How many guys become emotionally involved with providers?

[whitechocolate]

I think one can roleplay a serious passionate committed relationship without it going further. It makes the time with the provider that much more meaningful. It is similar to two married parties having an intense affair which can go nowhere and they know it but while they are together, it is ultra hotttt and much more intense than most sessions with a provider. Obviously not for everyone and most cannot do it but many can and have lots of fun doing it.

[Owlman]

Originally Posted by Jackie S

Owlman, you sound like the young nerd who just saw his first naked set of titties.
You have to keep this shit in perspective. All of the Ladies who you will meet on this board are Hookers. They do this for a living, and most are damned good at it.
You are a John. Every guy on here who has seen one of these Ladies is also a John.
If you loose sight of that, you are going to start thinking like you are in the real world. You are not.

Heck, I see only one Provider. I have been seeing her for going on three years, more times than not twice a week. We have probably "had sex", (that encompasses a lot of things), over 300 times. I like her, and by all accounts, she likes me.
But, she is a Hooker, and I am a John. I get experience the pleasure of the company of a beautiful woman, she gets to enjoy all the things she can buy with what I give her.
That's it. Try to make it more, and you are heading down the Boulevard of Broken Dreams.

Actually I am an older guy who has been around quite a bit but remain curious about why people do what they do and act as they do.

I have met various escorts. Some were polished and sophisticated. They used the profession to make money and contacts and move on. There are others who were pretty but did not take advantage of potential opportunities. Then there were the ones on drugs who lived from day-to-day.

I have met guys like those who do a lot of the posting here and guys like the Nick who posts and wonder what are the resons for their different outlooks.

I personally have not had any close relationships with a provider although I was tempted to do so with a lady who retired and moved in with a guy before I had made up my mind about moving forward.

[Smoke2nd]

Originally Posted by whitechocolate

I think one can roleplay a serious passionate committed relationship without it going further. It makes the time with the provider that much more meaningful. It is similar to two married parties having an intense affair which can go nowhere and they know it but while they are together, it is ultra hotttt and much more intense than most sessions with a provider. Obviously not for everyone and most cannot do it but many can and have lots of fun doing it.

I've had a deeper connection with a couple providers (whether good or bad) than just the normal business relationship. The sex is as good as it gets when there is some level of connection there. The maturity to handle it is needed to make sure it doesn't get uncomfortable for either side.

[Trey]

Smash and dash people.

I recently had a girl not a provider who wanted to be my side chick. I fucked her once then she kept sending me txt. I couldn't stand it I was like I got one chick at home I have to hear everyday, why the fuck do I want another. So I cut it off, yep free pussy got cut off she wasn't bad either. Honestly I truly feel I pay them to leave. I don't say that to be mean I enjoy my time with them. However I like to decide when that time will be, and I don't like to play txt tag.

[Sarunga]

Originally Posted by trey

I recently had a girl not a provider who wanted to be my side chick. I fucked her once then she kept sending me txt. I couldn't stand it I was like I got one chick at home I have to hear everyday, why the fuck do I want another. So I cut it off, yep free pussy got cut off she wasn't bad either. Honestly I truly feel I pay them to leave. I don't say that to be mean I enjoy my time with them. However I like to decide when that time will be, and I don't like to play txt tag.

Nope...not free.

[Zabrina Sarafina]

What do you mean by "emotionally involved"??

If you're a bona fide human being you are emotionally involved with every other human on this planet whether directly or indirectly.

To not be "emotionally involved" to repress emotions would be inhumane unnatural and no better than being a robot

Of course I get emotionally involved with my clients. And the few people I can't make that connection, people who are emotionally shut down, well then the date is pretty much meaningless

I am not a robot

[JDNorthface]

Originally Posted by Zabrina Sarafina

What do you mean by "emotionally involved"??

If you're a bona fide human being you are emotionally involved with every other human on this planet whether directly or indirectly.

To not be "emotionally involved" to repress emotions would be inhumane unnatural and no better than being a robot

Of course I get emotionally involved with my clients. And the few people I can't make that connection, people who are emotionally shut down, well then the date is pretty much meaningless

I am not a robot

+1

[AllisonofHouston]

Originally Posted by trey

Smash and dash people.

I totaly agree...keep it simple, relationships in the hobby never work..like what was said early, dont shit where you work...just have fun !!!

[Owlman]

Originally Posted by Zabrina Sarafina

What do you mean by "emotionally involved"??

I think that the emotionally involved wording is implying falling in love.

I am falling for a provider. I am not sure how far things will go. She has been in the profession off and on for more than a decade.

[Jackie S]

Falling for a Provider. Well, what you are falling for is a Hooker. It's that simple.

I suggest you read my post #29 again. It sounds like to me you are getting a hard dick confused with being in love.

A good Hooker is supposed to make you feel exactly the way you feel. Satisfyed. That great feeling of having been with a beautiful woman. That emotional and physical high that great sex has that very few other human activities can match.

But for her, you are probably just the 3d client of any given day, she performs this highly trained act for as many time a day as it takes to make the rent and feed the kids.

Nobody can read the heart of another person. But the ever present, and clear realities of the real world are often times clouded by the haze of the moment. Especially if that moment is a gratifying as many of these Ladies can make it.

Go back and read post #29.

