Looking for a relationship with a provider?

[ItalianaPrincess]

Being a provider is what they do, not who they are. Relationships are about who, not what.

Big Daddy Moose, well said.


Some ppl just can't get past the "what". It's very sad.


Maybe this thread would shed some more light as well: http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=257178&highli ght=handle+relationship

[pmdelites]

as a link [saves copying/pasting]
http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?...e+relationship


and, btw, IP, i am NOT trailing you.
we dont have that kind of a relationship!!
... yet :^) :^) :^)

[Tina Marie]

Most of you talk about providers like we are the plague or are incapable of feeling things...makes me sad. OMG....an emotion!

+1

[Tina Marie]

I'd be open to a long term relationship. But you'd have to accept the fact that I'm not at a place in my life where I'm going to quit providing anytime soon. I was in a long term relationship a few years ago that didn't end good. I was up front and honest about the fact that I wasn't going to quit providing anytime in the foreseeable future. He said he was ok with that. However, after about three months of dating he started becoming very jealous and controlling. He was always trying to get into my work phone. He even started contacting my clients. He tried to "out" me to my friends, family, and real world employer. I ended up having to get a restraining order placed on his crazy ass. To make a long story short, very few clients are really looking to date a provider. But rather, they're looking for a provider they can "save".

If you're interested in a long term relationship, we would need to have a few sessions first. If we hit it off we can go from there. But just remember I'm looking for a boyfriend, not a savior. Also, I don't date white men.

[TGS]

Thank you all I have learned a lot. Thank you for the pm's and thank you for all the advice I am glad to have so many opinions on This issue.

[blaeese]

Reese is right on.

[Laura Lynn]

I could never date someone I met in the hobby for fear with every arguement my profession or how we met would be thrown in my face. And evey gent has said they would NEVER do that, but we all know better.

Also, how could you want to date a provider knowing that she is with other men, pleasing THEM?

[Guest082216-1]

I dated a provider and never once used her occupation against her. So don't judge all men by your own experiences.

[Guest020720]

Originally Posted by Bubba3452

I dated a provider and never once used her occupation against her. So don't judge all men by your own experiences.

You make a great point bubba.

Which is why when I mentioned the topic of pressure, whether percieved or implied...I probably should have mentioned imagined as well.

We could easily feel that a man who could "accept" us as an active provider might always be comparing what he might be like in comparison...or he might not say why don't u do this w\ me...so on so forth....

That shit could really be all in our hads cuz a guy who would really be that understanding and not jealous or possesive is kind of too good to be true.

[txcwby6]

Originally Posted by TGS

I know this sounds stupid and I am going to catch hell for this but I have been thinking about this for awhile. I want a relationship with a provider not for freebies like most of you are thinking but as someone who in my life. Let me explain my reasoning. The providers that I have meet all seem to have a better understanding of the world be it good or bad. Most seem to push all bull$hit aside to get to what is real. I don't know I know I am going to get creamed for this post but ohhhh welll pm me

Fear not! The exact thing you desire is available in hourly increments!

[Iaintliein]

Originally Posted by txcwby6

Fear not! The exact thing you desire is available in hourly increments!

Yes! I've had some of the most profound relationships of my life here within the span of just a few hours!

[berkleigh]

IMHO -

It has never worked out...for me.

I vote NO.

But I can honestly say, I am only good for a few hours, overnight or weekend.

I am not relationship material. Point Blank.

[Guest020720]

Originally Posted by berkleigh

IMHO -

It has never worked out...for me.

I vote NO.

But I can honestly say, I am only good for a few hours, overnight or weekend.

I am not relationship material. Point Blank.

I don't even offer overnight or weekend anymore.

I can't even pull it off that long these days. (maybe I'm that impatient or maybe it's because I don't have any clients that are regular enough for me to trust on a date that long. I don't feel like dealing with someone I don't know very well for that long. For me, shorter increments is better.)

[Guest082216-1]

Oh, I would not say I was not jealous sometimes. There were times that I was. But, I knew what she did before we dated. I am older as well. She is over 40 and I am 56. I am married, so that help set some realistic boundries for the realtionship. Despite my reservations. I saw enough in her to know that I could really care about her and I took her as she was, a whole person. A person with flaws and inperfections but also a very caring, sweet person. And, it did not happen over night. First we were basicly FBs then it matured over the months into a deeper relationship. It is possible, though sometimes very hard, to accept a person for what they are and do. I think that is as true for men as it is you ladies.

If I ever come across another woman like her, I would try for a relationship again. It also might not last, but at this time and place in my life, I am willing to try. You never know when the right person might walk into your life. I refuse to allow how I meet someone or what they do define them as a whole person. I have my own baggage. Who am I to judge someone else? You are who you are. If that happens to mesh with who I am, I would be a fool to not see if there was more there to discover.

I do agree this hobby world does complicate things. But not all relationships have to be "The One". I will take 6 months of happiness and risk some pain than close my eyes and heart and miss out on the possibility of meeting someone special.

I guess I am just an old, silly, hopeless romantic. :-)

Originally Posted by tntangie

You make a great point bubba.

Which is why when I mentioned the topic of pressure, whether percieved or implied...I probably should have mentioned imagined as well.

We could easily feel that a man who could "accept" us as an active provider might always be comparing what he might be like in comparison...or he might not say why don't u do this w\ me...so on so forth....

That shit could really be all in our hads cuz a guy who would really be that understanding and not jealous or possesive is kind of too good to be true.

[berkleigh]

Originally Posted by tntangie

I don't even offer overnight or weekend anymore.

I can't even pull it off that long these days. (maybe I'm that impatient or maybe it's because I don't have any clients that are regular enough for me to trust on a date that long. I don't feel like dealing with someone I don't know very well for that long. For me, shorter increments is better.)

Its getting harder and harder for me to pull it off...

Especially when you try to keep it simple and they don't respect boundaries!

I have to be one of the most verbally, honest Providers out here and I swear, I am wayyy taken advantage of...

Romantic?
....oh LOL...I can be for the moment until you tell me you have feelings...then I bounce quicker than a ball

You can NOT lose site of what this is...

I may make you feel something your signifigant other doesn't but its only for the moment...thats it...

If I am interested, I will let you know...and hasn't happened yet in 6 years for me.

I don't allow it and frankly I am not interested in a relationship until I am settled.



Oh well...good times though