Providers in committed relationships?

[Recurve Jones]

Originally Posted by Kayleehotchick

One word for this thread.

Hypocrites.

You said it! They sound like a bunch of Bible thumpers, lol! Of course we know they wouldn't be on "this" site.

[L.A.]

I can't believe how many of you miss the actual point of the thread.

Morality aside this topic is about two people in a relationship knowing what the other one is doing.

A typical man would not be accepting of his GF/Wife being a provider anymore than a typical GF/Wife being ok with her husband fucking escorts.

If my wife fucked three dudes a day and I fucked three girls a day and we both knew about each other and I said I'm going to keep fucking three girls but it's not ok for you to fuck three guys then that's a double standard and hypocrisy.

There is no double standard, there is no hypocrisy

[Recurve Jones]

Originally Posted by L.A.

I can't believe how many of you miss the actual point of the thread.

Morality aside this topic is about two people in a relationship knowing what the other one is doing.

A typical man would not be accepting of his GF/Wife being a provider anymore than a typical GF/Wife being ok with her husband fucking escorts.

If my wife fucked three dudes a day and I fucked three girls a day and we both knew about each other and I said I'm going to keep fucking three girls but it's not ok for you to fuck three guys then that's a double standard and hypocrisy.

There is no double standard, there is no hypocrisy

I think the hypocrisy comes in when the guys state they wouldn't want their SO's sleeping with someone else, yet they choose to participate in this hobby (if they are married of course). IMO, the ladies feel that same double standard as when men who sleep around a lot are praised, and women who do it are well, you know. So, I guess they feel as if they are being judged. A lot of the participants may very well have SO's, but if it works for them and their relationship, we have no right to tell them they are doing it wrong.

[cheatercheater]

Guess I'm the oddball. I commend the women here who can and do separate real life from the hobby while on a committed relationship. I can only guess at how hard that would be even when both agree to her source of income.
Besides it is a turn on to know I am fucking someone else's wife or girlfriend and she is hot!

[Kendall4U]

Originally Posted by Recurve Jones

I think the hypocrisy comes in when the guys state they wouldn't want their SO's sleeping with someone else, yet they choose to participate in this hobby (if they are married of course). IMO, the ladies feel that same double standard as when men who sleep around a lot are praised, and women who do it are well, you know. So, I guess they feel as if they are being judged. A lot of the participants may very well have SO's, but if it works for them and their relationship, we have no right to tell them they are doing it wrong.

VERY WELL SAID!

[BBW Katrina]

I wouldn't want my man to be ok with me fucking other dudes. For money or pleasure. Maybe if I met him in the beginning and he knew what I did on the side and he was okay with it for a while, but once the relationship evolved and we became committed I would lose all respect for a gentleman that was okay with me being a whore and it would never work out FOR ME. Great for the people it does work for...just not for me.

And 9 times out of 10 , even if your guy says he is ok with you sleeping with men for money, there's probably a part of him that also resents you and if it wasn't for the money that he was being able to indulge in and benefit from it would probably be a different scenario.

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by Kendall4U

VERY WELL SAID!

Wrong! Some of you are comparing guys who fuck different women/providers to women/providers that sell themselves, it's two different things, the guys with a SO are cheating and a totally other subject

The subject is can a provider be in a committed relationship? meaning that hubby knows what you do, obviously if he doesn't know, you're not being honest

I don't see that happening and it's fair to say that most men who truly care for their partner wouldn't be ok with his women sucking and fucking for $ as would be the same for a male provider

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by BBW Katrina

I wouldn't want my man to be ok with me fucking other dudes. For money or pleasure. Maybe if I met him in the beginning and he knew what I did on the side and he was okay with it for a while, but once the relationship evolved and we became committed I would lose all respect for a gentleman that was okay with me being a whore and it would never work out FOR ME. Great for the people it does work for...just not for me.

And 9 times out of 10 , even if your guy says he is ok with you sleeping with men for money, there's probably a part of him that also resents you and if it wasn't for the money that he was being able to indulge in and benefit from it would probably be a different scenario.

Thanks for the honest response BBK, its a no win situation and the downside of the hobby, it just wouldn't work out in the RW, maybe in a fantasy setting, there you go ladies, another fantasy to make $$$ on

[Kendall4U]

OP....you think too much. Just fuck, suck and have fun. Don't worry about our relationships we don't care about yours. IJS...

[micktoz]

Originally Posted by BLM69

Wrong! Some of you are comparing guys who fuck different women/providers to women/providers that sell themselves, it's two different things, the guys with a SO are cheating and a totally other subject

The subject is can a provider be in a committed relationship? meaning that hubby knows what you do, obviously if he doesn't know, you're not being honest

I don't see that happening and it's fair to say that most men who truly care for their partner wouldn't be ok with his women sucking and fucking for $ as would be the same for a male provider

So, if I get this right. You are ok if the woman is fucking other guys but it's not ok to get paid for it?

If i could get paid for it, I would.
It just sounds like for you, BLM, your jealousy of her getting paid is the problem.

So much hypocrisy.

[ManSlut]

Can someone PUHLEEZE tell me if the PRETTY WOMAN movie was a true story? I'm holding out for yes it was!!

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by Kendall4U

OP....you think too much. Just fuck, suck and have fun. Don't worry about our relationships we don't care about yours. IJS...

I'm not worried one bit, it was a fun discussion that will go on with good entertainment for all to enjoy. You can thank me someday....I'm getting some lunch now

[ManSlut]

Me thinks it was a damn good topic BLM and what I took from it is Prostitutes don't want to be judged or questioned about their morals and married dudes can't own up to anything especially that they're cheaters...Yay, the world really is round and keeps turning the same way it always has since the beginning of time!

Thank goodness for the oldest profession since apple eating!!

[L.A.]

Originally Posted by micktoz

So, if I get this right. You are ok if the woman is fucking other guys but it's not ok to get paid for it?

If i could get paid for it, I would.
It just sounds like for you, BLM, your jealousy of her getting paid is the problem.

So much hypocrisy.

You didn't

[Recurve Jones]

Well, I have been looking at this from more of the relational aspect and not the SO of a sex worker (SW) aspect. I've been in truly open relationships and have thoroughly enjoyed myself. However, I can't say that I would have the same level of contentment if my SO were an SW. The first question would be why she feels she "has" to do what she does for money if we do ok in finances. I would absolutely abhor the notion that she maybe sleeping with guys she would not enjoy and/or she may get disrespectful clients. So, in that scenario, I may not be as comfortable with that arrangement. The nail in the coffin would be if she expected me to "only" sleep with her. There is no way I would put myself in that position. Sex is just a physical act, but when you add all those implications, such a relationship maybe more trouble than it's worth.