but for those you were having a real discussion with off the board.

In another thread you said you made a pact with a brother in arms to execute each other if something happened to either of you that would leave you crippled. Yes, I called you a pussy, yet, I also asked you if you were in a car accident and it caused you to be crippled, would you ask a friend to kill you? Different circumstances, same result. You ignored the question. So I ask again, what would you do? Shall I expect the truth, a lie to reinforce anothe argument, or no answer at all?

[Sarunga]

Originally Posted by Jusanotherdude

VERY interesting........."Another" perhaps..... But isn't it essentially the exact same? If not a ying to a yang......

JaD

Perhaps....if...we were actually feigning.

[blowpop]

Originally Posted by Wakeuр

Again, for the cheap seats, if any board persona affects you in any way...seek help...

My guess is that since you've chosen to be an ass on the board, you can convince yourself that you're not a bad guy if anyone who you offend needs to "seek help".

Easier than taking personal responsibility for your actions, I guess.

[blowpop]

Originally Posted by yf22raptor2

As I've experienced from other forums, a person that's an asshole on the board does so because often times there are no real life consequences to deal with. Forums do tend to bring out a person's true persona (much like the way alcohol tends to do the same). That being said, I generally do make a very strong assumption of a person's character based on their behavior on the board.

I agree.

In real life many assholes keep themselves in check because they don't want to suffer the consequences. Because no matter how much of a tough guy you think you are, there's always a tougher guy (or three) willing to adjust your attitude if you piss him off.

Best definition of character I've heard:

Character is defined by the choices you make when there are no consequences to those choices.

One thing I've noticed about many of our resident assholes - they make a point of letting everyone know that when they actually hobby, they keep their handles secret from the providers. Thus they feel like they've "fooled" someone who might not be willing to see them otherwise.

[Out_of_Bounds]

Originally Posted by blowpop

I agree.

In real life many assholes keep themselves in check because they don't want to suffer the consequences. Because no matter how much of a tough guy you think you are, there's always a tougher guy (or three) willing to adjust your attitude if you piss him off.

Best definition of character I've heard:

Character is defined by the choices you make when there are no consequences to those choices.

One thing I've noticed about many of our resident assholes - they make a point of letting everyone know that when they actually hobby, they keep their handles secret from the providers. Thus they feel like they've "fooled" someone who might not be willing to see them otherwise.

Never have i done this. Every woman i meet knows up front who i am.

[blowpop]

Originally Posted by Wakeuр

If you're saying that the personas represented here are direct representations of the personalities of the people out in the real world, I'll disagree. Take for instance your board persona. Here, you've told thousands of "people" that you've fucked, gotten jacked off by, gotten blown by, and ate the pussies of at least eight different women, and you paid all of them for the service. How many people in the real world know these things? How many people out there have you shown the reviews to? If it's less than thousands, then your board persona is a lie, again, to a certain extent, in that you're doing things here you don't do in your real world life. In fact, you're doing things here (like telling people that you fuck hookers all the time) that in the real world you might consider idiotic to tell everyone on the street

It sounds to me like you're saying that no one is in real life as they are here... except for you. I'd assume that someone as intelligent as you maintain that you are would realize that you're not such a special snowflake - many other folks are essentially the same IRL as they are here.

And unless you're just into cybersex, your hobby encounters DO happen in real life. Speaking only for myself, I do tend to compartmentalize my real life, so most of my friends IRL have no idea that I hobby. Most don't know that I was previously very active in the swinger community. Most of 'em don't know I'm an atheist. But a handful of my IRL friends do.

We each choose what to share with whom. Just because I share certain things on Eccie vs what I share with those in the neighborhood or those who are my clients doesn't make any of those interactions untrue - they're all simply edited to protect my interests.

