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Originally Posted by Hobbyfun
I think I just fell in love, but why would he need to hobby are you saying you would be like most women and slow down or stop have sex when you get married.
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I have been married after being a provider, WE agreed for me to no longer be a provider, and it turned out our chemistry wasn't what either of us was akin to in the bedroom.
So the lack of activity wasn't the typical "ring on the finger" and all things stop. We are still friendly but THAT part of our lives wasn't successful. I lived through it, I learned through it. If I had to do it again, I'd still have the attitude I posted.
Being a provider and seeing how many men, happily married and horribly married, like to go get some down and dirty strange, I am a supporter of getting strange.
The hobby TYPICALLY allows you to do this without creating strong bonds of a relationship which usually lead to major betrayal in your at home relationship.
I've said this before, (just probably not in a post):
But ideal for me would be a man who takes care of his home life...
That lets me know he's off to get some strange...
Does not wash up much when he is done with said strange...
Comes home to have dinner and take care of family obligations...
We tuck the kiddos in bed...
Lock the bedroom door...
Drops me to my knees...
And lets me know what scent is left from his adventures in strange...
(the rest is all in the mind my dears)
More than likely I would no longer be a provider. This is because of three things. 1. I rarely provide as it is and have a full time day job 2. I am already on my path towards my goals of having a higher paying "real job". 3. Most (not all) men tend to prefer that their woman be "theirs". Being more submissive in nature, if my man is able to support the family on his income and my day job income alone - AND still be able to play in hobby land REASONABLY...then I'm all for it.
It's all in moderation. (just don't tell this to daaaman. I don't think any of this would make sense to him)
Hobby life for me would EVENTUALLY become more of a play ground than a place of employment.