Gents here is your chance, ladies pay attention

[steeltush]

I agree that the Austin ladies that I have seen are exceptional in their customer efforts. I also agree with the general incall neatness and hygiene comments, although I have not experienced either problem. Wet hair isn't a problem for me, because it says the lady made the effort but didn't have another 30 minutes to dry her hair.

Most ladies here are exceptional psychologists in quickly determining what we desire, and we are as different and varied in personality and desires as they are. Understanding that a personal connection may differ is important for both clients and providers.

I notice some reluctance from Austin providers to provide feedback to me that may make it a more pleasurable experience for them. I may not have always been clear that I value their pleasure also, so my communication skills probably need improvement. I also understand that the lady may not always be in the mood, and we are paying for a level of sexual fantasy that includes our sexual prowess. Unreal sexual response from the lady is distracting for me and others here.

I haven't been overly active here, because there have been times that the emotional connection has been as strong or stronger than the sexual one. It is corny and unrealistic to profess a deep connection, and most ladies here are rightly concerned about a client desiring something more. For me that says that the Austin ladies here are both beautiful and psychological geniuses.

[Dagny D.E.W.]

Originally Posted by ketro

For security purposes, if we've never met before, don't allow yourself to be alone with wherever I put my wallet. I usually leave everything but my driver's license and the exact fee at home when I hobby, but sometimes I have my wallet and/or cellphone with me in the room with you. Leave a 3 foot margin around wherever I put my pants and don't go anywhere near it.

I thought this thread was dead but read 2 posts I hadn't seen. I agree with staying away from your wallet. 2 stories:
I once went to outcall at his place, asked to see something and he had hidden his wallet, he had already told me he was going to take a shower as soon I got there. Once he was finished he looked at me sheepishly and I said, "do not put it back silly, take it with you to the bathroom."

Then the gal that get me started FBSM said to put the guy in the shower and go answer phone calls for the next appts. I don't for 2 reasons, it is his time but mostly if he is behind a shower curtain and his stuff is in the closet, he doesn't know if I'm in the front room on the phone or the closet with the wallet
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I don't ever want anyone to think I have been close to the wallet. So I stay near the shower. LOL

Thanks for the additional thoughts.

[Dagny D.E.W.]

I also promised to post a guys' answer if he didn't want to post it here OR doesn't post at all. I got this today:


Quote:

I'm very shy during most of my session, ladies keep talking ask question


1) low response rate to appt request when using the prefered method of communication.
2) being told to be ontime "so the hobbist ahead of me can leave" Really!!!
3) Ladies put away the bongs or other related items
4) if you advertise as 420 friendly I will not see you
5) Bring back pussy hair
6) have a selection of condoms

Thanks (anon)
____________stop quote.

I think your list has some VERY valid points. I would like to address them.

about the questions. We are just trying to make a connection with you (and we have to do that quickly) so that your time isn't like slam, bam, thank you sir.

If you think the questions are too personal then say "I like to keep discussions to my pets, vacations, books, movies, TV, sports or weather." (this is what I try to keep it at) Of course that goes both ways we don't want to tell our personal stuff either.

1. I don't understand this one either. How do they get appts if they don't call back.

2. Sounds like they are booking too close. I know lots of ladies who HATE IT when a guy shows up early. Are they checking to see if someone else is just leaving? I know it sometimes is not possible to see them if 10 minutes early I have had them arrive 20 min. early. It really helps when a 1pm is the same for both. (he later said that she said don't come even 1 minute early you might see the other guy leave. WHAT????? are you kidding that she doesn't need a minute to go to the bathroom, change the sheets, etc?)

3. WHOA! That is one I didn't think needed to be said but good one!
4. I can understand that.
5. I am with you I don't want to look down and see a 12 year old pussy but the gals love shaved balls for a good reason, some guys love the shaved pussy.
6. I can see that too. I will pass it one.

Thanks for Writing. I hope that many ladies will learn better ways to make it better for ya'll w/o making the mistakes.
thanks
happy hobbying!

[austin_voy]

Like the others, BO. BUT, also some strong scents. A light spritzing of a gentle perfume is nice, but I've almost been knocked over in the mall but some "chick" who is trying to conduct chemical warfare.

A little consideration. If I have BO, kind of suggest "let's take a shower." If it's that bad, oh hell yes. And as far as I'm concerned, that's on the clock since it's my problem, not her's.

If you don't advertise PSE, please don't shout and moan like one. I'll be honest, I can't always "do the trick." Don't ring a dozen times when I don't even pull the bell cord.

If we're going to DFK, do it with enjoyment. If you don't kiss, don't.