You seem to be confused by the related concepts of on-board persona and anonymity. Anonymous conversations happen in real life - you wander into a strange bar, you chat with the guy at the next table at a strip club, etc. You may very well decide to talk about things in an anonymous context that you wouldn't want to talk about with those who know you personally. But anonymity won't protect you from being punched in the face if you insult someone IRL - only the physical lack of presence that's part of an online discussion like Eccie can do that.

I decided early on that my on-line persona would be the same as my real-life persona. I'm generally friendly to strangers and helpful unless I'm given a reason not to be. I don't like bullies, and I tend to stick up for the underdog. I have no patience for self-aggrandizing assholes. I love getting blowjobs.

Having been on hobby boards since their inception, I've witnessed the evolution of some of the other long-time personas, and it's typically not for the best. I believe that this reflects a change IRL that the individual is going through. I honestly doubt that the characters here are great actors, no matter how much they like to think that they are.

[blowpop]

Originally Posted by Out_of_Bounds

Never have i done this. Every woman i meet knows up front who i am.

And I don't think you're an asshole. A freak and a pervert? Absolutely. Abrasive at times? Yep.

But I doubt you'd make a comment like "Everyone dies" in a thread where someone was talking about a gravely ill relative.

You're not a bully.

[DEAR_JOHN]

I think some of the things that are kind of glossed over is the fact some of us do know each other. I'm talking real life friends, not handles on a hobby board. I can't help wonder why this was conveniently missed.

Right now a couple of my close friends that I talk to all the time are squirrel88, topcat, satin, and hotelal. Yes, they're real and personal friends. No doubt some of you others have real life friends on this board. In this context, we're more than real friends.

OK, time for the rant I started, then edited in Brooke's mother thread.

Frankly, I think we have some real miserable people on this board, and I can't even begin, nor care about why.

Here are a couple of examples.

Fancy in her thread about losing Sweet Pea.

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=502627

Originally Posted by Out_of_Bounds

"Anyway it's just an animal that's easily replaced."

Originally Posted by Out_of_Bounds

"Pet dies, go to the store and but a new one.
Person dies, it's noticed and based on circumstance there are inquiries."

I guess he felt some remorse then wrote this.

Originally Posted by Out_of_Bounds

"Ms. Fancy, I apologize.
My comment was not meant to be malicious. I took no pleasure in it.
In your grief you took it as such and I completely understand.
A future disclaimer on all future posts from Oob.
Never assume the obvious is implied. "

Then he thought about and ended his participation in this thread with this

Originally Posted by Out_of_Bounds

"ThreAd... I was willing to ignore it the first time. A second time though? Easily placed in an ad in the proper forum."

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However the saddest thing about the whole Sweet Pea threads, outside the fact Fancy lost her beloved pet was this................

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=531292

"Because of some negative opinions expressed in or about my previous thread regarding the Pea, I'm requesting that this one be closed immediately."



Does anybody realize how disgraceful it is to have to lock a thread about a beloved pet passing away, because somebody would come in and talk shit? Not only does this reflect on one of the members of this site, but the site moderation as a whole.

Now before I get pm's from mods telling me I'm dissing the mods, let me wonder out loud why this wasn't put a stop to earlier in the Sweet Pea illness thread? Why didn't someone send him a pm, and tell him that enough is enough and if he didn't like the thread, he didn't have to post there, but the mods stage a great comeback a bit later.

I guess there's nothing as good as a little psychological abuse?

Try as I might, I don't see where Fancy has ever made enemies or talked shit about anybody until she was attacked in the Sweet Pea illness thread.

So, why the meanness? What was gained?

Oh, I know, we have to keep up with our board personas, so we'll fuck with a lady who's pet is very ill.

I guess misery loves company...............how fucking pathetic.

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Now I acknowledge that Brooke and I aren't the best of buddies on this site. Wouldn't know her if I saw her, and it seems that sometimes she takes pleasure in throwing other providers under the bus.

However that doesn't mean that I can't have compassion and feel sorrow for her when her mom is in terrible shape at the hospital. I put myself in her place and wonder how I would feel if it was my mom. In this context I can feel extreme compassion for her.

