MY GF is escorting?

[Laura Lynn]

Originally Posted by Kendall4U

Unless you are 100% sure you can handle the answer, I'd leave it alone. If you do ask are you prepared to pick up the slack on the money side if she stops? This really is JUST business for the most part. Women can compartmentalize just like men can. Think long and hard OP. Once it's really out there there is no going back.

Preach it!!!

As a lady that has been there and is there..... it's a hurtful situation.

It hurt me to find out that he snooped, it hurt him to know I had been lying (which apparently I'm not great at) and while he can understand the why of it all, it hurts him that I do it. But he's not going to ask me to get out, I have to make that decision on my own.

So, take the words of wisdom that my ATF Kendall offered, make sure you can handle the answer. Sometimes it's best to just walk away

[oldmarine]

Originally Posted by Analeese

Wasn't saying no sex....was just saying sex will come after the real intimacy...and the sex will be much better that way...

Women are typically emotional creatures.....

Of course it will be a problem if she neglects to meet certain needs and/or desires he has... thats a given and likely that he'll end up hobbying..

Analeese you are correct. I met the provider I was dating through eccie so I knew what was going on. We had sex often but not every time we got together. Some of the really good times were when we just enjoyed each other's company by going to dinner or to a movie or just hanging out. The intimacy was real and it made the sex so much better that I am having trouble coming back into the hobby. Casual sex is not all that satisfying anymore.

[Gentlemen Rendezvous]

Try to schedule with her and see what happens

[Analeese]

Originally Posted by oldmarine

Analeese you are correct. I met the provider I was dating through eccie so I knew what was going on. We had sex often but not every time we got together. Some of the really good times were when we just enjoyed each other's company by going to dinner or to a movie or just hanging out. The intimacy was real and it made the sex so much better that I am having trouble coming back into the hobby. Casual sex is not all that satisfying anymore.

I too speak from experience...as I married a client about 7years ago....

He knew what was going on... that's how we met...but eventually it wears your relationship thin...

The other person gets tired of sharing...the escort usually isn't fulfilled because she wants to go home to hubby or whoever is at home and just be normal...before she gives up sex...its kinda like having to wind down after working an overnight shift...

Ignorance is bliss sometimes..

[TheEccie214]

Originally Posted by Analeese

I too speak from experience...as I married a client about 7years ago....

He knew what was going on... that's how we met...but eventually it wears your relationship thin...

The other person gets tired of sharing...the escort usually isn't fulfilled because she wants to go home to hubby or whoever is at home and just be normal...before she gives up sex...its kinda like having to wind down after working an overnight shift...

Ignorance is bliss sometimes..

Curious if you've ever revealed your trade to a civi man you started dating. Does that fall under the ignorance is bliss comment or can they be accepting? I could not date a current or former provider, not that there aren't some very nice gals here but it would be tough to get over that. I could see excitement in the beginning but then having them back off as time goes by once he's experienced the sexual side.

[KittyLamour]

Well congratulations on getting a true GFE.

[Analeese]

Originally Posted by TheEccie214

Curious if you've ever revealed your trade to a civi man you started dating. Does that fall under the ignorance is bliss comment or can they be accepting? I could not date a current or former provider, not that there aren't some very nice gals here but it would be tough to get over that. I could see excitement in the beginning but then having them back off as time goes by once he's experienced the sexual side.

Yes I have....at first he was pissed...but only because I was hiding it...so it was more of the sneaking that really bothered him..

I tend to not really be the most monogamous person when dating... I like to swing in my RW...and don't mind sharing... myself or my partner..as long as everyone is agreeable

He was a very rational person... so once I used the reasoning that it's business and a means to an end at times...he couldn't argue with that.

Obviously the reaction of a civi man will vary on his own individual feelings, beliefs and/moral compass.

Im actually a very open honest person...so I tend to mention what I do... because I really don't like lying...or having to keep up with all the lies.. really makes my head hurt

Edit: I think there might be a misconception that because escorts suck and fuck different people that we might get bored with a civi guy and his sex...but that's certainly not the case... sometimes its just nice to be around someone that wasnt in the hobby and didn't meet you there or ever know you when you were a sex worker..

