Disrespect

[Guest013121]

Originally Posted by BigMikeinKC

Gemma, I think the few who are asshats are in the minority. They are just more vocal, playing that they are tough when anonymous. I think the majority of the men on the board are decent and respectful.

And, I think you're probably right. I'm just confused why these woman hating guys would partake in the hobby...

[ElumEno]

Originally Posted by FrankieP

If the forum guidelines were enforced more often we could easily rid ourselves of quite a bit of those problem people. Seems like that lack of enforcement makes others think they can be just as disrespectful and get away with it.

I understand that at times it seems that way... but in reality it is not that easy.
Personally I believe that our local mod team is doing a great job in enforcing the guidelines as instructed.

The guidelines are not as black and white as they seem, and even though the wording of the guidelines have not changed,
the interpretations and rulings on how to enforce them are always changing.

Just when a moderator believes that he understands how the owners of the board want a guideline enforced
along comes a change which might be completely opposite from how it was enforced before.

If you still feel that the guidelines are not being enforced correctly them maybe you should try walking a block or two in their (the mods) shoes.

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But I warn you... once you take the red pill you can not go back.

[FrankieP]

Originally Posted by ElumEno

I understand that at times it seems that way... but in reality it is not that easy.
Personally I believe that our local mod team is doing a great job in enforcing the guidelines as instructed.

The guidelines are not as black and white as they seem, and even though the wording of the guidelines have not changed,
the interpretations and rulings on how to enforce them are always changing.

Just when a moderator believes that he understands how the owners of the board want a guideline enforced
along comes a change which might be completely opposite from how it was enforced before.

If you still feel that the guidelines are not being enforced correctly them maybe you should try walking a block or two in their (the mods) shoes.

But I warn you... once you take the red pill you can not go back.

You make a good point. And there is an obvious ebb and flow in how the rules are interpreted/enforced. But some guys are just screaming for the boot. And while disagreements and sometimes blunt conversation can be heathy for the board, some guys go well over that line and the board would be a better place without them. IMHO

[Kshunter]

Originally Posted by Gemma34

And, I think you're probably right. I'm just confused why these woman hating guys would partake in the hobby...

Aw, come on Gemma, you're smart, you already know why. It's so they can feel like big men. "I can be an asshole, degrade these women, and at the end of the day I pull out the cash and they still fuck me."

I admit to having had one of those moments years ago. A cheerleader that I had lusted after all through high school had started stripping at a titty bar not too far from my house. I tipped her, bought a couple of dances, and ended up paying her $50 for a BJ in my car. There was a little bit of 'look at us now' in my head. Then she said, in a smart ass fashion, "How do you feel having to pay me for that?" I laughed and told her that the $50 was nothing to me, I'd make another 50 before she got the taste of me out of her mouth.

But that's the exception and I'm much older and wiser now.

[Guest013121]

Sigh... Sad but true. Thanks for all the responses.

[i'va biggen]

Originally Posted by Kshunter

Aw, come on Gemma, you're smart, you already know why. It's so they can feel like big men. "I can be an asshole, degrade these women, and at the end of the day I pull out the cash and they still fuck me."

I admit to having had one of those moments years ago. A cheerleader that I had lusted after all through high school had started stripping at a titty bar not too far from my house. I tipped her, bought a couple of dances, and ended up paying her $50 for a BJ in my car. There was a little bit of 'look at us now' in my head. Then she said, in a smart ass fashion, "How do you feel having to pay me for that?" I laughed and told her that the $50 was nothing to me, I'd make another 50 before she got the taste of me out of her mouth.

But that's the exception and I'm much older and wiser now.

We all can be assholes mine was...
At a dance when another guys GF came to the car for a drink, and ended up giving me a BJ.
When she went back inside she gave the guy a big kiss. could I keep my mouth shut? NO

[Guest123017]

Originally Posted by Gemma34

And, I think you're probably right. I'm just confused why these woman hating guys would partake in the hobby...

It's all rooted in a compensation issue - overcompensation, pure and simple - Alfred Adler wrote a bunch on this behavior...

And the hobby arena is a great place for these types to act out due to its 'discrete' nature...

And it sucks when any lady has to be on the receiving end of said 'hateful' behavior. Hopefully karma will step in and do what karma does...