Originally Posted by Brooke Wild

Many of you have been such a source of support for me over the years so I wanted to ask for your support and prayers now at a time when I need it the most … my mom is at the hospital in a coma and they are only giving her a 10% chance of making it.

She’s been in ailing health for a while, and today was just the day that her body couldn’t take it anymore. I’ve never witnessed such sadness and helplessness in my life.

Please say a prayer for her. Her and my dad just celebrated their 43rd wedding anniversary earlier this month, so as you can imagine, he is a wreck. Please include him in your prayers as well.

I must say I have a new found respect for paramedics … my mom was in such bad shape when they got to her place and the dignity, respect and grace they showed towards her and her situation was moving. God bless all of first responders.

Goodnight .. I’m going to and go to sleep now and go to the hospital and check on her first thing in the morning.
Brooke

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So Brooke asks her to say a prayer for her mom. OK, fine, no problem to spend 10 seconds before I go to sleep to ask for strength to her and her family. Moral strength for Brooke and physical strength for her mom. Didn't cost me but a few seconds out of my life.

So, here comes out of bounds again with a wonderful message.

Originally Posted by Out_of_Bounds

What class!
Mom is a vegetable and your hitting her up for a session.
You gonna hop on that "my moms medical bills need to be paid" massage special there boyo?

Brooke easy way to wake her up is to whisper in her ear what you do for a living.

Dude, you may be a good guy, but I hate your 'internet persona' with a passion. There is a time and place for humor (if that's what you call it), but threads of this nature aren't it.

Back to my earlier post about the mods, mojojo inserted this well deserved opinion, which was a great touch of class, and let myself and others know the mods are aware of what is going on, and took action. Thank you for that.

Originally Posted by mojojo213

Definitely not warranted behavior in a thread such as this one.... even if it is on an escort board it's still not acceptable, so let's keep this sort of tone out of this thread.


Brooke hope the best for you and the family.

Now, even though wakeup kept away from the Sweet Pea threads, I just guess his fingers were aching to type because his addiction to being wakeup was calling.

Originally Posted by Wakeuр

Everyone dies...

Yes, they do. We all will, but I think she knows this.

And you reason for posting this in a thread filled with compassion for her was 'what'?

..............yes, misery loves company.

Apparently wakeup wasn't through yet.

Originally Posted by Wakeuр

She dead yet?

Nice guy.

Yes, even an board filled with 'lazy ass hoes who work on their backs because that's all they know' and 'ugly ass fucking guys who are so ugly they have to pay for pussy', (insert sarcasm simile) we should find a time and place for compassion. These are real people with real life problems, and they have hearts like the rest of us. They have the ability to love and care for someone, whether it's a special pet or a mother.

Why some have to shit on these threads is beyond me, and it's nothing I will ever be able to understand. These are a couple of threads that if participation is wanted for positive inspiration, then please give it. If you don't feel that way, you don't have to participate. Also, these were located on the public forums, not a 'special' forum where anything goes.

At the end of the day, I can't help but wonder why someone would go so much against the grain of threads of these natures is beyond me. Is living your internet persona that fucking important, the abusing and hurting thread starters is something that someone thinks is cool? The one other thing that threads of this nature indicate is that some people don't have the ability to care about something........maybe they never learned how important it is to love something, maybe they don't know what love and compassion is. How very sad.

.......and don't tell me it's just the internet. I don't buy that bullshit for even a second.

[dearhunter]

It's just the internet

[Guest121624]

Originally Posted by dearhunter

It's just the internet

LOL! DJ, you asked for that.

Not according to WU! Nothing is real and it's all a lie, at least everything but his truth, or not. See where I'm going with this?

[dearhunter]

I guess it would be inappropriate to ask if Wakeup@#* is dead yet..............I'm just asking.........sheeesh

[pyramider]

Shit ... would someone just post some taint?