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Originally Posted by Whispers
The NCNS for traveling providers being linked to Austin Providers was discussed on more than one occasion on ASPD.... A couple of the Houston girls brought it up...... I'm sure a little research and you can dig it back up...... Some of it came to a head after a ladies last trip to a Social here a little over a year ago....
There are always rumors... always back channel talk..... The latest talk is of exactly that.... A group of ladies that have banded together to only provide references to each other while undermining anyone's business that does not join their little group...... That's just the surface of the rumors surrounding them... add manipulation, control coercion and threats of reprisals should someone want out......
Seems to me like some of the ladies found themselves a new PIMP that just seems to be a female this time.....
There are always cliques.....
But it does seem to occur here a bit more........ I spoke to a San Antonio lady that is fed up with having her time wasted here in Austin...... She has no problems making ends meet on trips to Houston and Dallas but coming here is just not worth the effort lately.....
Deny it all you want... There is no way your not away of it if you are a regular female poster in the Austin area.....
I discount anything I here once, twice sometimes even a third time..... but when it comes from multiple people, both male and female......
I start to give it a little weight......
The names are known and shared and many of the guys will have nothing to do with any in the group as well as make sure they share the information with any guys inquiring to make sure others are aware.....
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HELL FUCKING YES!!!! I've literally had to stay off the boards to keep myself from being the one to stand up & say "there's something rotten in Austin" and it's contaminating our community. Platinum pussy syndrome? The ABSOLUTE root of all EVIL is GREED. You analyze any being considered to be evil and the root is a neverending thirst - a greed - for more than their share of POWER or MONEY or FAME or wtf-ever they need to feel satiated. *I choose sex. I have one hell of a greedy pussy!*
I've been on this trail for a year now. My intuition may fail me on occasions when I choose to help someone who down the line takes me for granted or fucks me over, but when it comes to our community, I'm on top of it! Sometimes I may appear to be a sentimental sot, but you can't deny my integrity, devotion or genuine love of the hobby and of those with whom I share my experiences. I've been a workaholic all my life so the environment I work within is one of the integral components affecting my success. When there's a disturbance in the force *stay w/ me Yoda* I feel it. There's been an insidious plague I can trace to TWO malicious wenchitistical hobag pimpettes who use their charisma, education, and controlling natures inappropriately to win over the naive or easily "whooped" WK's needed to jump in & cover their stinky asses when someone calls them out. *Is that considered name-calling?*
(Probably... OS)
How does that affect me? I have a repeat client rate of at least 70% because I am GENUINE. You want to know something about me? I'm an open-book. Clients can become friends if you maintain proper boundaries in your relationship.
***Perceptions and expectations will make or break ANY relationship.***
My clients cum *not HOT WHITE CUM* friends let me know when someone is bad-mouthing me or spreading rumors. Rumors are lies. Gossip can be either until proof is obtained. Hobbyists are some gossipy mutha fuckas. mmmhmmm We've all been given TMI on occasion and on occasion been guilty of doing the same. I'm no exception as I've humbled myself to another provider who has had her ups & downs in the hobby, but has always maintained a bevy of followers. This used to irk the hell out of me when I'd hear some of the "horror" stories, but the fact of the matter is, she's humbled herself on many occasions. Why? Because she's REAL. I can respect that.
Passing on info that you feel may prevent a bad experience for a valued client is simply good business - especially if they specify certain qualities they find unacceptable. If you include a disclaimer, for example "I've heard that ____ is great at giving ____ and maintains her professional demeanor when working BUT has been known to participate in (something we don't discuss), that's at least an attempt to be fair. However, attributing behaviours or qualities to a person in an attempt to maliciously undermine their character & reputation to further your own agenda is obviously "playing" dirty pool. "I don't accept references from ____ because she NEVER responds OR she does ___ OR uses ___. It's great when one of your clients contacts you to let you know you're being slammed for something that's not true. But who knows who's telling the truth, eh? This is when I employ the old "ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS" mantra. How many reports of "crazy bitch" are you hearing about that person? Are they coming from reputable sources? You know the drill. Pay attention to both sides of the equation. There may be some truth to the story and some facts may be skewed or have embellishments that distort how they are perceived. Manipulation is most effective when doled out in small doses. Insidious...