[DrewBerryMoore]

Originally Posted by Unique_Carpenter

But I would like to thank DBM for giving Savannah a severe case of giggles very early this morning, that woke me up for another round of smiles.

glad I could help bud. I have no expectations on people's responses and have no care how people express themselves here. If I don't care for the vulgarity easy way to stop hearing such nonsense I'd use the ignore option. I think people should start exercising that rather than uselessly complain.

I use that as an example. Vulgarity and utter crudeness is something I don't mind hearing from time to time. For others just do the above and we will all be a bit more satisfied with or time here.

How the above warrants lashback I dunno. But I'm sure I will be receiving some. I've grown used to it in my years of experience. It's all the same everywhere. Why would it be different anywhere else? For all the unawares, that's called a preemptive strike. And I'm having a laugh now.

[LongTimeMonger]

Good topic and good conversation about this. As for me, I love women, big, little, short or tall, light, dark and in between. I'm fascinated by women and I love you all. I have the most fun just talking and getting to know you girls. The orgasm at the end, while wonderful, isn't the best part for me, it's all the talking, petting, flirting, kissing and exploring. I always treat ladies like a lady, not only is it how I was raised, it has almost never led to anything but wonderful sessions. I guess with anonymity comes the perceived ability to be an ass. Shameful and unnecessary. Kudos to all you girls putting yourselves out there.

[Guest021217]

Because its a whore board

[bigcockpussylicker]

Originally Posted by BigMikeinKC

Gemma, I think the few who are asshats are in the minority. They are just more vocal, playing that they are tough when anonymous. I think the majority of the men on the board are decent and respectful.

and they are few, but this thread is a tribute to them.. they say shit that gets your attention
example
10 guys tell you that your new hairdo is "great"
1 guy says something rude, even a "back-handed compliment"

thats the guy you remember

this thread proves that system works

so many guys in this thread, myself included, saying nice things to you and you get upset about the rare,"your fat/old" remarks...
then you make a thread trying to understand why guys say that shit?
same reason you got a great set of implants....duh

[Guest013121]

Originally Posted by Dorthy_Monroe

Because its a whore board

I don't give a rats ass about it being a whore board. The ladies aren't in this hobby to be disrespected. I don't get treated this way in my RL and I sure as hell won't stand for it in my workplace. If it means less or no interaction to get to that point then that's what I'll do.

[WMJ4657]

Originally Posted by LongTimeMonger

Good topic and good conversation about this. As for me, I love women, big, little, short or tall, light, dark and in between. I'm fascinated by women and I love you all. I have the most fun just talking and getting to know you girls. The orgasm at the end, while wonderful, isn't the best part for me, it's all the talking, petting, flirting, kissing and exploring. I always treat ladies like a lady, not only is it how I was raised, it has almost never led to anything but wonderful sessions. I guess with anonymity comes the perceived ability to be an ass. Shameful and unnecessary. Kudos to all you girls putting yourselves out there.

Very well put. Treat all the ladies right and you will be rewarded with a great experience and if not mark that lady off your list. It's ok to state the reason you are not seeing her again, just do so in a respectful manner. No reason to be an ass about it.

An old saying don't shit in your own backyard!!! This being guy's hobby backyard they might think about it!!

[Savannah Moon]

Have an amazingly wonderful day

[Guest013121]

Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

and they are few, but this thread is a tribute to them.. they say shit that gets your attention
example
10 guys tell you that your new hairdo is "great"
1 guy says something rude, even a "back-handed compliment"

thats the guy you remember

this thread proves that system works

so many guys in this thread, myself included, saying nice things to you and you get upset about the rare,"your fat/old" remarks...
then you make a thread trying to understand why guys say that shit?
same reason you got a great set of implants....duh

I got my implants because I had teeny tiny breasts before and I asked for boobs so I got boobs. I appreciate all the nice things said to and about me, though not the reason for my thread. Yes, I would like to understand why some guys feel the need to disrespect ladies they don't even know. I'm not talking about some unfriendly banter, I'm speaking more along the lines of full blown disrespect. If this continues to be a problem, myself and many ladies will not be interacting on this board much longer. I thought maybe if we tackled this disrespect issue head on then we may see some changes, or maybe we won't...either way the thread serves its purpose.