WHY DON'T YOU MEN ACTUALLY READ POSTS??

[Centaur]

Ok, everyone deserves to be able to vent a little frustration. It's not like you called out any particular hobbyists. I do think you were a little harsh considering that these are fans and at least they asked for specific dates, indicating a serious intention to book, but I also see your side of it. 30 PMs takes about an hour even if they're to the point and you process them efficiently. On the other hand, better to be popular than not, no? On the third hand, my admittedly second-hand understanding of BP is that the ladies that advertise there get a substantial fraction of non-serious callers, so I would hardly peg eccie as an exceptional hive of scum and villainy.

If I were in your shoes, I'd chalk this occasion up to the time spent doing the tedious correspondence any job sometimes requires. Going forward, I'd put something near the top of your ads and in the availability field of your showcase to the effect of "Please pre-book, available only on advertised dates." In the top of the biography and in your sig-line I'd put something along the lines of "I'm unable to accommodate dates other than those in my ads so please do not ask. Thank you for understanding."

I'll wager that you'll catch more cooperation with honey.

I personally will sometimes ask a provider how long she'll be available or if she'll be available on such and such a day, but only if she hasn't advertised a specific time-frame of availability, or if she indicated some uncertainty. For example, a lady I very much want to see again will be in town this weekend, but it's unlikely I'll have an opportunity to play with her, so I let her know that if I'm unable to see her this time, I will catch her on her next visit to Austin.

I will add that this thread surprised me a little bit. I was impressed with the integrity it took to post an alert about your curable bacterial infection knowing, as you must have, the misunderstanding and reflexive fear you would elicit, when you could have left your clients in the dark and they likely would never have been the wiser. So you seem like an honorable person.

But there's a lot of anger in your posts in this thread, and it seems unlikely that it's all over hobbyist reading-comprehension skillz. When you hulk out on the entire eccie male clientele, it comes off as though you're feeding your own anger by disparaging an entire community rather than the individuals who sparked the anger. There is good, there is bad and there is irritating stuff and persons on this board like anywhere. Like so many things in life, it's largely what you make of it. You can post scathing threads about the stoopid menz of eccie, or you can post threads about stuff you find annoying that you'd appreciate eccie men be more considerate of.

Perhaps you will dismiss what I have to offer as coming from someone who just doesn't get it, and if so, that's certainly your prerogative and I still wish you the best. But I hope I've provided some small insight into the perspective of some who aren't entirely sympathetic to your approach.

Everyone has bad days. I hope tomorrow is better for you.

[GneissGuy]

Originally Posted by sashasmith512

And we're only allowed to post once a week and once again in weekend forum. I'm a prebooker. I'll do last minute if available but this board doesn't leave it open to post EVERYTIME I'm available lol

You can't post, but you can update your showcase with up to date information.

I think you can also put schedule info in your signature line. It's not forbidden in the site wide rules thread at the top of each forum. Confirmation or contradiction from the mods appreciated. There are some restrictions on the sig line, so read the sitewide rules thread.

I usually do last minute only because so many ladies are so awful about keeping appointments. It's bad enough when I schedule an hour and a half ahead of time. It's a fucking joke trying to schedule a day or two ahead.

[Tatonka]

weebing wurds is to haard for me, it maks my bwain huurt.
I lik picturs
Sow mi yous booobys plz!!

[Centaur]

Originally Posted by sashasmith512

I've also wonder why do you men get all the benefits of posting private comments we can't see?? If going to have a blogging type forum, everything should be open to everyone signed up. Guys have all these private sections to gossip or talk crap, while the providers, who are really putting ourselves out there, can't defend ourselves. Not a very fair site....

Um, we have one private section, just like the ladies. And unlike some providers' apparently exhaustive knowledge of the ML, hobbyists don't seem to know immediately everything posted in the Powder Room. As for the private comments, it's no more secret than PMs, arguably less. I personally would like a feature that allowed the posting of private comments visible to verified providers but not to lurkers, in addition to the existing private tags. But it's unrealistic to expect that the elimination of private tags would mean you'd see everything posted. Guys would just start exchanging PMs instead, as I assume ladies must. Beyond that, there are good reasons for providers and hobbyists having nominally private forums, and the shame is that the ML leaks like a sieve, not that it exists. Men don't like not knowing what people say about them any more than women, but most of us recognize the necessity.

[playingnthedark]

Tits and ass .......... Tks for turning around and showing that ass. ;-)

I can never remember what this thread was about. Oh well

[Victoria Columbari]

I understand your frustration and it is difficult when a gentleman doesn't read your posts/ads carefully. However, I would answer the messages throughout the day if you feel you can't do it all at once, thank them for their interest and let them know you aren't available for the time they want and maybe ask if they would like to see you next time you visit. That way, you can email them when you plan on coming back and have pre booked appointments. This keeps them interested in you and keeps you in business. ECCIE, BP, any other site are going to have guys who are going to ask last minute just because that is how it is.
Take some deep breaths, take a run or workout, have some tea and just let it go. It is what it is, good and bad. Have a friend you can talk to you? Vent to that person. I do. Then I feel better. Good luck sweetie.

[Toyz]

"but waking up to 18 messages and half being bullshit"

Oh...the HORROR...the horror...

I just wanted to put this in perspective. This is the crux of the initial complaint.

