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Originally Posted by bully
Agree. Did a lot of dating as well and came up empty on anything long-term. eHarmony was a gold mine for dates and in most cases sex but the process of having sex with a girl and two days later trying to explain that you're just not into her became a headache and made me feel like an asshole. Now I don't even make an effort to date. So yeah I'm single.
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It was important for me to keep my head on straight when I was dating: so it was go sloooooow on the sex with a girl you are dating. Unless you just want free sex from her - then you are an asshole. Try to get to know them first, so that you don't feel like a jerk for just shopping.
For me a new relationship was about help with my children, and having someone who fit in with my family and my first wife's family, the grandparents of my children. Make some friends first.
I have been married three times (as most of you know the first two died, and I take care of the third). Establishing a relationship takes time and effort. For both my second and third marriage, it was someone that I had dated who referred me to my future partners.
I know, the guys need to have relief: so pay for it. If you are nice to them, the ladies love the business. But a wife does so much more for you than just sex, and if the sex with her stops she may be still contributing much to your life. Women can our friends, and much more than a sex partner.
I just can't seem to do without sex. It is fun, and it brings more than a satisfaction hit to the brain.
Learn to think things trough before acting. Let your big head to the thinking.
JR
I have a job, I AM married, and while I am NOT all that great in the sack I do have excess to industrial strength power tools. 
