LL .. If you are feeling as if you would like to join in the adventures of 'Captain Save-A-Ho' then by all means lead the way and tell us how that worked out for you so that we might all know what not to do. However, I think it is very unfair to suggest to the actual independent ladies to take on that venture and all the heat that may come because we are not in that predicament. There is a reason they have non profits for that sort of thing. It is an undertaking that can be all consuming if the person offered help is in an abusive situation. Especially if that abuse is all they know or even worse how they have been taught to perceive love then the situation gets that much more complicated. Those women have to have some sort of moment of clarity happen in which they realize there could be a different way way to go about life and not only could it be different, but it could be better and then they have to develop the drive to see it though. No one person can do that for them. As indy's we may have a bleeding heart for them all day and want to help, but the saying " you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink" comes to mind. The next saying that comes to mind after that is "no good deed goes unpunished". The punishment on the particular undertaking you are suggesting could be rather difficult or possibly detrimental for an indy girl.
As far as Carly's remarks go, in a very real way she has a point. Call it manager, promoter, madame... it's all semantics. If they are profiting in a certain way off someone they are a pimp. How many of you have gone to an MP? Someone runs it, someone handles at least part of the money, someone is more involved than just an assistant I would think. If they are doing the promoting for the girls and profiting is that not sort of like pimping? In reference here is a link to some notorious 'pimps'
http://www.businesspundit.com/americ...ps-and-madams/. It may be an extreme example, but an example of some known pimps in which abuse was not the overall theme.
It's the predatory abusive sort that are absolutely an issue! It is a sad situation for all affected.
There are many other ways to help also, such as:
*donating money/time/goods to local battered women shelters
*donating to abuse recovery centers
Not all of us are in a situation to be able to help even if we wanted to for the simple fact that most in that particular situation will need so much more than just a new friend with good advice.
