Why Is It So Tough To Walk Away From This Hobby?

[Chung Tran]

Originally Posted by Massagejunkyie69

When I travel, it’s fun to fuck a different girl each day, but even so, it gets lonely, which is surprising given the fact you have a different woman’s legs wrapped around you every day yet it’s still lonely. I’m always happy to get home to my wife.

guys need to understand what this is and is not.

it is an outlet to satisfy wants and needs for different kinds of ladies, for short periods of time. it is not a substitute in the least, for a real loving and lasting relationship.

Rock Stars say the same thing.. touring, new fresh pussy each night, but that does nothing to curb loneliness.. it's not supposed to, and it can't.

[honest_abe]

OP -

stop your whining and disable your account already.. damn

[E21932]

Originally Posted by honest_abe

OP -

stop your whining and disable your account already.. damn

Lmao

[Kinky Boy]

It seems like some providers try to retire but the cash flow in the real world and as good as it is in the hobby. For us man sluts, it's like being in a candy shop. There are so many flavors to choose from with new flavors popping up every day.

[HotMercury]

That's my biggest thing, God knows what would happen if I'd hit the lotto. Mass orgies every other night lolol.

[Prince Akeem Of Zamunda]

First step is guesting your account
You can't hang around here if you plan to retire

[TexTushHog]

Originally Posted by You&Me

There are a few reasons why I want to walk away from this hobby:

1. There are so many uncertainties with the current laws. And this makes me nervous about staying in this hobby.

2. I want emotional attachment and stability. This hobby is about pure fun and instant gratification, but definitely not happiness. I want to pursue the path to happiness.

3. Even though I can afford to see as many ladies as I want, I still would like to have some sort of control over my spending. Currently I have no set budget for hobby. I spend whenever I feel like. This is a bad habit, and I really want to change this. Spending 30K to 40K a year on instant gratification is a bad habit.

4. This hobby was meant to be a temporary relief for me. It got me hooked for over 6 years now. Getting out of this is very hard for me.

Thanks for your thoughts.

OK, that gives us some grist for the mill.

Legal Risk. I think you need to determine how big a risk that is. Would it result in mild social embarrassment or financial catastrophe. If the former, I can see cutting down on risky behavior, using a VPN, etc. If you’re going to loose your securities listens, medical listener, ticket to practice law, be booted from your televangelist gig, etc., that a different kettle of fish. In that case, I’d seek professional help and try to quit the hobby completely. For most folks, if you’re not a hopeless adrenaline junky, you can cut back the legal risk to a manageable level. If adrenaline is your drug, take up skydiving, race car driving, tournament poker, etc. You likely know the usual suspect here.

Emotional Attachment. Ah, now we get to what I suspect is the real nun of the matter. You’re aging a bit, lonely, hearing angel feathers, or at least noticing the mortality of some folks you know, etc. quite natural, and there are no easy solutions or quick fixes. Real relationships don’t come easy, and they sure dint come in easy one hour increments, with heat set prices and menus. And worst of all, you can’t pay them to walk away when you want them to. <Insert your favorite humorous/ironically misogynistic cliche here: “Can’t livewith them, can’t live without them.” “They have half the money in the world and all the pussy . . . .” “If The didn’t have a pussy, they’d be a bounty on everyone of them.” Etc.>. But face the facts — we l9ve and crave female companionship. It’s natural, it’s normal, and it’s healthy.

I think you’re just going to have to get out there, meet non-hobby women, and take your lumps. There are no shortcuts. But the rewards, when you find them, are high. And I think it might be helpful to find friends, family, etc. who have rewarding, fulfilling relationships with members of the opposite sex and talk to them. Generally speaking, this probably isn’t the best place to seek that out. And you have to adjust your expectations with civi women. They don’t measure up in a lot of categories to the women here. But as you are finding, the women here do t “measure up” to the civi w9men in other categories. And it’s not really a question of measuring up, irs a question of two different realms of experience. Folks who do well in the hobby are able, in my experience, to compartmentalism very well. The providers here will tell you they’re not here to bring meaning to your life. There here to give you an hour of bliss — respite from some of your troubles. Or a few minutes of a fantasy. A nice physical sensation that might lift you up for a few minutes or a few weeks. But not be your soulmate. Start a family, etc.

Controlling Spending and Control. Again, you can do this by creating a budget. Limiting cash. If you’ve really tried your hardest and can’t, seek professional help. But I think if problem two can be solved, everything else will fall into line. If I were you’d, I’d put myself out there and work hard on real world relationships. Slow way down on hobbling while you do, but dint completely quit, so you’re physical desires are somewhat met while you’re shopping. And then, when you get in a real relationship, reassess your hobbling then.

My two cents. Worth every penny you paid for them, and not a nickel more.

[Tsmokies]

Welcome to the hotel California. You can guest your account butt...

[GingerKatt]

Yes it’s hard to quit. I had a Sugar Daddy, (former client) from December 2012 to March 2014. We were pretty serious. He divorced his wife and moved me in. I disabled my Eccie and P411 accounts but would troll as a guest. And I missed providing so badly! Plus I found myself turning into a housewife, not a sexy, successful escort with lots of admirers. That convinced me I wasn’t cut out for monogamy. At least not at that time. We parted as friends and he moved me into my great apartment in N Dallas. I was SO happy to get back to work!

