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Naomi4u · 03-27-2011, 11:07 AM

Totally understand.

It just goes to show that we're not "all about the money". If we were we would see anyone and everyone. We all have our own ways of working.

pipefitter73 · 03-27-2011, 11:54 AM

As expected, I've heard from both sides of the fence and I certainly want to thank all of the ladies for participating in this discussion.

It seems that different ladies have their preferences on who they want to see, just like us guys have different preferences on the type of ladies we see.

I had a lady last week tell me she knew she was going to good time with me even before the session. Why? The number of okays I had made her more relaxed prior to me showing up and she knew I must be an good guy and not LE or an ax murderer to have all those okays.

However, I certainly understand Valerie and Naomi's point of view that they aren't looking to catch anything and seeing serial hobbyists could be putting their health at risk. A good provider friend of mine suggested I get tested regularly and I did so around the first of the year and again last week. Certainly both providers and clients need to get tested regularly even if they are only doing CFS.

I've gotten some grief because of the number of ladies I've seen, its 40 in the last 7 months not 2 months, but I will tell you this- I have a married friend who is doing BB with three other ladies- one married, one single, and one sugar baby. He sees the married lady once or twice a week for a quickie, the single lady comes to town three or four times a year to see him, and "he hits the sugar baby as often as he can." He also has a p411 account with 6 okays because he says he wants some "strange" when he goes out of town to conventions. Now, who's playing it safer. Him for only seeing 3 ladies besides his wife regularly or me- who has seen quiet a few but always covers up? Just something to think about.

I personally am not looking to bring anything home to the wife, so the only choice for me is to cover up with all providers during intercourse.

Eccie Addict · 03-27-2011, 11:58 AM

It really is just a false sense of security....

guest071611-1 · 03-27-2011, 12:09 PM

The more Ok's the better i feel...

burkalini · 03-27-2011, 01:40 PM

When I hobbied I would get myself checked every month. I went thru a kid in the candy store process for awhile and wanted to stay as safe as possible. I don't really understand turning down a client for previous visits to other providers as it's the protection process that keeps you safe not the numerology. It only takes one. I do however understand rethinking seeing a provider that see's numerous clients in a day and being the last on the list. Just turns me off.

Naomi4u · 03-27-2011, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by pipefitter73

However, I certainly understand Valerie and Naomi's point of view that they aren't looking to catch anything and seeing serial hobbyists could be putting their health at risk. A good provider friend of mine suggested I get tested regularly and I did so around the first of the year and again last week. Certainly both providers and clients need to get tested regularly even if they are only doing CFS.

You missed a lot of what I said. I understand. Health risks are a good reason but I never cited it as my main reason for not seeing serial hobbyists. I think Val did and I agreed with her. It is one reason but not the main reason for me.

Chica Chaser · 03-27-2011, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Naomi4u

You missed a lot of what I said. I understand. Health risks are a good reason but I never cited it as my main reason for not seeing serial hobbyists. I think Val did and I agreed with her. It is one reason but not the main reason for me.

Lets take one more shot at it. Health reasons are certainly a good reason not to see a serial hobbyist, we get it and understand. Lets move past that one.

What are some other reasons?

Valerie · 03-27-2011, 04:20 PM

Some serial hobbyists tend to be more disconnected on a personal level, they don't really like to cuddle and talk that much, it sometimes feels a bit to robotic. And rushed for my liking....but that's just me!

Eccie Addict · 03-27-2011, 04:27 PM

Valerie that makes sense but then some guys may be seeing so many due to not finding one that he can click well enough to be passionate with... Therefore he keeps searching. Thankfully I haven't had that issue

Naomi4u · 03-27-2011, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

Lets take one more shot at it. Health reasons are certainly a good reason not to see a serial hobbyist, we get it and understand. Lets move past that one.

What are some other reasons?

Chica,

Escort Jenny Demillo wrote a wonderful blog about this very subject. You can read it right here http://jennydemilo.com/?p=597. I share her sentiment. Clients tend to be low drama, they come, pay, leave and return to their personal lives. Hobbyists don't. They are the exact opposite (very few exceptions) BUT that blog states exactly why I choose not to see serial hobbyists. It's right on point. I have experienced this with SOME of the hobbyists here on eccie.

Eccie Addict · 03-27-2011, 04:30 PM

Nicely put Naomi!!

charlestudor2005 · 03-27-2011, 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Valerie

Some serial hobbyists tend to be more disconnected on a personal level, they don't really like to cuddle and talk that much, it sometimes feels a bit to robotic. And rushed for my liking....but that's just me!

Now there's a switch: an escort complaining a guy is too robotic, and that's why she won't see him.

Naomi4u · 03-27-2011, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Nicely put Naomi!!

and you are one of those exceptions my dear.

Rider68 · 03-27-2011, 04:46 PM

I am glad this was brought up, I have some but they are in different parts of the country from when I travel I was always curious if I should not request anymore. Now that Naomi says more than 20 scares her I will never go beyond 19

Naomi4u · 03-27-2011, 04:49 PM

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Now that Naomi says more than 20 scares her I will never go beyond 19

Ooh sweetheart...

I have to retract that statement and I am sorry if I offended anyone. I meant I do not see men that see so many providers in very little time. Valerie said it very well. When a man has seen 20-40 different women in two months that's a huge red flag for me. If a man has 70 or even 100 reviews over the course of 5 years then that is ok.