Tell me if something's wrong. If I'm doing something, tell me. If you're having a bad day, tell me about it and maybe we can do something to "fix" that. ASIC, it doesn't have to be ALL about me (but it does have to be about me, if you catch what I'm saying).

Let's have fun. I see enough patients who are having ZERO fun. I work in the ER a lot and we'll just stop there.

On the other side, I want to be considerate of you. "Stop, I don't want to do that," isn't an insult. Maybe you like your nips nibbled on a little, but I'll take "fuck, that hurts."

Maybe I'm seeing you because life IS treating me a little shitty (or more than a little), but I'm not going to rag to you about every little thing. That's not fair to you. That's for my psychologist to work with.

I want to be honest with you. I hope you don't mind me saying "that's not working," because sometimes it isn't. Let's try something else.

I'll shave, avoid cologne (well, never use it), be freshly showered and run the A/C the whole time I'm driving there. I'll leave my donation as you request. I'll be discrete.

[Dagny D.E.W.]

Originally Posted by austin_voy

I'll shave, avoid cologne (well, never use it), be freshly showered and run the A/C the whole time I'm driving there. I'll leave my donation as you request. I'll be discrete.

ding, Ding, DING!!!!! YEAH! we have a winner guy right here, that is mostly what we want for a great time. LOL

Thanks to everyone for giving all your points. I'm writing them down and hope all ladies here in Austin are..... I should let other gals know?

[vtxghost]

1. Put the dog in another room, or outside, before I get there. I came to see you , not the dog.
2. No previous BJ breath/smell. There is a unique smell when there has been constant BBBJ previous, like skin friction. Why would I want to DFK someone who has the smell of of the previous clients BJ.
3. Being sweet and glad to see me is OK, but overly sugary is a turnoff (including the overuse of baby, honey, sugar, darling, etc...) And don't talk to me like I'm a child (Would daddy/papi like me to kiss it?).
4. If you don't feel like it then please cancel. Nothing worse than being with someone who is going through the motions. I know misery likes company but now I have paid for a session that neither one of us enjoyed.
5. I think someone already mentioned overscented perfume. Its hard to get back to the job smelling like womans perfume.
6. Me personally, I like when you just get out of the shower. Hell, answer the door dripping wet, in a towel, with a little bounce and I am a happy guy. A few providers have done that and made my day.
7. On the flip side, ask us how you should be dressed. I like a normally dressed woman as opposed to answering the door in teddy's and bra/panties (especially at a notel incall). I know you like to look sexy, however I like the course of undressing a lady, and of course, pulling off the panties (TMI?). Jeans and a t-shirt maybe?
8. Last one. Is there a rule that you can not have a drink at the session? I'm not an alcoholic but I like to sit, relax, say hi and have a relaxing drink. Vodka during the day, whiskey at night. I would even get a longer session, but let's not mix drama into the conversation.

My 2 cents.

[ThatHarleyGuy]

1) I ask that the lady understand that for many of us, this is the high point of our day, maybe our week. We go through choosing, requesting, screening, arranging work schedules, maybe cover stories for our absence from home or work. Some may have squirreled away money for weeks to have the private stash for the session. This is why NCNS or last minute cancellations/postponements are so hated by the gents.

The lady has only to open her inbox, select who she wants to see, when she wants to see him. I understand the gent is one of many, but don't let me see that fact. Little kills the session or a appointment request faster than to be treated like another widget coming down the packaging line. I once knew a lady that referred to her time with others as charity work. Not out of attitude, but so that when she would mention she had charity work to do that morning, could we do the afternoon instead, as an example, it gave the illusion that the hobby was a hobby, or something she did for fun, and was choosing to take time to spend with him. It worked great. Everybody thought she was very low volume, but she wasn't.

2) To echo several others, don't be fake. If I know you are obviously being fake, it actually tells me you are NOT enjoying yourself, and wish you weren't here with me. That's a bit of a mood killer, don't you think? I realize she isn't going to enjoy every person she meets, but the blatant porn style rants and outcrys just give her away. I know every woman thinks she can fake it. Experienced men can tell most of the time. Tell me what you want different to improve the time for you. As long as it doesn't include 2 midgets, a farret, and motor oil, I'll likely try it.

3) Don't be under the influence of anything. I'll leave if I suspect it. Two things, you had to be high to be with me, and second, there are likely illegal substances only compounding possible LE interests.

[RALPHEY BOY]

Most of the girls I see I do my home work on, I seldom have issues to worry about or distract me. However there have times when I did not like this or that.

