relationship with a provider

[undercover1]

I've had a relationship with a provider and it was the most positive experience I've had in the hobby world. Quite simply, it was the best sex I've ever had in my entire life and I think it was all due to the chemistry between us. During our times together we became good friends as well.

Although I paid for each session, it was far below her usual rates and the clock was NEVER even looked at once our time together began. I think the reason our relationship worked so well was that we both acknowledged our relationship would never extend beyond what it was....a sexual relationship tied together with friendship and compatibility.

[Skypilot1945]

Undercover, I have a similar relationship with my ATF at home in Boise, ID. We have been seeing one another for over 4 years and I always pay but like you, it is less than what anyone else does and we have actually become each other's best friends. There isn't a day goes by that we aren't talking or texting and/or getting together for things other than the hobby. Again, although she is the love of my life, it is never going to go beyond where it is--best friends. I should also mention that there is almost a 40 year age difference, too.

I do know another provider who married one of her clients and they have a very good stable relationship; So, it can be done.

[Tazion]

No offense Sky and UC, but if you're paying it isn't a relationship, at least not what is being discussed here.

There used to be a provider here in town, that unlike most providers, I saw more than once, or twice, or even every month or quarter. Sometimes it might go nearly a year, and she always remembered everything about me. I just chalked it up to being good at TCB.

Then one day I was supposed to have a session, and when I got there, there had been an accident, and she couldn't, or at least she thought she couldn't. She had cancelled everyone, but forgot to let me know. We ended up with session anyway, but it was free. After it, she wanted me to run an errand with her, but I couldn't, so I bailed.

She was also talking about cooking for me. I of course, was the total dumbass I still am today. So at some point in time, I mentioned a GF. She was shocked, and a bit sad from her expression, and told me that she was interested in me off the clock. She probably was my ATF, and I knew that I could never deal with the situation, so I again, shut it down right then.

Tell you the truth, I miss her since she got out of the biz, but I still know I couldn't have ever dealt with her job. Even in the short term.

Hey, maybe it's me. Maybe I'm not mature enough, I'll take the blame. But at least I was honest enough to know.

[Skypilot1945]

No offense taken Tazion. We do have a relationship as best friends but we keep the sex seperate and keep it in the context of client-provider which makes it possible for our friendship to work and keeps the reality in the situation. If it ever got to the point that it was off the clock, it would probably throw a monkey wrench into our friendship which I value too much to ever let that happen. She has another business and although I fly helicopters for firefighting (that's what I am doing in Texas) I also have a business that I run out of my home. We help each other with those business and we are gardening buddies and trade garden plants and/or give stuff back and forth but will never be romantically involved.

There was a sad story on our Boise Board today about a provider taking advantage of one of her clients who fell madly in love with her. Not that it can't happen, but guys who participate in the hobby need to realize this is not match.com and if they are looking for a wife, they need to go to that site instead of the hobby boards.

[Guest101114]

I would never marry or even date someone I f***ed for $$-sorry for being blunt-I've met some really nice guys here, had lots of fun-but the truth is(as it is for every provider)I wouldn't be hear if it wasn't for a little extra $$-I think the motive for guys is free p***y

[Likinikki]

Shooter, I'm happy for you and for those who may have had some luck...but, I guess I'm cynical. I've just seen way too many sad endings through the years.

And, let's not confuse LOVE with the IDEA of LOVE. Like some have commented...that if someone is still paying (one way or another) is that really love or just security? And, if someone is in that type of relationship...isn't that more idealistic than realistic?

I suppose it all comes down to our own personal idea of what LOVE really is.

[Guest081519]

Originally Posted by **Karla**

I wouldn't be hear if it wasn't for a little extra $$-I think the motive for guys is free p***y

Oh, there is no such thing as free p***y. There is always a price to be paid. Whether emotional, or monitary.

[Guest010619]

Then again, there are some guys out there who have better relationships with their AFT's than with their SO's.

[mustang220]

I agree with you JJ. There is no such thing as Free p***y. It always always has a cost to it.

[kandiKay]

I think everyone's situation is unique. For me, while providing, I had a relationship with a client. It was paid at first but I was the one who put an end to the money when I realized I liked him. He said that was the day he knew the feelings were mutual. We are still friends now, years later and occasionally hook up but as far as the intense, happily ever after- not so much! He liked paying me, the idea, the sugar daddy thing.

On another note, I had a "situation" with another client after I'd stopped providing. Things were fun but we wanted different things. I realized after certain things were said, I will always be a provider in his eyes, even if I haven't done so in years. He will always see me as that...it's not an insult but the reality.

I think it takes two very special, self aware, mature and ADULT people who can communicate their wants, needs, desires while maintaining whatever boundaries were...laid out cuz there's nothing more sucky than being unpleasantly surprised.

Possible yes. Probable no. Look at the divorce rate!!!!

[Guest110213]

I have a relationship with a provider which now is no longer a provider. She is expecting our baby which should be born in the middle of August. We have invested about a year in this relationship and it has paid off. We are not living together because of my job but we will move in together soon. Because of her I have met several exotic dancers that are now Eccie members. Xiara, Melanie84 & Maya as well as others that my soon to be wife is inviting. Our relationship is very open and we at times have three-somes with others. The name that my girlfriend used to use as a exotic dancer / Provider was Miranda. So we shall see how thus develops.

[Guest081519]

Congratulations on your and your significant other's pregnancy, and congratulations on your relationship. I wish you three the best.

JJ

[macdeft]

we never really know where true love will find us

[Pepper_Springfield]

This is not a dating site like match.com. Recently this dude wanted an appt and I looked at his reviews and pm'ed the provider to see if he was ok to see. she then asked me please not to see him because it was her boyfriend and they are having unprotected sex. Wow! This was not her first eccie bf. Seriously go to a dating site instead of putting everyone at risk for diseases.

[latinalover]

FREE PUSSY RLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YEA RIGHT! ive never had free pussy in my life ive had so, few GF n never had and WOULD NEVER ACCEPT FREE PUSSY!

LL