Why do women get mad when men cheat

[mikecross]

only about 10 % of a relationship is sex so thats why alot of guys live in sexless or little sex relationships. Many guys love their wives but want more sex than they do. So do you through away all the reason you love her and like being with her for something that takes up 15 to 20 minof your day and you have 23 hrs left. Plus when you leave her do you want to loose your kids also No Thats why they put up with it. im just saying we we hire pros to do other things that our S/O cant or wont do. then why do they get made if we hire a por for sex or have somrthing on the side just for sex so she doesnt have to mess with it.

[Jewish Lawyer]

Originally Posted by TexTushHog

Because marraige is like a besieged medieval city -- those on the outside desperately want in, and those on the inside desperately want out!

Best explanation I've heard in a long time!!

[lily blake]

Lol it scares me when I get an insight of how men think lol

[GypsyHeart]

My post is long and I apologize.

When I was married the first time(young and dumb), he cheated on me with a coworker who was known to cheat on her s/o and get preggo with the new guy's baby. Was he getting it at home? Yes. I initiated a lot of times and nothing was taboo. Do I think it was because he was curious? Yes, because I was his first. Now he has married her, has a kid with her, and she cheats on him regularly(he said she had changed, he was in love and things would be different.

My second marriage, same deal. I was his first(he was 30). Virgin magnet I guess. He got it when he wanted how we wanted and I would initiate. I couldn't compete with his porn addiction. And felt like that his mistress. I realize, the porn is all he had for so long.

****WHY?****All that being said. It hurt me that they would cheat on me because I was a loving wife, great homemaker and genuinely excited for our sex life. It starts out as being hurt by the man we love and do for what we are supposed to do as women. Then the anger hits because they made us hurt. The made us feel stupid and used. We get mad because they made us a stereotypical weak woman. And we are bittered by the realization that we weren't good enough.

For the women who don't put out and their men step out: I can see why a man would. But in that, why is she not putting out? Is she hormonal and not feeling it? Is the desire gone because he has let himself go a little bit? Too tired from being a houswife and mom and/or career? Does she not feel appreciated or sexy because she has packed on some pounds? Does she make you feel that way? Do you as man make your woman the envy of other women by your compliments, affections and attention? Does she do the same for you?

It is a two-way street built on communication and trust. It is nurtured by continuation of affection and desire. It is driven by self-image.

I am fortunate to have found my soul mate. We are both promiscuous and realize the need in each other to seek out some strange, as it usually turns us on to hear about each other's encounter. And we know before hand. He is a hobbyist as well.

[doug_dfw]

My take. Women are from Venus; men from Mars. Generally, Women are the child bearers, nurturers, protect and train their offspring relying on the male to provide roof, warmth ,food, and security to the family. In this old custom, the woman feared if her husand strayed. calamity happened. The ancients decided vows to love, honor and obey would limit the load women without support put on the community.

Fast forward to the 21st Century, anger is still fear but also related to deception and betrayal. New feelings now OK to express .

Notice that free wheeling couples rarely hit divorce courts. However I doubt that they number anything more than 1000th of 1% in the uS. The US is Puritan compared to other nations and ethnicities. So Greed may enter the equation here as well.

I should live in France, Italy, Germany, Russia, Japan to not have fear of diddling the dick without anger from my SO.

[Muscleup]

Originally Posted by thathottnurse

I'm totally open to marrying a gay man with a lot of money.

And it's totally cool with me if he "cheats".

So any of you rich gay men out there needing a passable straight marriage with a very understanding and supportive cookie-cutter wife who doesn't mind your cock-loving ways then shoot me a pm. Let's talk.

Now that's the language of a true pro.

[TemptationTammie]

Originally Posted by Kendall4U

Yep, it's a two way street!

+1

Originally Posted by ibupro01

Not the same thing. It would be the same if your wife wanted some dick and you never give it to her.

Exactly, what if the roles were reversed and it was the wife/gf that wanted it all the time, but the guy wasn't as interested?

Originally Posted by Roger.Smith

What's being discussed is men who are married to women with no interest in sex, not those who are married to women that are still intimate. If a woman is having sex with other men but refusing sex with her husband, that just makes her a bitch.

