What would your friends think?

[LynnT]

Originally Posted by Chevalier

For the ladies: Before you began escorting,(edit) what stereotypes did you have about P4P clients, and how (if at all) have your experiences changed your opinion?

That is more about petting, fun, companionship, not the dirty. With my clientele anyways.



With some clients I would do off the clock or food time. I gatta eat dont I? Im here to make money but some people are cool and a cool peep is a cool peep business or not.. or a regular that sees me many times a month.. whats some free lunch time for someone that pays you a $1000 a month.. All depends on the client and the report you establish.


I have 2 people that know I dont trust anyone else to be two faced..

[guest060112-3]

I've done a free meal from time to time if I want to check up on how a favored client is doing when I'm passing through town and can't schedule a date. I want them to know that I still value them, but most of the time, I just schedule and we shoot the breeze for fifteen minutes before or afterward catching up.

When it comes to meals, this is why I offer a clock free option for anyone scheduling three hours so long as it works with my schedule. That way we can hang out for awhile getting some food and getting to know one another, and then hang out some more

But there's not that pressure from the clock for either one of us.

[rrabbit6926]

I enjoy good company and if I click with a certain provider after our seccion and we are both hungry I will asked if they care to join me for dinner. This time would be OTC per say. I don't presure the ladies that say NO but have meet some great people, meet my ATF that way .

[heidilynnla]

Most people can't understand this hobby world. There are rediculous stereotypes on both ends. The average person isn't going to understand and will judge.

Hobbyists are all disgusting, desperate men who HAVE to pay for sex (thank goodness that isn't true!)
Providers or "HOOKERS" are all druggie bimbos that act and dress trashy.

I came very close to telling my best friend. I know she wouldn't judge me and we would still be besties, but I am not going to put her in a position where she has to keep my secret. She has enough to worry about raising her family.

For now, I will keep and enjoy my little secret and my fun hobbyist friends.

Originally Posted by hobbyprojb

The Older you get in life, the less you care about what people think. If your friends think your a loser for seeing a provider..maybe they are not your real friends..If your family thinks your a loser for seeing a provider..maybe they just need to step back & respect your decisions as an adult.

[Pink Floyd]

Originally Posted by rrabbit6926

I enjoy good company and if I click with a certain provider after our seccion and we are both hungry I will asked if they care to join me for dinner. This time would be OTC per say. I don't presure the ladies that say NO but have meet some great people, meet my ATF that way .

See that is my point. If you are hungry I will feed you. You are suppossed to take Viagra on an empty stomach, so if I don't take Vitamin V before a lunch date, or just before before a real date, I am always hungry at the end of the date. The girl I saw on the 4th was really hungry when we were finished so I asked her if she wanted to grab a bite, and she was trying to figure out how that could work with her schedule. I told her I was going to Walmart. She texted me at Walmart that she couldn't fit it in, but I could tell she wanted to go. The schedule didn't work out, but it was no big deal. Life is meant to be fun, our anchestors bore the burden of getting us to where we are now.

[coven]

I make a habit of taking my favorite ladies out to dinner or lunch when their schedule allows. I have take groups of up to 3 of them at the same time and always enjoy the company, as well as the knowing looks from the waiters.

Loser? I don't think so. We all have a great time, good food, good conversation and good fun afterward.

[guest060112-3]

^ see, THAT would be awesome. There's one forum that does meet and greets and I think that's the best thing ever to not only meet potential men, but also gab with the girls and make new friends who are already in the lifestyle.

Going out with a bunch of women and a man or two would be fun!

[PODarkness]

When I was younger, I had a job that on occasion, required me to do things that most people would consider too dangerous or frightening to even think about, regardless of the money involved. I was good at it. I was not frightened by it, and sometimes it was actually fun. I was able to charge my employer a lot of money on those occasions, and he was happy to pay it.

The situation I just described has many parallels to being a provider. I'd like to carry the analogy a step further. My employer would have either laughed at me or fired me if I had asked him to pay me the same high rate on the other, less eventful days.

I would certainly consider extending some sessions to include dinner, but I can't think of anybody, man woman or child, that I would pay to have dinner with me at the same rate as I pay for BCD activities. The ads and websites that I see with dinner dates on the menu don't usually discount the dinner portion of the session to a rate that realistically (imo) reflects the activity. I'm not bothered by it, but I'm not buying it.

Ladies, consider the many special rare talents you possess that put you into a position to charge, and get, $200 - $300 - $400 an hour for your BCD time. Some of them may have been natural gifts, but some of them may have taken a lot of time, effort, and sheer determination to acquire. (thank you, by the way)

Are there any talents you possess (this can be considered rhetorical if you like) that put you into a position to justify $100 - $200 an hour to eat dinner? More power to you if you get it, but realistically, can you justify it?

Get those rates for eating a free meal if you can, and I'll never say a bad word about it, but that, and not any perceived stigmas about the act of paying itself, is why I'll be eating alone tonight.

[Old-T]

Originally Posted by heidilynnla

Most people can't understand this hobby world. There are rediculous stereotypes on both ends. The average person isn't going to understand and will judge.

Hobbyists are all disgusting, desperate men who HAVE to pay for sex (thank goodness that isn't true!)
Providers or "HOOKERS" are all druggie bimbos that act and dress trashy.

I’ve seen exactly that attitude much too often, and a couple times I almost laughed in the person’s face because of the timing. Too many people who have no actual knowledge assume the TV and press stereotype is the only reality.

First one was in a hotel restaurant with a lady who was spending the weekend with me. We had slept in, and then stayed in bed a while longer enjoying the morning and each other. At breakfast the waiter was one of those who thinks they are your close friend even though you have never seen them before. Towards the end of the meal he tells us how he much prefers seeing married couples like us come in, rather than “guys with bimbos and hookers”.

The second was even more absurd timing. My ATF had invited me to be her date for the evening at a major DC socialite event. Her girlfriend, also a provider, was at our table with her paying date—a political appointee level person. I recognized a number of other ladies in attendance that my ATF had pointed out to me at various times. My friend and her friend were dressed very appropriately in evening gowns and looked splendid (of course I am biased).

One of the other couples at the table was a loud, opinionated lady who was aghast at how some of the women at the event were dresses and spent the majority of the evening telling all at our table how shameful and disgusting those “tramps” were, and how she was sure those dressed like that were “gold diggers or whores”. My friend and her girlfriend put on a show of agreeing and goading her on. The woman, having a fair number of drinks with her meal, was happy to keep going and get louder and louder about it as her poor husband tried to sink under the table while turning crimson. I bit my tongue to keep from laughing and never said a word, as did the appointee.

Later that night my ATF told me the woman’s husband was a frequent client of her girlfriend.