"Don't hate the playa. Hate the game", says a rather cocky wench to me. Well, what if I'm not PLAYING any fucking GAME? I don't consider my LIFE to be a GAME. It's a journey... a learning experience... an adventure! I want to live, laugh and love and spread good vibrations along the way. Take your negative, manipulative BS elsewhere so the rest of us can enjoy ourselves. You wanna be a pimp? Start your own damn board & take your progeny with you. Good riddance! That's what I'd like to say. When it comes down to it, some of the community actually LIKE playas. *blehhhh* Why do you think I don't care for topless clubs? Because I don't like hustlers. FAKE, GREEDY, CONNIVING HUSTLERS.
**Yes, I know that sounds judgemental. I'm TRYING to play Devil's advocate at least in "tone" here. Textual communications have limits ya' see.**
Not ALL those tiny little strippers are conniving liars seeking to empty your coffers into their bank accounts - but there's a bunch of them. Hell, there's even some sweet-talkin' needy greedy ladies here in hobbyland.
*GASP* Say it isn't so!!!! (How many of you guys are still waiting to collect on some prepaid session you thought sounded like a good idea?)
Yeah... Kat's on a roll here... Tangent gone wild after experiencing a surge of *HOT WHITE* energy that BURST into uncontrollable expression of elation over Whispers observations *CUM* exposure of activities affecting my adopted familia. Suppressing feelings has been proven to impact mental health and cause uncontrollable outbursts, haven't ya' heard?
I sincerely hope those of you who KNOW me *not the ones who just fuck me & leave* but the ones who REALLY share thoughts and ideas and are aware that I am a cognitive being will assure the rest of the populus that I am truly sane but have tendencies to let my passions override reason on occasion. *ahem*
To the Trollettes... Your blind willingness to follow those who wrap themselves in shiny clothing and issue commands disguised as "guidance" to insure you the success to which you are "entitled" is in actuality nothing but a cop out for not being true to your own values and sense of business ethics. We have to find our own formula for success based on individual qualities, skills, personality, and manner in which we interact with our prospective and eventually loyal clientele.
"How do you attract and keep repeat clients?" By being REAL, expressing your true interests and setting expectations clearly. You can focus your energies on appealing to the rich and affluent, but if there's no common thread it will be short-lived. Whispers doesn't care as long as you're professional and fuck the living hell out of him, I'll bet. LOL At least he's being HONEST.
A very wise man who mentored me at the beginning of this journey told me that as long as you're GENUINE, you will have LONGEVITY in this business. I believe him because no matter how much I let myself worry, I ALWAYS manage. There are many straight-shooters here - provider & hobbyist alike - despite the low-hanging limbs obscuring their presence. Don't raze the forest in an effort to head off the oak wilt. You need STURDY, WISENED rootstock for future saplings. *Yeah, what ChrisS said in Economics 101 a few posts back* I'm one of those frilly writers who gets long-winded on the details like Dean R. Koontz. *Love ya', Man*
If you don't get my point, read my ad that I wrote hours ago & hadn't posted cuz I thought I should catch up on the forums to guage the climate first. HA! That's TFF now that I think about it cuz I hadn't read this thread before an hour or so ago. That's how long I've been TYPING this ridiculously LONG post. *WHEW* I feel 10 yrs younger & 20 lbs lighter! Everyone should purge themselves like this on occasion *preferably using a Word doc on your personal system & not presented to the community like I am doing* SPANK MYSELF!
Whispers, I've seen your "mug" before & frankly thought you were probably a mafioso type. Just an opinion. I think it was the intensity of your gaze. I have a sneaking suspicion you may have known my mother as a matter of fact. Intuition? Possibly. We'll have to chat sometime if you think you can tolerate my silliness.
I may have expressed some of my views before completing analysis and will clarify as needed when I start getting slam-dunked by pissed off members. There's really only a handful of people here I would tell to kiss my ass because I believe them to be part of the problem. For the most part, I have an unconditional love for humanity regardless of individual failings. I'm certainly not perfect. I ramble! LOL Diversity must walk hand in hand with tolerance to work. See?
My soapbox collapsed... leaving me to stumble awkwardly away from the mic stand... and leaving it to the next brave soul willing to speak out.
I fuckin' love you!
P.S. I don't belong to any cliques. Those are for judgemental snobs who think they are entitled to more than their share of the spoils. I'd rather spoil those who enlist me to do so. XOXOXO