Partner should ALWAYS come/cum before anyone else. Being a swinger, I do like my variety and want my partner (when I have one) to have the variety as well, But I would never refuse him just to be with someone else.

Originally Posted by Kayleehotchick

I think for the same reason men get mad when women cheat.

+1

Originally Posted by Kendall4U

Cheating is inherent! Doesn't matter how awesome things are at home, the thought of the grass being greener on the the other side, fucks up everything!

One of the benefits of swinging or an open relationship.

Originally Posted by Muscleup

LMOA, the better question should be, "Why do women love guys that cheat on them?"

The same answer can be found in, "Why do girls always go for the cool asshole instead of someone who worships them and would eat the corn out of their shit?"

Why is it that we fall for the wrong person then?

Originally Posted by mikecross

I gues the topic is why would your wife get mad if you cheat with someone who is doing her job for her. If she doesnt like to suck dick then why not outsource.

+1

[billw1032]

Originally Posted by Muscleup

The same answer can be found in, "Why do girls always go for the cool asshole instead of someone who worships them and would eat the corn out of their shit?"

Now here is a real question. I have lost count of the number of girls I know who passed up a guy who would put them on a pedestal and worship the ground they walk on for the cool guy who later turns out to be a total jerk.

[Jewish Lawyer]

Originally Posted by billw1032

Now here is a real question. I have lost count of the number of girls I know who passed up a guy who would put them on a pedestal and worship the ground they walk on for the cool guy who later turns out to be a total jerk.

No challenge with the nice guy. Probably figures any girl can have him - he will take anyone. She wants the guy who can resist and not worship her.

[Guest070818-1]

Originally Posted by Roger.Smith

What's being discussed is men who are married to women with no interest in sex, not those who are married to women that are still intimate. If a woman is having sex with other men but refusing sex with her husband, that just makes her a bitch.

Maybe the husband enjoys being the cuck?

[bistraight69]

During the marriage the man will ask for or mention greek, COB, 3sum, strip club, lifestyle, etc.. and the wife will say NOoooo and then ask you do you want to do that and you say NOoooo honey to save face. After you get caught cheating she gets mad because she knows she's not taking care of busines BCD. The husband does bear some responablity for marrying a girl that he knows can't fufill his needs when you need her to be more then just mother of your children.

I have been married for 23 years I'll never forget the words of advice my father gave me when I told him about my plans to get married. Remember my father was the ultimate monger, he was a monger before there were mongers with his 4 marriages and divorces and his numerous girlfriends. He told me that at the beginning of your marriage you won't be watching training videos (porn) together but you will want to do those things in the videos so make sure you marry a girl that will eventually be willing to participate. You need her to be more then just the mother of your children or you'll be going down my road of not spending quality time with your mate, heartbreak and costly divorces.

[DarkeyKong]

Originally Posted by Kayleehotchick

I think for the same reason men get mad when women cheat.

Men don't get mad when women cheat, we act angry, but in reality, we consider it a "get out of jail free" card.

I tell you what though, if one of you fine ladies would have walked up to me in college and told me, "I would fuck your fat black ass for $$$", a single tear would have rolled down my right eye and it would have saved me years of stress and $$$. Wow, that's a damn good idea! Ok, I'm going to need royalties when you plan and establish your campus recruiting events and become rich and famous!

[Roger.Smith]

Originally Posted by billw1032

Now here is a real question. I have lost count of the number of girls I know who passed up a guy who would put them on a pedestal and worship the ground they walk on for the cool guy who later turns out to be a total jerk.

"Nice guys" are usually insecure, emotionally manipulative, cock-blocking assholes. They think that being nice to a woman deserves a reward paid in pussy.

[Kendall4U]

Originally Posted by Roger.Smith

"Nice guys" are usually insecure, emotionally manipulative, cock-blocking assholes. They think that being nice to a woman deserves a reward paid in pussy.

Aren't you describing ALL men? I keed, I keed! Couldn't resist! Perhaps I need to get laid! Lol

[DarkeyKong]

Originally Posted by Roger.Smith

"Nice guys" are usually insecure, emotionally manipulative, cock-blocking assholes. They think that being nice to a woman deserves a reward paid in pussy.

Sounds like a white knight to me!