Escorts like normal plain vanilla sex too...it doesn't have to be wild and crazy all the time..

I just prefer the swinging as to minimize infidelity and to keep the spice in your life a bit

[Recurve Jones]

I actually got a thrill in the fact my SB had a rw relationship. Just the satisfaction of knowing she was going to go home and make love to the man of her dreams with her cum drenched orifices. It felt good to be the bad guy! I'm sure this is not the case with your whore though OP.

[TheEccie214]

Interesting Analeese. It'd take a very unique guy, especially if he wanted to be monogamous to handle this situation.

[Analeese]

Originally Posted by TheEccie214

Interesting Analeese. It'd take a very unique guy, especially if he wanted to be monogamous to handle this situation.

Yes I agree...the lifestyle isn't for everyone..

Even the OP admits he doesn't think he's ready to know his GF is an escort and continue to see each other.

What I find interesting about the OP and his GF...is how quickly they are moving in their relationship. I don't think two people who've known each other 3months should be "moving" in together...but then again you don't really know someone until you live with them.

[lda523287]

Very thought provoking posts Analeese.

[micktoz]

I am in a relationship with an escort. Started as a client/ hooker relationship.
I am seeing other ladies and tell her. She works and tells me.
After two marriages where communication went away, I won't be in a relationship that I don't tell everything. And I hope she is the same. If we can't handle what we tell each other, we discuss it and we both understand that if either of us can't hang with it, we will lovingly and kindly end it. I won't try to change her and she doesn't want to change me.
It's the only way it can work.
Sometimes, I get jealous and sometimes she gets jealous and we talk about it. But, we don't hurt each other with it and it dissipates because of the openness. So far it has worked. Who knows how long it will. Shit, nobody knows with any relationship.
I stay over at her place sometimes but we have no plans of living together. Neither of us wants a permanent room mate.
It doesn't fit in a box. We are making it up as we go along. Pretty exciting.

OP, there is a saying. If she didn't tell me, it must be none of my business. But if you can't let that go,
if I were you, I would talk to her about it. I wouldn't want to be guessing my life away.

[johnspice]

Originally Posted by micktoz

....
It doesn't fit in a box. We are making it up as we go along. Pretty exciting.....

I don't think I have it in me to do what you are doing. But I am impressed to say the least! This is how it is supposed to be. We are supposed to experience our lives for ourselves, instead we waste our lives away trying to fit in boxes that were designed by someone else...

Hats off to you, Sir!

[Dudgeonpolymath]

Originally Posted by champr199

im sure this has been discussed but here it is again.

Pretty sure my GF is escorting or at a minimum maybe has sugar daddy.
I want to approach her about it but was hoping to find an ad or something first to know what i got into..

I will be scheduling my test with the DR tomorrow as well. I cant say alot since i have partaking before but my instincts were pointing me in this direction. And after noticing patterns im about 90% sure.

I doubt tineye will find it with any pics i have of her.
She stays at my house for days and most nights and we date regularly . She has even moved some of her stuff to my place.

So now what? do i ask leading questions to see if she lies?
I do like her and i know escorts have relationships too but not sure im ready for that.

Also i have kids on certain days so maybe im just an easy target

A lot of great discussions. After reading your responses, doing nothing is not an option. The uncertainty and, more so, the appearance of untruth are overwhelming.

If you confront her without further evidence, three things will happen, none of them good from your perspective, 1) she will be escorting and confess and, it would seem, you are not ok with it, 2) she is escorting and will not confess and you still will not know ... she will likely leave, 3) she is NOT escorting and will get offended and end the relationship. So, if you care about her, then get your facts straight. Follow her and wait until you catch her in the act (not literally) or convince yourself otherwise. Of course, the other option is all this drama is not worth it and you end the relationship as it stands.

[mustache]

Find what site she is on and find her ads showcase whatever. Then just let her know you hobby and you found her ad. If you are good with that let her know she may not mind you know if she foes then it will probably be over.
In any case when you find out her handle let us know so we can send business her way. Good luck.