Question for the Gents? And the Ladies?

[Guest012418-1]

Originally Posted by Lena Duvall

Fascinating! I guess the whole 2-reference verification system which thousands of escorts and clients all over the country depend on is all of a sudden illegitimate and irrelevant based on who discusses it... even though "references" or specifically withholding references was a point of discussion in the original post.



The OP asked questions and got answers.

Yes, other methods of verification exist. But the use of other verification sites make up just a percentage of how clients choose to screen. And provider references are a major factor. Here I was thinking one of the purposes of this board was sharing information on which companions or clients are good to see. But if the opinion of strangers don't matter, why do clients read and write reviews again? And why do the operators of this site charge good money for access to the opinions of strangers?

The more of Lena I read the more I like! Again.., well said!
Analytical thinking articulated ....

[Guest012418-1]

Originally Posted by MsMajicMouth

I'm with P and the others on this....provider refs ARE important to some of us. Maybe I look at it a little differently as I play primarily in SBC, a very HOT zone. We, as a community, have tightened up on this part of the hobby....we reference People, not just handles. We match phone #s, use security questions, etc. I admit it sounds extreme, but it has kept us all safer and out of trouble. And we, the top GFE ladies in town, have made it quite clear that if you visit our town, you are expected to play by our rules. If you don't, then no, we won't provide or accept references from you...ie, using backpage specifically in SBC is a huge no no...it's a risk to all of us. If you don't agree, that's your choice of course. You just won't be playing with me or mine :-)
Nor is petty drama or undercutting other ladies accepted in SBC...this is how the strength of community helped us... communication among hobbyists and providers brings bad mojo like this out pretty quick
As for calling out bad behavior, well hell yes! If someone opens the door, why not? I've publicly called out people who have been disrespectful or played games. Isn't that what this board is for? We each have our own private areas of discussion, but some warrant a broader audience.

My 2 cents

Majic

Excuse my ignorance but what is SBC?

[Guest012418-1]

Originally Posted by Seeking ~P

Thank you Majic!

As far as I'm concerned the OP and the WK's who agree
w/her behaviour shouldn't be In this hobby.

The hobby Is a serious game.

We as providers can never be too safe!!!!

The guys should do their research on providers
and providers should do whatever Is necessary for safety.

So yes when a provider (the OP) opens the door she should remember
the door swings both ways ....

Yes it does swing both ways and yes it is a serious industry... Not a game as far as I'm concerned.
So the door swinging both ways will be clearly understood when one belittles you in return... Correct?

[Guest012418-1]

Originally Posted by addison_scott

Now normally i'm not one to get into these little pissing matches but i've had this issue this week with SEVERAL providers, and Slayde, i've given you TWO references WITH DETAILS to help you out but yet I never got one back. Don't worry, i'll continue to give them because I want to keep my gentlemen happy, even if it means them wanting to see another lady.

Carry on.....

Let me know if anyone else needs a reference :-)

My apologies AS if I didn't get back with you. It is not that I don't give references b/c I DO! I admit that I suck at staying on top of emails and PM's! Calling or texting is much better for me. Please know that I was not trying to ignore you. Thanks for your constructive criticism. Since one doesn't always see self it sometimes takes the input from an outside source for one to finally see self and attempt to correct one's flaw, fault or behavior. Again my apologies and thanks!

[Guest012418-1]

Originally Posted by Seeking ~P

I'm the only one responsible for 'MY PURSE' as each and everyone
of us providers are
but If I can take 3 minutes of my time to help you w/your purse and safety I'd like the same courtesy back. I don't mind helping any verified providers even If you don't like me or you're not a favorite on my list I WILL STILL GIVE A PROVIDER A REFERENCE!

I understand a reference Is a courtesy and not mandatory to give one
but If you're gonna ask other providers for references then you should give them back or don't ask for them If you're not gonna give them

Since you have so much time on your hands to highlight, dissect, split hairs and repost can you please point out exactly where it states that 'I' was the one asking another provider for a ref in regards to this thread or OP?

[Guest012418-1]

Originally Posted by MOCHAakaMOCHA

Ain't right but .... selfish hos be selfish.
Her ass looking at your ref request like (I don't fuck with you): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cZaJYDPY-YQ *start at 0:41 for the actual song to start*

Now that was toooo funny.... I love that song but never got to see the video.... Thanks lmao

[Guest012418-1]

Originally Posted by Seeking ~P

Yep ......abandoned the threAD that she started

Charlie was a smart man ....

[Guest012418-1]

Originally Posted by addison_scott

She's just on the Mississippi board begging now...
This is the first time I've actually been ticked off, it's not just her this week that won't respond, and knowing these ladies got the message I sent... I'm sure if it was me offering them a gentleman they'd respond real quick..!

Such is life.... just as quick as I thought I was mad, it's truly not even worth it. Time to move along and make some people smile!!

Begging ???
Yep time to move along
I said my peace
Thanks again

[Guest012418-1]

Originally Posted by Wiley64

I don't even know slayde I have no dogs in this hunt. Im an equal opportunity asshole. I treat all with respect and expect all to do the same. The op asked a question and I as well as others have no idea what was happening in the background. The coed area is for adult discussions and as such you discuss things like adults. If you choose to be rude to others then you shall be treated appropriately. If you have issues with someone you should take those discussions privately.

Precisely the case. Not one knew or concluded what was happening in the background but hopefully I have treated all posts appropriately and the finale will reveal the true scenario that was completely misdirected. But I must say some good came out of this chaos... Thanks AS

[Guest012418-1]

Originally Posted by SknyDiva

Where you at chic? You stir up your own stank and run away. Like blaming your dog for that fart you just let out.

Yo! Wiley is this on topic? Am I doing it correctly? Chime in

I'm right here!!!!! Here I am!!!!!!
Goddamnit Diva you old dog... You stank!!!!

[NolaStarlett]

The purpose of the forums on sites like this is to have a safe place to "Exchange" information.
References are an easy way to aid in staying safe. But more importantly, is a way for WOMEN IN THIS INDUSTRY TO COMMUNICATE. The industry before the internet was dangerous, man driven, and gross.
Women can be independent, as well as maintain the level of privacy they choose.

Gone are the days of walking the track and fearing some serial killer, or god forbid Pimp is gonna get ya..

REFERENCES AID IN PREVENTING THAT! LOOK A HOBBYIST IS GONNA BANG LOTS OF LADIES OK! ITS A HOBBY!! We don't have to be bffs or join Oprah's book club, but let's communicate and have each others back.. Because one day you just might be saved by this site and the tools provided today to stay safe.

Love all y'all!! Xoxo