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Suzel · 01-11-2010, 11:16 AM

When I was a young poor college student, I met someone online who seemed nice.

I met him and he took me to some really nice restraunts that I had never been to.

He also bought me some clothes and would give me money out of the blue.

He also bought me a car when the one I had died.

I did not expect any of this.

I was shocked and very grateful, I had only dated guys my own age until then and of course all the guys my age ever wanted to do was go to a club or party.

That is when I realized that there are guys out there that you are attracted to that will show you a side of life that you could never afford on your own.

The catch is, it needs to be discreet and there is usually no committed relationship.

After I moved and couldn't see him anymore, I looked for something else like this, but on the SD sight I saw a few years ago, the women on there looked like models so I was intimidated and just lurked around.

I have had three SD relationships since then and now curious about escort/companion/courtesean because it seems more straightforward and honest without beating around the bush.

My first SD spoiled me as far as dating.

I don't really see a difference in escort and companion except that with a SD, you get to know them more and have somewhat of a bond.

Also being in that sort of relationship seems more socially acceptable than a companion/courtesan for whatever reason.

Suzel · 01-11-2010, 11:27 AM

Sorry, double post.

npita · 01-11-2010, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Marcus Aurelius

I forgot about that.
I did see 2 gals from Eharmony.
Both of them spent the first several minutes of our face to face meeting emphasizing that in no way is any guy going to bed them until after a committed relationship was established.
Eh?

I've been on dating sites and escort boards and in my opinion, the difference is primarily about 2 dates and direct payment. Due to the internet, I think the line between escorting and dating is becoming increasingly blurred with the SD/SB thing falling in the middle.

NinaMorgan · 01-11-2010, 12:25 PM

I had a relationship like that for quite sometime and would love to find someone like that again. It is much enjoyable to have a regular guy all the time than to always see new suitors.

guest051510-1 · 01-11-2010, 12:27 PM

Seems like the guys are playing in both fields SD and escort clients. So, is it acceptable for us ladies to have it both ways? If I wanted a SD, would I need to keep my Nicolette job a secret? Would I need to use my real name or make up a third? I've never been a SB and probably wouldn't see the same level of financial flow, but there is this house I want to buy and I sure could use a co-signer since I have bad credit and no proof of income.

ferdburf · 01-11-2010, 12:32 PM

IMHO it's all about honesty. If you're honest with your partner, it tends to work longer. If dishonesty enters the picture, the second one finds out that the other is being dishonest, it begins to disintegrate.

Happy Diver · 01-11-2010, 12:36 PM

One of my SBs was in fact also a provider. I found out about after we had been together. It wasn't a deal killer, but it did alter the relationship. One aspect of the SB relationship that hasn't been discussed is that there can be an expectation of bareback sex as the couple is monogamous to each other--and personally I find that very appealing. As a medical professional, I'm disease free and plan to stay that way. I'm always very careful, but quite frankly would rather not have to use a condom. That's never an option with a provider as it shouldn't be.

guest051510-1 · 01-11-2010, 12:46 PM

I guess I couldn't be a SB, I won't play without a rain coat with ANYONE.

WTF · 01-11-2010, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Suzel

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Also being in that sort of relationship seems more socially acceptable than a companion/courtesan for whatever reason.

Puzzling but true dat!

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Originally Posted by NinaMorgan

I had a relationship like that for quite sometime and would love to find someone like that again. It is much enjoyable to have a regular guy all the time than to always see new suitors.

Finally! Let's just get married Nina

I'm a one woman man myself.

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Originally Posted by Nicolette Bordeauxva

. So, is it acceptable for us ladies to have it both ways? .

No, it's in Chapter 6 paragraph 9 of Sugarbaby 101.

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Originally Posted by Happy Diver

I find that very appealing. As a medical professional, I'm disease free and plan to stay that way.

I find this appealing too.

(not your profession, your confession) A SB is like a sunny day on the islands, no rainy coats there. . .

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Originally Posted by Nicolette Bordeauxva

I guess I couldn't be a SB, I won't play without a rain coat with ANYONE.

Anyone is an asshole anyway.

Happy Diver · 01-11-2010, 01:24 PM

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A SB is like a sunny day on the islands, no rainy coats there. . .

ROFLMAO!

Marcus Aurelius · 01-11-2010, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Nicolette Bordeauxva

I guess I couldn't be a SB, I won't play without a rain coat with ANYONE.

I understand. But it still makes me sad you feel that way.

Marcus Aurelius · 01-11-2010, 01:29 PM

The thing I'm picking up here and that I don't understand is that it appears that the SD owns the SB. That is not the way I would be. Correct me if I'm wrong.

NinaMorgan · 01-11-2010, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by WTF

Finally! Let's just get married Nina

I'm a one woman man myself.

I am in Vegas there is a Chapel on every corner, let me know when you are arriving I will send a limo

Happy Diver · 01-11-2010, 01:42 PM

No, I don't think it is a question of ownership at all. It's a deal between two individuals longer term than an hour or two with a provider and all deals have terms and conditions. You might elect to have a nonexclusive relationship, but that would be set up in the beginning. Hopefully everyone is honorable in keeping to the terms. In my case one of the SD's deal was:
$1000 a month
we get together three, four times a month, maybe overnight
travel companion (she had to learn to dive obviously)
there was an expectation of exclusivity and testing was done for both of us before we had sex. In her case she had a job so the income was supplementary I wasn't supporting her totally.
This worked well for three or four months and then fell apart when I had to work overseas for a month or so.

One could have preconditions over what kind of sex, etc. as well I assume.

As I meet less and less with regular providers, I realize I enjoyed my SB relationships and am thinking about looking for another one or maybe just a long term mistress of some type.

Guest083011 · 01-11-2010, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Nicolette Bordeauxva

but there is this house I want to buy and I sure could use a co-signer since I have bad credit and no proof of income.

'Colette, you don't want a co-signer. You need him to buy it outright and transfer title to you free and clear unencumbered.