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Originally Posted by WolfWhistle
I am not saying that it is wrong. But it is selfish and egocentric. I wanted the dude to realize that he was searching for a win for himself and that deep down inside he really doesn't care about anyone else UNLESS the decision(s) thwarted his objective to maximize pleasures for himself.
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And you would be dead wrong. I am with her still and never argue in front of the kids. EVER. When we do have to hash something out, I make sure the kids are not home. I pay for everything and anything that she wants to do. I work my ass off while she stays home. I come home to a filthy house, no cooked meal, and we NEVER have sex. We've talked it over and it's not changing. We are "friends." But she still gets upset if I even look at another woman, believe it or not. She has no place to go if we divorce other than cramming into her parent's little house with her BSC sister's family, who lives there, and her drama.
I COULD get a divorce. But then I would barely see my kids. I would have to pay for a place for her and the kids to live, all the while trying to get a place for myself. I can barely afford the place we have now the way things are. Also, some other dickhead would eventually be living with MY kids. I wouldn't be able to raise them except as a part-time parent. My family would be broken apart and I wouldn't be there as much as I need to be for my kids.
So, what do I do? Just jerk off for the rest of my life? Sorry, that does get old and I do get lonely after a while. A chick on the side? Then I'm just asking for drama and a possible attachment happening.
The solution (unfortunately): Hookers.
They can give me the illusion of a relationship and I can have sex without it leading to anything else.
I ask you this, Wolfwhistle. Why am I the selfish one, and NOT her? SHE is the one being unreasonable. She refuses to have sex and to even try to work things out, BUT she doesn't want me with other women either. My "selfishness" is keeping my family together and giving my kids a stable home.