Cathrine - Vi - Valerie... I got outted :( now what do I do?

[Guest070818-1]

Originally Posted by Azzbakwerdz

V I know we've not met, and it looks like we probably won't, I was hoping to eventually. Matter of fact I've not met anyone in the hobby or have any reviews, yet, I have my reasons,but I feel terrible for you about this. No one deserves what you have been handed, I don't care what they do. This is just wrong on so many levels.
Tinman is throwing out some solid advice no doubt.
There is no excuse for what your father said, none, a father should never say some hurtful shit like that to his daughter, ever! THAT is what I am sorry about for you the most, I hope you can forgive that, I don't care what you do, that was wrong of him. He's your dad, its his place to love you, not judge and berate you.
OMG forgiveness from who?? God? Absolutely, screw everyone else, you owe them nothing, who are they to judge you! Who here, who walking this earth is better than another and lived a sin free life? No one. Oh I get it, we all do, people don't approve of lifestyles or choices we all make, okay fine, but what this asshat did to you is just wrong. He will answer for it, no sin is greater than another in the eyes of God.
This is between you, God and your family, eff everyone else that is "offended", who are they to lay judgement on you or anyone else! A true believer, would love you, never speak against you for anything you've done, and ask to pray with you. Forgiveness is from God and you, no one else, he knows what we do, public confession? OK fine, speak with your pastor if he's yours, or another, tell him, ask him to pray with you, change your life, thats up to you, God forgives, thats the business he's in. No true believer will, nor would they judge you, only love you and pray with you IF you want them to, and when YOU ask for it. Eff that loser. I appreciate your courage and owning up, if you stay with this, be smart, stay sharp, good luck girly, hang in there!

Is it Sunday yet?

[Chung Tran]

Originally Posted by Golden Man

It is unclear if the guy actually attempted to see VI, or if he saw her ads and told her mother. We are assuming that he is it out of malice but we don't really know.

Vi said in post #39 that "he had a date", and she "didn't recognize him".. I take that to mean they engaged in coitus, but only Vi can affirm that.

I get the impression that Vi will hang it up soon.. I believe she said that, and her former BP posts hinted at that months ago.. so all the discourse about going under the radar is too little too late.. sadly..

[Golden Man]

Originally Posted by Chung Tran

Vi said in post #39 that "he had a date", and she "didn't recognize him".. I take that to mean they engaged in coitus, but only Vi can affirm that.

I get the impression that Vi will hang it up soon.. I believe she said that, and her former BP posts hinted at that months ago.. so all the discourse about going under the radar is too little too late.. sadly..

Chung I agree with you it's too late to go utr, I hope this works out for her somehow. But according to her he only told her mother, she is the one who out her personal info out on Bp and this site for the world to see, a very bad decision on her part in my opinion. I not as concerned about her provider life as I am about what she may have done herself and to her family by putting her real world info on blast. There is a reason why we have hobby names like Chung and Golden Man.

[TinMan]

Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

I don't get why outing him doesn't work.

Like, if I slap the shit out of one of you, I probably deserve to get slapped the shit out of back, right?

I'm confused.

What do you mean by "works"? Exactly how is returning the favor going to benefit her?

He's done his damage. If the guy is a nut, going after him in the manner you recommend may cause him to do something nuttier.

[Chung Tran]

Originally Posted by Golden Man

according to her he only told her mother, she is the one who out her personal info out on Bp and this site for the world to see, a very bad decision on her part in my opinion.

yes GM, it sure was a bad decision.. not to play internet Psychologist, but she probably did it to try and snatch back some control over the situation.. the outing was complete, the insults had started, so Vi responded with a modicum of defiance and bravo that was ill-timed.. I think she realizes that was not wise, but if it's a move of finality.. that is, she does quit the business after a short, final lap.. that BP outburst will ultimately be a blip in the scheme of moving on and past this chapter.

[CarMan1964]

Well, she is still advertising on Backbage as of this morning with 5 face pictures, two with her titties showing....

[Cooper Barrett]

I have been following this gal for some time and always said she was a train wreck waiting to happen. The OUTER has a "mean" streak. One that tells me that a not so nice way of "don't get mad, get even" is in line for the dickhead. How it's done shouldn't be discussed here but sitting next to his wife during church services would be funny as hell.

The best thing she can do is get the fuck out of the "hobby" for a while and save herself from legal/ disciplinary action as even a conspiracy charge would tear her military record or career apart.

She further needs to address this with the mods and ask for whatever they can do for her to be done. Pull her ads, ask for anything that remains to be removed from any website, and keep working to remove any trace of her every being in the "hobby".

If you don't think that she raised the eyebrows of her CO and they care about their people but being an accomplice after the fact is something they are not willing to do.

Personally I cannot understand her overall business model, no less her inability to follow one, no less her recent public actions, but guess I should give her a "shout out" for the entertainment value presented.

New this spring in theaters "Bad Hooker"

[Azzbakwerdz]

Originally Posted by Adrienne Baptiste

Is it Sunday yet?

Lol, yeah I know it was pretty deep, idk, all the crap being spewed hit me wrong, oh well, live and learn as they say. Girl gotta do what she gotta do.

[Tsmokies]

Some ladies can check out butt never leave. Some ladies just love fucking around

[sexpistol]

I'm so very sorry.The best advice I can suggest is to not use your real name. Post only faceless pictures and do your best to get rid of those pics from the web. I know that is a big job, but I used to businesses clean up their online reputations.

What you can do is bury these pics of you and references of your phone number and name. Start posting all kinds of good information and photos online under your name and number. Create videos, post pictures, articles, pdfs, etc. If you can push the hobby related info back past page 50 on Google, few people will ever look that far.

I hope that helps a little bit.

[Pipro69]

What a scumbag. Sorry for your troubles. You welcome to come to oklahoma ! Im always looking for beautiful spinners. Take care and best of luck.

[VVFIVE]

Wow...What a mess!! I feel bad for you Vi....Hope you get the strength in you to handle this!!!!

This too shall pass......

[BluesMan]

I'm really sorry this happened to you and hope this dipshit gets what's coming to him. I've thought about seeing you for a long time and maybe if you're still around at some point we can make that happen.

The thing that really disappoints me, is the negativity exhibited by some of the posters here. Whatever VI's done here in the past, I don't think she deserves the comments by a few posters on this thread. If you can't be supportive, helpful, or informative why comment at all? Just my opinion for what it's worth.

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

I don't get why outing him doesn't work.

Like, if I slap the shit out of one of you, I probably deserve to get slapped the shit out of back, right?

I'm confused.

I agree, she can seek forgiveness after he gets what he deserves, now thinking about it, if he wanted to "help" he would of reached out to her instead of snitching and hurting people.

[Chung Tran]

Originally Posted by biglatinmale

if he wanted to "help" he would of reached out to her instead of snitching and hurting people.

to be fair, we don't know that he didn't.. just like all the advice in this thread.. telling her to stop, and/or change her identity, go underground.. so far she is doing the opposite.. still advertising on BP in a "fuck you" manner, requesting a name change here to reflect her real name.

which is not necessarily bad, IMO.. if she goes out under her own terms, with parting shots of her own, taking control for a while.. hanging her head high, so to speak.. that is a losing long-term strategy, obviously, but as a denouement before retirement, I can see a certain satisfaction that can be gained.