How Fascinating
While reading everyone's replies to whether or not love in the hobby world was possible I thought to myself how incredibly fascinating it must be to give any amount of creedence to the issue. I am a realist... so please I hope that no one gets offended...
Love is chemical so its foolish to believe that it is incapable of occuring, and any provider that claims to have never clicked with a gent that way or vice versa is trying to sell something. The fact is their is always that one favorite. Now for the week minded, newly founded, or poorly situated this can be an amazing high. The adrenaline, the fluttery stomach, the images of all those previous encounters flashing through your mind... amazing. The sad fact is this.. Lets presume that we are meant for 1 person even though science says differently, but hey why not... We must then assume a hobby/provider match can occur just based off simple odds. What then. Does the hobbyist forget she was a provider (sure cause pigs fly) or perhaps the provider forgets that he is a) there behind his SO's back, b) paying for her time and c)wants to "get to know her".
I am not claiming that I have never became attached to a client or two. I can think of a few that made me wish I was something other than who I am. I never thought to myself that I would want to settle down, give up my lifestyle, become the mrs. or any of probably a thousand other options. The fact is I am capable of loving others and even loyalty... but faithfulness... well not likely. I love the money but I dont want a handout (to the gold digger guy, we are working in case you hadnt noticed), and I dont want to belong to someone.
I will say this though. In the hobby we have to be honest. Probably more honest than any other time in our lives. When you are bare you are bared. Lies are hard to conceal in those moments. I find I fall a little in love with everyone I see. Idealistically this gives the true GFE feel. My clients appreciate this as most of them need that form of companionship. However, should one mistakenly lay claim that he has "fallen in love" and he doesnt just mean in the haha kind of way I drop him like a bad habit. A fantasy is after all a very nice dream not reality
I think ultimately though its up to the people involved. Some people are far more open to the idea than I am. I am the first to admit that when it comes to love I am very jaded. I have never met a couple yet that truly founded their relationship on honesty. I personally cant deal with lies. So the circle completes itself and for me love in the hobby would and could never occur.
But for those that it has, well congratulations and may your fantasy not end in tears. To have love is a truly wonderful thing... chemical reaction or not.
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