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Originally Posted by lostforkate
i like your input, but I think smoking can be sexy. it is not on my bucket list, but I am fine burning one with a provider in the right setting is relaxing.
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As a European I smoke sometimes cigarettes. Not to the level of addictedness, but sometimes as a stress relief. However, it is an absolute NO GO to smoke with or in front of clients. Ever.
However, if a client invites me to go out in one of these "cigar bars" we have in Europe, I share a good cigar as well.
I do think that habits like smoking and drinking alcohol is something that should not be done in front of clients, unless you are cordially invited, and even then , of course , in a moderate way. That is a kind of "unspoken" rule in the general world of escorting, it does not really contribute to HDHs only in my opinion.
As to my joke with the english language, cursing and swear words are ok in europe (not in an overrated matter, and I try to not use them, for sure) AS LONG as you contribute something intelligent and classy in a conversation. In Europe we don`t see "swear" words as such a bad thing like americans do. We put emphasize on the "content" of the discussion, not the ornamental frames. For me personally, a person that is well spoken and has nothing interesting or intelligent to say, is as a matter of fact uninteresting, no matter how words are put , and sentences lack the "naughty" words. The content is what matters. If you have something to say, say it. If not, STFU
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We call that "creating hot air out of nothing" or "using oxygen in an abusive manner" :-)
This is especially valid, since men in Europe tend to book expensive escorts to accompagny them in business settings. When talking with their business partners, having dinner etc. So , if you have to say something, the CONTENT is important. And the humour. As a lady partaking in such dinners, best is you say nothing, and if you say something, it has to be funny and lighten up the athmosphere, and it has to be something intelligent, and not something that makes everyone yawn out of boredom. In such contexts, jokes can contain also "naughty words" or even "swear" words, as it can be a fun element. But of course not in a plump or rude offensive manner. But in a way of exchanging cultural naughtiness and intellectual qualities.
But don`t embarass yourself with saying something and it is stupid , and everyone - except you - is aware of that. That is what is considered really RUDE in Europe. If you are highly intelligent , say something intelligent, people find interesting, minor mishaps , like swear words, are forgiven, if put in proper context
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The content of the conversation matters and not how well you try "not" to curse, e.g. the french for example, even when highly educated or in top positions , do use swear words a lot.
In Europe (let`s say western europe) we have a general understanding, that if you reached something professionally, are an intellectual people listen to, and you have "made yourself", that some people tend to "not behave" properly, because they "can afford" to, as they are so good or skilled at what they do, that people can`t afford to NOT hire them. So - actually - to be able to pull of whatever you want to do or feel like doing, is not a bad thing, it can be seen as a "quality measurement". People look at that and say, God, look at this guy, he must be important to pull that off and not be thrown out of the bar, restaurant, work etc. . It`s only bad if your on the low end of the "food" chain, because then - you can face the consequences.
That is just my Euro-take on this, since HDHs do most often work internationally.
Of course, and now we come to the next point of mine: There is something called "social skills" and "cultural nuances" any escort should be aware of. Which means, if I am hanging out with an american client, or even in the USA with an american client,
for sure I adapt to the rules that are deemed appropriate in "their" culture. Which means, absolute no use of "swear" words.
However, if I hang out with different cultures, a different set of rules might apply, and in some contexts it is ok to use "rude" words, if you are poking fun, or have a humorous conversation.
In the USA this is an absolute No-Go. But, it does not mean that people who "adapt" are less skilled or less HDHs. I think,
social awareness, cultural awareness is something that needs to be well learned and enhanced all the time.
Before I went to Portugal, I studied exactly what kind of words you should not use, how to appear when you need something, to say "obrigada" instead of "Gracias" (you will be surprised how many people don`t seem to understand that, and how offensive it is to portuguese culture - as they have a kind of competition since centuries with the spanish culture - if you say "gracias" to a portuguese. And many many people DO exactly that)
So there are the slight things you need to investigate to appear properly.
Also the dress codes:
While in Europe you can wear fancy pointy heels in a class enviroment, even with clients, in the USA you rather should go for the more conservative attire, specially when you are an escort, since you don`t want to draw attention.
So - no pointy heels
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These are very small things that can make a BIG difference, wherever you are.
In Lisbon, however, if you go out , you usually carry your heels in a bag and wear flats, since you can hardly walk in heels in the city at all, you put on the heels in the restaurants, and fancy bars, and then back in the bag. "Calzada portuguesa" it is called. If you run around in Lisbon with high heels people stare at you. No one does that.
No one wants that
here`s a pic of the "Calzada portuguesa"
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