But now I’m doing it again. Moved in with a former client. But keeping Eccie and P411, at least for now. For references to providers, finding hot ladies for us to play with and to read the Eccie forums. But you CAN definitely find a real emotional connection on here. I’m doing it for the 2nd time. And both relationships were definitely REAL and heading toward marriage.
I’m just not sure I want that again. I’ve been married and divorced twice. And providing is SO much fun! I’ll miss it, and I’ll really miss my awesome regulars that I consider friends.

And it’s not because I don’t adore my SO, I just like Eccie. And if I can’t provide for now, I can at least live vicariously through all the members here. And I do really like the forums.

So maybe it’s addictive. So what? Some of the best things in life are addictive. And monogamy is really, really hard! But I think I can do it. As long as he lets me pick providers to play with us and takes me to the Lido. Or Colletts, or a similar type club.

Why would anyone voluntarily think they should quit having fun? We’re human, and the men and the providers on this site obviously have high sex drives. Our bodies were made for it. We’re not pets that can be neutered or spayed.

[Generic White Guy]

I think it is many things... The ESCAPE; The NEWNESS; The HUNT...

I have some guys that invested in my company... Oil guys from West Texas... They loved to hunt and this group of 6 guys did it every chance they got... They would go on hunting trips - some successful some not...

As the got older and had money - I mean lots of money - they still loved to hunt, but the evolved in how the did it...

They would now go dove hunting in Argentina... They would fly down on private jets; get there and stay in high-end hunting resorts; when the would hunt, they would go to hunting perches strategically positioned in huge canyons with food and beverage services, heating and air conditioning, etc. (think a luxury suite for hunting... When they were ready to hunt, attendants on one side of the canyon would fire a shot and a flock of thousands of doves would fly from one side of the massive canyon to the other... The guys would fire a few shotgun blasts a kill a hundred or so doves... Attendants at the floor of the canyon would gather the birds, clean them and store them for the guys...

The guys would go back into the luxury hunting sweet, enjoy great food, drink scotch and smoke cigars...

Then the would do it al over again...

They were still "hunting", but differently since they were older, wiser and had money...

Anthony Hopkins has a couple of great quotes that fit here:

"Every time I try to retire, or even think of retiring from acting, my agent comes up with a script."

AND

“None of us are getting out of here alive, so please stop treating yourself like an after thought. Eat the delicious food. Walk in the sunshine. Jump in the ocean. Say the truth you're carrying in your heart like hidden treasure. Be silly. Be kind. Be weird. There's no time for anything else.”

[rexdutchman]

Yeah, Hotel California " You can check in but you cant check out"

[AMPs master]

I can relate Y&M .. so many gorgeous women though.. Hard to resist.

[TexTushHog]

Originally Posted by rexdutchman

Yeah, Hotel California " You can check in but you cant check out"

Actually, "You can check out any time you want,/ But you can never leave."


Also apropos of the hobby:



Mirrors on the ceiling,
The pink champagne on ice
And she said, 'we are all just prisoners here, of our own device'
And in the master's chambers,
They gathered for the feast
They stab it with their steely knives,
But they just can't kill the beast

[TristanThick]

It’s like any other drug. My addiction/vice is just women. And I’ve met some very cool, sexy, intelligent, amazing women in this life. For me it isn’t about loneliness, but I had to give myself a second look (exposed to porn at a young age - like a lot of guys) beginning to view women as objects instead of noble pursuits. There’s still fun in the chase, the flirting, the anticipation, the teasing - and I’ve had real chemistry and real connection with more than a few here - some of whom I talk to outside of any meets. Just because they’re cool and we share commonalities.

Could that be an act? I dunno. Perhaps, but it appears genuine, and if it is an act - then there are some who deserve Academy Awards...or maybe it’s just authentic.

For a lot of us, as men, I just think we want to be appreciated. It’s that ego thing. I’m a humble dude, but I want to know I can put in work and make a woman feel like she’s the only one on earth. As much as we (men) are thought of as takers, at our core we’re conquerors, yes - but also providers and protectors - givers; and we want to know what we give is damn good.

Is it the healthiest addiction? Depends on who you ask and their perspective. Some people would say it’s amazingly healthy - and if I’m being honest we’re really built that way. Men and women, both. Who doesn’t want to have fun pleasing another person and making them smile, laugh, cum, shake, quiver, moan, etc etc?! The way it feels on insert, the rhythm of it, moving it around just right while talking nasty to each other...that shit is amazing!

As far as flavor - Eccie is my walking down the longest ice cream aisle there is - to alleviate any craving. But I’ve found myself finding women I like that I will stick with because of connection, chemistry, and authenticity. The curves, assets and physicality is just icing - or what draws me in initially. I will say, though, once I get the taste, of it’s good...I’ll go back to the well...like any addict. True story.

At the end of the day, the sex, the lust, the pleasure...it’s still all 90% mental. And if it appeases that part of me, and keeps me off edge and functioning in a good space...who am I to fight? If I’m being honest with myself, it’s just who I am. I won’t beat myself up for it, but instead relegate myself to it.

[Sandsailor]

Checked into Chapel Perilous and found the Holy Grail is actually a complete dinner service set. After a long dry spell, found replacements for the free spirits I grew up with by hobbying. The repeaters have terrific personality and enjoy the same activities.