1. TCB, TCB, TCB...I NEVER mind being canceled on just try to please give me at least an hour..nothing worse than 10 min after time you text or call me with some lame excuse, just say I cant make today, can we re-schedule, if its our first meeting then chances of me trying again are slim to none

2. I could care less if you smoke cigarettes, but please if I come to you smoke outside,smoke hurts my eyes and i hate smelling like it

3. Please do not start announcing time left, I feel like I am watching Houston Wrestling in 1978, when the time keeper would start announcing '5 min left in the match'. Us guys know exactly how much time is left.


4. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER EVER say this phrase( cum for me baby) unless its 59 minutes into the hour session, I will never return again. if I want an Amsterdam Provider I will fly there

5. please keep some Lube handy,so many times a session was ruined due to no lube, nothing worse than trying to stick your condom covered dick in dry pussy.

6. if I come to your incall please have clean towels,

7. I dont care if the TV is on or not I frankly like some background noise,

8. No need to post in your weekly ad or any ad "you wont be disappointed"

[ThatHarleyGuy]

Oh I forgot two,

4) TCB, Do NOT list contact methods you don't check. Having your ad full of P411, email, phone, and PM suggestions to never check anything but phone is extremely frustrating. It makes the lady appear unresponsive, fully booked, or simply unprofessional and I'll stop trying to reach you. If you want to advertise you're on P411, but aren't going to check P411 requests, disable requests on your account. If you aren't goin to respond to PM's on Eccie, disable them. If you aren't going to check email, don't list it. If you want all contact to be by phone, only list that info. Noting whether texts are welcome is helpful as well.

5) Showers. I greatly appreciate being able to shower after the session as much as you want me to shower before. But it is useless if the only cleaning products are flower, vanilla, cocoa butter scented products. Please have non-scented product for the gent to clean up with.

[sixxbach]

I don't think I can add much but I thought of one.

It would be a great help when you give the directions to your incall to list the building number ( I have been to some complexes where the building numbers do not match the apartment number. ex: building 5 has apts 600-etc). Also would be greatly appreciated to say if your incall is at the right, left, or middle section of that building. Oh yeah, for your fat clients like me, let us know if its first, second, or third floor. Not only will this minimize sweat during those hot 100 degree summer days, it also keeps neighbors from noticing hardlegs walking around looking for your incall at all hours of the day.

In fairness, I will also trim my balls. I forget that they are hairy.

sixx

[Guest061511-2]

It would also be cool, imo, if a guy told me what he would like for me to wear or any special requests/ fantasy he has. This would be soooo helpful in making the most out of time together. We are good at our jobs but not mind readers! I have costumes, dresses, gowns, lingerie, etc.

[Guest061511-2]

Woops! Wrong thread. And No...I am not drinking lol!

[WorknMan]

Originally Posted by BritneyBangs

It would also be cool, imo, if a guy told me what he would like for me to wear or any special requests/ fantasy he has. This would be soooo helpful in making the most out of time together. We are good at our jobs but not mind readers! I have costumes, dresses, gowns, lingerie, etc.

Hi Britney,

This is an excellent suggestion, but....

Well, you see... I have a bit of a bra & panty fetish, and always like for ladies to wear them. And perfume as well And I know that most ladies are open to those kinds of requests, but I don't necessarily feel comfortable with bringing that kind of thing up with a lady that I've never seen before. I mean, I'm sure that 99 out of 100 of them won't take offense to it, but knowing my luck, I'll get that one exception lol

So, if you're really open to that kind of thing, after the appointment has been set, why not ask, 'Do you have any wardrobe/other requests?' Then that lets the guy know that it's ok to broach the subject.

PS - Just saw your subsequent post. If you posted to the wrong thread, then so did I. Thanks a lot!

[Guest101618]

Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY

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5. please keep some Lube handy,so many times a session was ruined due to no lube, nothing worse than trying to stick your condom covered dick in dry pussy.
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Ralphey, you are so on the money with this one. What is it with women who know they are tend to run dry, but don't have lube available? It starts to become obvious that it is getting painful for the provider, and that just makes Mr. Wiggly go limp.

Should I start carting around lube in my kit as well. I've already started bringing my own condoms so I can assure us of having some with a good fit.

[WorknMan]

Originally Posted by Rover14

Ralphey, you are so on the money with this one. What is it with women who know they are tend to run dry, but don't have lube available? It starts to become obvious that it is getting painful for the provider, and that just makes Mr. Wiggly go limp.

Should I start carting around lube in my kit as well. I've already started bringing my own condoms so I can assure us of having some with a good fit.

LOL yeah, and also #4:

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER EVER say this phrase( cum for me baby) unless its 59 minutes into the hour session

That is an instant boner killer