Does the hobby make you a better lover?

[Ed Highlight]

Originally Posted by alexxxia

I am a Mature Companion.... We as Companions can control how Great or Poor a session will turn out .....

We have a winner!! Alexxxia, nothing inspires great "love making" like a mature, confident woman....oh yah, it helps that you're smokin' hot, too!!

Directions to Connecticut: Go to New York, take a right!!

[anaximander]

Better?
I am a satyr man-slut, I've always done well.
This is quasi-religious, I take ritual seriously.

But the reaction from my wife last time was,
"Whats gotten into you? You're an animal!"

My provider just brushed the dust away.

[acp5762]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

You don't have to be in the hobby to be a good or better lover. Women you have been with should have taught you that long ago. The problem is so many women LIE because they don't want to bruise the guy's ego, so these men go out thinking they are the sh3t...then I hit em with the truth lmao.

I am not saying all, but it's a hell of a high percentage! I used to fake orgasms in my personal life, and I refuse to ever do that again. Just because I don't get off does not mean the guy is not doing something right. That is such a load of bs. Most men and women can make themselves go by simply adjusting to what even the worst lover is doing.

Add to that all of us are different, so just because you have 95 people saying you're the best, does not mean the last 5 will think so.

Well what do you expect. That was really the whole jist of my first post. You're 30 and you're seeing guys in their 40's and 50's who you find deficient. Thats because when they were in their formitive years they didn't develope the skills in attracting women. They got lucky and got married big deal. Now they are single. They have big incomes and they want to play with escorts. This thread proves somewhat that providers do appreciate clients that posses some skills. Many clients probably go into a session with the attitude that its all about them.

[alexxxia]

Originally Posted by Ed Highlight

We have a winner!! Alexxxia, nothing inspires great "love making" like a mature, confident woman....oh yah, it helps that you're smokin' hot, too!!

Directions to Connecticut: Go to New York, take a right!!

Thank you Ed . . .

Be it in Connecticut or in Texas . . . I can appreciate a man who recognizes a confident woman and is willing to immerse into grand countless pleasures.

[awl4knot]

Originally Posted by burkalini

Being the honest pig that I am I will admit that there are times that my personal satisfaction are the main point in a session. It really depends on the provider. If she turns me on then I make it a point to make her happy. Honestly I don't feel bad when I don't simply because I'm footing the bill. Now all you wonderful lovers that make sure she cums 15 times with every session I simply bow my head and say your just better than I am but no one is more honest.

burkalini, You are to be commended for your honesty, but your last sentence seemed to have an edge to it. I say this because I recently posted a review where the young lady came about 15 times. I don't know if you read the review (it is fine entertainment) but I want to respond to your comment even if you had not.

The topic of O's is a universal favorite, repeated on many occasions and in several contexts. It seems to me how many times a lady cums (if she cums at all) is largely a matter of her own sexual potential. Some ladies will never cum with a hobbyist, some will cum three to five times, and a very small percentage will come ten,fifteen, twenty times so long as the hobbyist is clean, respectful and modestly talented.

As for the young lady who came 15 times, I just happened to be the guy with $$$ in his pocket, a pair of lips and an erect penis who was in the room with her. She was going to come 10, 15 or 20 times so long as I licked and sticked her for our 60 minute session. It had very little to do with my looks or sexual talents, as she has scores of reviews in which similar experiences are reported. That's just the way she rolls.

On the other hand, I know that some ladies will experience sexual pleasure, maybe even intense sexual pleasure, but will not orgasm even though I am doing the same things that set off the girl with the trip wire pussy. So how can I take credit for being such a hot lover?

I take it from some of the ladies that a lot of hobbyist are lacking in their sexual skills, but I think that "competent" guys will be able to tap the sexual potential of most providers and make everyone happy. It just isn't that hard to do if you have the right mind set and pay attention.

And that's the truth.

Awl4knot

[burkalini]

Originally Posted by awl4knot

burkalini, You are to be commended for your honesty, but your last sentence seemed to have an edge to it. I say this because I recently posted a review where the young lady came about 15 times. I don't know if you read the review (it is fine entertainment) but I want to respond to your comment even if you had not.

The topic of O's is a universal favorite, repeated on many occasions and in several contexts. It seems to me how many times a lady cums (if she cums at all) is largely a matter of her own sexual potential. Some ladies will never cum with a hobbyist, some will cum three to five times, and a very small percentage will come ten,fifteen, twenty times so long as the hobbyist is clean, respectful and modestly talented.

As for the young lady who came 15 times, I just happened to be the guy with $$$ in his pocket, a pair of lips and an erect penis who was in the room with her. She was going to come 10, 15 or 20 times so long as I licked and sticked her for our 60 minute session. It had very little to do with my looks or sexual talents, as she has scores of reviews in which similar experiences are reported. That's just the way she rolls.

On the other hand, I know that some ladies will experience sexual pleasure, maybe even intense sexual pleasure, but will not orgasm even though I am doing the same things that set off the girl with the trip wire pussy. So how can I take credit for being such a hot lover?

I take it from some of the ladies that a lot of hobbyist are lacking in their sexual skills, but I think that "competent" guys will be able to tap the sexual potential of most providers and make everyone happy. It just isn't that hard to do if you have the right mind set and pay attention.

And that's the truth.

