AA Men

[disilene]

Originally Posted by jl11

I think the main question here is how many of these providers actually give a fuck about this multi page thread? Are they too busy with clientele and life that perhaps they don't have time to try to dictate and instigate shit with other providers like some of these ECCIE poster whores seem to be doing? I've seen many NBA providers and have had great experiences with them. The worst experience I ever had was from a non NBA provider who got dressed after a cbj without completion and told me that I should of paid her more for doing that. She had a terrible attitude and then met up with her black pimp/bf outside as I headed for me car. So is it fucking possible that you can have a bad experience regardless of the racial circumstances? Do I now put all non NBA providers on a bad pedestal bc of that experience? No I don't. Maybe she didn't care to see me bc I'm white, and she was white by the way. I'd of much rather her told me at the door, "hey I don't like white guys so get lost needledick". Lol. I'd of much rather had that than to of gone through what I went through in that session.

I think this perfectly illustrates the point of doing research on a girl, find out what she does and doesn't like....if it matches what you are looking for, then you will likely have a good time. All providers are not the same as all guys are not the same.

However, we can't tell anyone what they can and can't do with their own body.

You are right, there are NO NBA providers looking at this thread and saying, "Maybe I should reconsider my policies", lol.

We are however, getting the "I am going to drop in a spurious ad" providers showing up, lol, gotta love them!

[DallasRain]

quote----We are however, getting the "I am going to drop in a spurious ad" providers showing up, lol, gotta love them!


lol--silly boy...I am not living in Nola anymore!

I say live & let live!!

[heidilynnla]

Would have not would of. Even the AA clients know that! ( sarcasm)
If you aren't attracted to black men, that is your choice. If you try to justify that by sterotyping all black men as bad tippers and HIV carriers, you either don't know how to screen, or you are just plain ignorant.
You do have a right to see who you wish to see but it is offensive for the respectful black hobbyists to be stereotyped by the skin color they were born with.

[heidilynnla]

PS: I have met young guys, old guys, newbies, Indian, asian, black...etc. some NBA providers more ghetto than most AA men on Eccie.
It's rediculous. Look at yourself. What are you charging? How is your service and professionalism? Are you screening properly?
Are you attracting the doctors, lawyers, professionals? Perhaps the issue isn't black men, in general

Btw, I am a republican

[Big C-Dub]

I don't think all the black hobbyists are saying that all white providers should be forced to have black clients, not at all. I think we're just saying that seeing NBA ads and hearing the reasons why they're NBA (black guys are cheap, rough and thuggish) hurt our feelings and are unfair.

I think it would be a little better if we saw "no hispanics allowed" or "no indians allowed" or something like that, because then we would see that it is a race-based reason.

But it's the stereotypes that get to me and other black guys in the lifestyle.

The only good thing about this is that all the NBA ads are on BP, and as said above, BP tends to bring in thugs of all races. The sad thing for me is that here in Lafayette, almost all the white providers on there are NBA. But those ads are not on here or TER.

So to calm things down in this thread, as a black man, I would say to other black hobbyists is to avoid BP and look at ads here or other distinguished ad pages. You will more than likely find a provider willing to see you and have a better time than someone on BP who is either racist, bigoted or with an insecure pimp.

[Brmike1963]

+1 Well spoken.

[Nicolet]

Eloquently said, Big C-Dub!

[thegfegirls]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

You do have a right to see who you wish to see but it is offensive for the respectful black hobbyists to be stereotyped by the skin color they were born with.

It is also stereotyping when someone says , jewish people like money, irish love to fight, italians love to argue, indians love to drink, mexicans should go back to mexico, ALL are skin color stereotypes YET how many people in this thread has said those things before, so I say hypocrits will always see the error of the ways of OTHERS. I think everyone stereotypes and if you say you dont ,you are just full of shit.

Im not condoning any of it, nor meaning just you Heidi, but people in glass houses should not throw stones. Know whats worse than a racist? An anti-racist with an money agenda.

[heidilynnla]

I have admitted to being a bit judgemental, but never based on race or ethnicity. Please explain your last sentence, because "an anti-racist with a money agenda"...or as you out it an "anti -racist with an money agenda" doesn't make sense.
I probably stereotype based on speech, grammar, spelling, manners. You may call that stereotyping or a personal preference, but I admit it. As I said before, everyone has a personal preference. I don't; however, assume that people who can't speak proper English all have HIV or are cheap.
I don't have a money "agenda" so to speak. I have turned down most appointments over the past month because I have been busy working and simply haven't had the desire to see anyone.

BTW Irish don't love to fight, they love to drink.
Isn't Santa Indian? IJS

[ilovedatass]

I thought everyone had a money agenda here

[heidilynnla]

Originally Posted by ilovedatass

I thought everyone had a money agenda here

Most of the time. But understand, you are one of the neat hobbyists out there. Some ladies won't see you because of your age

[ilovedatass]

True. I haven't had any flat out say "you're under 35" or whatever their limit is. I've been with a few that have seen me and said they "normally" don't see any young guys. Back to the topic, I can imagine how its frustrating being stereotyped.

[midnite312004]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

Bottom line, you shouldn't judge guys on skin color alone. People are people. Everyone has a preference, but I feel when you say no AA, you are bulking all black men into a negative category. You can judge guys on manners, whether or not they have references, etc. When you sterotype a group based on skin color, you eliminate some really cool guys.
Veronica Moore once said that many people mistake race and class. (Something like that)
We don't want to be judged for being "whores", so who are we to judge someone by skin color? IJS

Very well put Ms. There was a past post about this and I put my .02 cents in. But don't let the other ladies suffer for one.

[MOCHAakaMOCHA]

Lol you thought being "lightskin" would win you points or something? YOU'RE STILL BLACK.


Race/ethnicity/skin color is an extremely UNIMPORTANT factor to/for me btw in regards to my personal dating or who I "date" in the hobby.

Originally Posted by lat

I been kind of looking on Backpage and other sites even a few on here and I have notice more and more woman , Even some of the AA women, are posting no BLK guys or AA men !

Now I am not trying to start anything messy, I just want to get a couple of views on this matter, even when I have said I am very light skin in color , they still say no ! Just y'all views ....

[thegfegirls]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

I have admitted to being a bit judgemental, but never based on race or ethnicity. Please explain your last sentence, because "an anti-racist with a money agenda"...or as you out it an "anti -racist with an money agenda" doesn't make sense.

BTW Irish don't love to fight, they love to drink.
Isn't Santa Indian? IJS

Just thought I would correct your mistype since you were so kind as to point mine out? glass houses?

and I am guessing you are Irish and thus you can stereotype the race for being drinkers, kinda like the only folks allowed to use the N word are those who are AA? My goodness is this rabbit hole deep huh? lol.

Anyways to answer your question, an anti-racist who is only anti-racist for the purpose of business is not only a racist in sheeps clothing, but also a dangerous bigot. People know where they stand with a skinhead because at least he wears the truth of himself on his arm. I just hear alot of "I love the AA man" talk here from alot of folks who choose not to spend time with them unless it helps their booking schedule, I may be wrong and I would love to hear from all of you white ladies who are married to AA males or maybe your daughters BF or husband is AA? Seeing as Louisiana is half AA, the chances are 50/50 that your significant other is A right? so of the half dozen of the white providers with all the AA love in their hearts who posted here, 3 should have an AA significant other if they are in fact "equal oppourtunity" ladies yes?

And to answer your other question, yes he is Native American, and he has 2 beautiful AA children as well.