[Centaur]

By the time I'd reached the end of the thread, my mind had confused the 18 messages with Toyz entreat to take 30. Oh the Alanis Morissette-esque irony!

[Toyz]

Originally Posted by Centaur

By the time I'd reached the end of the thread, my mind had confused the 18 messages with Toyz entreat to take 30. Oh the Alanis Morissette-esque irony!

I'm hungover & I'm not happy, I'm poor & I'm not kind
I'm short but I got boobies, yeah
My BMW's grounded, my meniscus is shot
I'm lost but I'm hopeful, baby...
What it all comes down to,
Is that everything's gonna be fine, fine, fine
'Cause I've got one hand in your pocket
And the other one is answering all these goddamn emails...

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by Toyz

I'm hungover & I'm not happy, I'm poor & I'm not kind
I'm short but I got boobies, yeah
My BMW's grounded, my meniscus is shot
I'm lost but I'm hopeful, baby...
What it all comes down to,
Is that everything's gonna be fine, fine, fine
'Cause I've got one hand in your pocket
And the other one is answering all these goddamn emails...

LOL!

I don't like much of your work but I do like that....

[Sashasmith512]

Originally Posted by playingnthedark

Tits and ass .......... Tks for turning around and showing that ass. ;-)

I can never remember what this thread was about. Oh well

Lol I stopped reading since nobody can seem to stay on topic, never said was hit up with specifics either, random hello your hot, and now I have gotten more attention just for standing up for myself. So whatever... I wonder when mods will finally close this thread.... oh that's right, they were a part of the shit-talking too...

[Centaur]

Originally Posted by sashasmith512

Lol I stopped reading since nobody can seem to stay on topic,

I and several others did our best to reply to the content of your posts. I'm sorry that was insufficiently on-topic for your tastes.

Originally Posted by sashasmith512

never said was hit up with specifics either, random hello your hot

In your original post you said:

Originally Posted by sashasmith512

I posted last night, pretty clearly WHAT my schedule was and when I had incall availability but somehow still had a large handful of guys ask for incall on dates not specified.....

Were they asking for incall on unspecified dates or were they asking for incall on dates you had not specified? Or were they just fawning over you?

Don't worry, I don't expect you to answer since you've made it clear reading our replies is beneath you. Have a nice day anyway.

[GneissGuy]

Originally Posted by sashasmith512

Lol I stopped reading since nobody can seem to stay on topic,

Why do you women keep posting in a thread after they stop reading posts?

[shayla84]

sweets I would just give up, when I started this I asked for no calls just text, but it never happened and I think I had asked the same question lol now I just dont answer unless they keep calling or text but what I usually do is when they call I just text can I help you unless you are already in my phone. Guys see the picture and donation and usually not even the donation.
Men are like kids and you just have to shrug your shoulders and say "there men" lol its like putting a fat kid in a candy shop they get overly excited and want everything, they want to touch everything and taste everything and dont hear or see the do not touch signs. Try not to fret to much about it, just ignore the messages or calls or text them back and say your not available and when your available, trust me its not gonna stop so might as well just say screw it

[Toyz]

Originally Posted by shayla84

sweets I would just give up, when I started this I asked for no calls just text, but it never happened and I think I had asked the same question lol now I just dont answer unless they keep calling or text but what I usually do is when they call I just text can I help you unless you are already in my phone. Guys see the picture and donation and usually not even the donation.
Men are like kids and you just have to shrug your shoulders and say "there men" lol its like putting a fat kid in a candy shop they get overly excited and want everything, they want to touch everything and taste everything and dont hear or see the do not touch signs. Try not to fret to much about it, just ignore the messages or calls or text them back and say your not available and when your available, trust me its not gonna stop so might as well just say screw it

Shayla, heres the thing...she quit reading this thread already...a couple of times!

But lets have a good old convo. We are talking about the enormity of 18 messages...18. Some girls would love to have just 4 guys contact them...

But lets think through WHY they would have the audacity to contact her.

Because she placed an ad in an open forum for hoogars asking for business....

Please help me understand what was done wrong here? You ask for business, then bitch when someone calls to purchase your service? Or make small talk to see if THEY want to drop their hard earned money on a session?

Then we have another one with a documented history of possibly the most horrific TCB on eccie asking how we want to be informed...

Is GPS a virus or a bacteria? I'm interested to know how it spreads?

Now...I will usually start a rapport with anyone new that I might want to spend time with. Invest a few emails, feel each other out...make sure there is a bit more interest than just the pictures of nice tits...and be sure we BOTH want to spend time together before sending that "wanna meet" or "hows you schedule today" text or call. So it has been extremely rare when I've dealt with ignore or being blatantly set up. In fact, can only remember of ONE time when a provider accepted, confirmed, then confirmed again 1/2 hour before the visit...before I drove 30 minutes south to Riverside drive and then got crickets...just once...

But I still fail to see or accept why ads are placed...some looking as if its a 10 year old who just learned HTML...and then ignore or be rude to potential customers.

If you don't wanna suck or fuck, don't place an ad...stick with your cadre' of regulars and quit wasting everyone's time.

Or maybe even..."HEY I am only going to fuck the first 5 guys that answer this ad today then this ad is null and void"

{{{not directed at you Shayla, I think you are one of the most level headed hoogars on eccie}}}.