[johnniewalkerblack]

I've been emotionally involved with some providers and I don't think its a good ideal. The problem is that when they get desperate for money, they will be calling you. For example, one asked me to bail her brother out of jail. Another asked to help pay for car repairs. Another,any time her kids needed something, my phone was ringing. Of course, all got no's as responses. Oh yeah, if she has a drug habbit, your phone won't stop ringing because she will want you to see her so she can get money to get high. As Trey said, Smash and Dash. For providers that I love to be with, I try to see them at least once a month.

[JDNorthface]

Originally Posted by Owlman

I think that the emotionally involved wording is implying falling in love.

I am falling for a provider. I am not sure how far things will go. She has been in the profession off and on for more than a decade.

Owlman,

There's nothing wrong, per se, with falling in love. And yes, providers are worthy and capable of it. What is not in question here is the worthiness of the individual. What Jackie is warning you against is the inherent deception in the relationship that fails (miserably) to form the basis for anything long-lasting.

We all understand your feelings. In fact, if we're all honest, those of us who have been in the hobby for awhile have all felt them. I remember several years ago when I moved my price bracket up to the next level, I saw a lady who was beyond professional. She was the woman of my dreams. Beautiful, smart, witty, humble and passionate beyond my wildest dreams. She was also expensive and a great actor. I saw her once and walked away (barely) making plans to rearrange my whole life so I could spend every moment with her. So I cut it off cold turkey. Never contacted her again. Funny thing, she never contacted me either. I mean, during the session, she drooled lustfully that she couldn't get enough of me. And she never called afterward? Because she is trained to do that. It's part of the game.

She wasn't "in love with me." She wasn't even lusting after me. And I was experienced enough to know it. So I stopped because I knew my own feelings could easily be tricked into thinking something different. It is a game and if she plays it well, it is natural that you will "feel" like you're in love.

Jackie is only partially right in his post no. 40. You do need to reread post 29. But you also need to reread his post no 40. Multiple times.

Listen to your brothers. I don't deny that a relationship with your lady friend is possible under different circumstances. After all, she is a worthy human capable of love and true feelings. But I would caution you that a relationship that begins to form as a result of repeated, incredible sessions is based on a fantasy and will lead only to heartache and damage.

If we can help let us know. If we need to take you out, get you liquored up, and smack you with a board to knock some sense into you, we will.

All the best.

[papito]

It's human nature ,some are stronger than others emotionally and understand. there sex addicts and the sex and love addicts two categories if your in the love you get emotional involved quicker LOL!

[RALPHEY BOY]

Originally Posted by Raquel Ryder

Iv been talking to a guy i met two years ago when i first started. he just divorce and new to the hobby world. and hes been seeing me alot lately about three times a week. and now wants to go out of town for the weekend. i like him but cant get emotionally involed. i like having a good time and luv roll play. i think hes never met anyone like me and mainly just in lust. i just was his maid Maria, tonight. lol he loved it. Bottom line not ready to stop playing this game so im not getting emotionally involved.

at some point you need to decide is this worth or not??
seeing this guy 3 times a week may end up in a mess, perhaps you gals need to focus more on what I am doing here?
as opposed to $$$ $$$ and more $$$,

example: a retired Provider friend of mine had a reg she would see 3 times a month for years.. then she retired and he kept on and on and on, emailing, texting, calling, driving by her house, and then he starts to email me since he knew I was friends with her... nut job!!!

just be careful what you wish for in life...

Raquel I am not beating you up, just pointing out what can happen...

[boardman]

Originally Posted by JDNorthface

Owlman,

There's nothing wrong, per se, with falling in love. And yes, providers are worthy and capable of it. What is not in question here is the worthiness of the individual. What Jackie is warning you against is the inherent deception in the relationship that fails (miserably) to form the basis for anything long-lasting.

We all understand your feelings. In fact, if we're all honest, those of us who have been in the hobby for awhile have all felt them. I remember several years ago when I moved my price bracket up to the next level, I saw a lady who was beyond professional. She was the woman of my dreams. Beautiful, smart, witty, humble and passionate beyond my wildest dreams. She was also expensive and a great actor. I saw her once and walked away (barely) making plans to rearrange my whole life so I could spend every moment with her. So I cut it off cold turkey. Never contacted her again. Funny thing, she never contacted me either. I mean, during the session, she drooled lustfully that she couldn't get enough of me. And she never called afterward? Because she is trained to do that. It's part of the game.

She wasn't "in love with me." She wasn't even lusting after me. And I was experienced enough to know it. So I stopped because I knew my own feelings could easily be tricked into thinking something different. It is a game and if she plays it well, it is natural that you will "feel" like you're in love.

Jackie is only partially right in his post no. 40. You do need to reread post 29. But you also need to reread his post no 40. Multiple times.

Listen to your brothers. I don't deny that a relationship with your lady friend is possible under different circumstances. After all, she is a worthy human capable of love and true feelings. But I would caution you that a relationship that begins to form as a result of repeated, incredible sessions is based on a fantasy and will lead only to heartache and damage.

If we can help let us know. If we need to take you out, get you liquored up, and smack you with a board to knock some sense into you, we will.

All the best.

Do you mean that when providers flirt with me on the boards it's just cuz they want my money? I thought they all really loved me...