Awl4knot

lol I have no arguement with that one. I just picked 15 out of the air and have never read your comment so nothing was geared towards you. As far as giving a provider orgasms like I said if she gets me hot I will return the favor. You can read my reviews to validate that. I think my point is that we are all capable of being good lovers and bad ones. Recipricocity will decide that.To be honest there are days that I just want to fuck and get off. It's nothing against the provider. Then there are days where I feel no one can fuck better than me and I want to put the provider in a orgasmic coma.

[awl4knot]

Originally Posted by burkalini

To be honest there are days that I just want to fuck and get off. It's nothing against the provider. Then there are days where I feel no one can fuck better than me and I want to put the provider in a orgasmic coma.

This makes you a man for all season and all sessions.

[Cpalmson]

Here's the rub. Naomi wants a lover to please her even if it comes down to her giving "instruction". Not that there is anything wrong with that. I think each session should leave both parties satisfied. However, that is a bit of unrealistic thinking. For someone to be a good lover, it takes time to get to know the person you are with. It most certainly is going to take more than a 1 or 2 hour date. Also, everyone is different. What pleases one lady won't necessarily please the next lady. Bottom line, I think it take both people to have at least made love with each other at least 3 times before even scratching the surface of being good lovers with each other. Maybe in some superficial way, instruction (as Naomi puts it) can at least turn a bad situation into a tolerable situation. Finally, it cuts both ways. I've been with some women who are so mechanical that it became laughable. They sure could have used some of my instruction, but they would have none of it. In the end, we can all improve, and it is a two way street.

[MrGiz]

Originally Posted by Cpalmson

. . . . For someone to be a good lover, it takes time to get to know the person you are with. It most certainly is going to take more than a 1 or 2 hour date. . . .
...Bottom line, I think it take both people to have at least made love with each other at least 3 times before even scratching the surface of being good lovers with each other. . . .

That; quite simply, isn't always true!!

I have had several 1st meetings within the hobby where pools of sweat , heavy breathing , weak/numb legs , and silly shit-eatin-grins have been spread wide by both parties!!* Those events may stand apart from the norm... but it does happen!!*

But... to be clear... again, I am just talking about a pure sexual experience!
Some people's definition of "good lovers " and "great sex " might be two different things.... dunno!

[Cpalmson]

Originally Posted by MrGiz

That; quite simply, isn't always true!!

I have had several 1st meetings within the hobby where pools of sweat , heavy breathing , weak/numb legs , and silly shit-eatin-grins have been spread wide by both parties!!* Those events may stand apart from the norm... but it does happen!!*

But... to be clear... again, I am just talking about a pure sexual experience!
Some people's definition of "good lovers " and "great sex " might be two different things.... dunno!

Ah, but there is the difference. What are we talking about? Being a good/great lover, or simply having great sex. There is a difference. Being a good/great lover implies some sort of meeting of emotional needs on a level other than physical. To simply have great sex just requires a willing partner. I've had my fair share of great sex with providers. I doubt that I've ever been good lover to a provider nor have any providers been good lovers to me simply b/c we've never spent enough time to become good/great lovers. Redefine the question and get two separate answers.

[Guest082513-02]

i have noticed that since becoming a provider, civi boink has become MIA. Its not just the bonus of the dollar either. It seems that men in the hobby world bring their A game and are wanting to knock things off their bucketlist or wanting to pop certain cherries that a provider makes available. Its fun! Usually no judgment! No strings attached, etc.
In civie world they seem to be very timid, place judgement, and/or look scared to death if you mention wanting to try new things.

I think that once the first time meeting anxiety is gone... hobbyist boink is intense and seems to be the only thing that can actually get me off. Hell, I dont even masterbate anymore!

Besides...lol... now there is added pressure. Ever boink a civie and say "baby lets take this from GFE to PSE and take a hard pounding to the greek islands"? LOL!

[anaximander]

I myself can't seperate the two.
It doesn't matter how much I think I love someone.
If they suck in the sack there is no chance.
It's the opposite for me. If the sex is good; I'll deal with the rest.
It's served me well almost 20 years now.
I knew my wife all of two weeks before I claimed her.
So this getting to know thing is a bit overblown.
Besides, postcoital tongues are a little loser.
I find out more about a woman after sex than before.
After seeing each others nakedness, most guards are lowered.
Give them an orgasm and still more barriers come down.

Though not all the time, these are people not machines.
Why some women start crying after an O does bother me.
There are limits to what I need to know.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by LusciousLacy

i have noticed that since becoming a provider, civi boink has become MIA. Its not just the bonus of the dollar either. It seems that men in the hobby world bring their A game and are wanting to knock things off their bucketlist or wanting to pop certain cherries that a provider makes available. Its fun! Usually no judgment! No strings attached, etc.
In civie world they seem to be very timid, place judgement, and/or look scared to death if you mention wanting to try new things.

Interesting. I don't get those guys that come to an appointment with a grocery list of things to do in mind. I can't relate at all but I have heard this from other ladies.

[burkalini]

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Interesting. I don't get those guys that come to an appointment with a grocery list of things to do in mind. I can't relate at all but I have heard this from other ladies.

Noami they all have a list of things in mind. Its just some just let them happen and some want it spelled out up front. I agree that the let it happen type is best.

[Eccie Addict]

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Interesting. I don't get those guys that come to an appointment with a grocery list of things to do in mind. I can't relate at all but I have heard this from other ladies.

I bet there are alot of guys that see you that have that upside down bj on their list.....