Dating a providers

[Carmelita DeLeón]

I agree with EVERYTHING you said 100% ..

P.s love your pictures

Originally Posted by Audreyg

IMHO, you don't. I do not date clients.

Also, personally I would not want to hide it from a partner, but I have no judgement of a provider choosing to do that. SO MANY MEN say they are totally ok with it, but ultimately cannot handle it.

I took down my online dating profile, but was open about my profession it while it was up. I got a zillion disrespectful and awful PMs, to the point where I didn't want to check my account anymore and eventually just took it down.

[121270]

I seen some of the dating profiles stating that if you are looking for a hook up keep moving.I messaged her but I must not be good looking enough I got no response. So instead of dinner and a movie I'll book a session and go right for dessert lol

[stockn2468]

Well in my instance, I didn't know she was a provider at first. We may have had a chance to date in real life. As soon as I found out I turned into a John for her it seems. I really wasn't out for a hookup at all. She just seemed like a nice woman that I wanted to hang out with and get to know. Just because I found out she was a provider shouldn't mean anything on a personal level if that's where things were started. Just my opinion.

[Melissa Madyson]

Providers like to DATE REGULAR MEN in their real world off the clock life.... I think sometimes people pretend too much and lets face it it is what it is.

Just like a day at the office, when I leave my office, I don't want to come home and have to discuss or deal with what went on at the office. lol
I just want my real world stuff to happen.

If a guy meets me in my work environment, then that is what it is. WORK, now if HE falls for me, and begins to have a problem with me providing, then HE has 2 choices, stop seeing me, or TAKE ME OFF THE MARKET, because at the end of the day, my work comes 1st.

M.M.

[turbo-dog]

Originally Posted by Spontaneouscb28

If u really enjoy someone's company, its not gonna matter what their profession is

I try to stay away from drug dealers, hate to date people with that profession.

[Audreyg]

Thank you Carmelita!

Also, OMFG you're gorgeous.

[Audreyg]

Originally Posted by Melissa Madyson

Providers like to DATE REGULAR MEN in their real world off the clock life.... I think sometimes people pretend too much and lets face it it is what it is.

Just like a day at the office, when I leave my office, I don't want to come home and have to discuss or deal with what went on at the office. lol
I just want my real world stuff to happen.

If a guy meets me in my work environment, then that is what it is. WORK, now if HE falls for me, and begins to have a problem with me providing, then HE has 2 choices, stop seeing me, or TAKE ME OFF THE MARKET, because at the end of the day, my work comes 1st.

M.M.

I totally agree with this! I don't have the energy to take care of someone else's feelings about my job. If they aren't ok with it, I'm just not interested.

Also, I think in regards to clients "falling for me".... I've had a lot of favorite clients, but I've never wanted to pursue a relationship with any of them. My guess is that if I tried too, even if a gent said he had caught the feels for me, he wouldn't ACTUALLY want to go through with it. Isn't one of the most appealing things about this hobby the lack of strings and commitment? I'm fairly certain they would all run for the hills if they realized HOW MUCH MORE WORK it would be for them to meet my expectations in a "real world" relationship. Client/provider relationships are much easier and more fun, IMHO.

[ZorahMatta]

Originally Posted by supersix

thats what I was afraid of, well at this point im like a sugar daddy we see each other every week, we always go over on time and do other things. I guess thats our relationship

You are acknowledging that she already gives you more than you pay for on her own initiative.

The way I see it, asking for even more would be a sign of ungratefulness, of taking for granted the extra time and "other things" she is already providing you for free.

If she wants to give your more, she will let you know. It's on her to cross that line.

[stockn2468]

I do appreciate all the input. I feel better now that it happened the way it did.

[ZorahMatta]

You're only seeing this situation from your perspective, and that's what's preventing you from understanding her reaction.

You know you're just a guy looking to date a nice woman. You know you weren't looking for a hookup. You know she's a provider and, after seeing her profile, maybe her civ name as well.

The lady, on the other hand, doesn't know the first thing about you, except whatever you chose to share on your profile - which, for all she knows, could be made up and not real. All she knows is that this complete stranger on a dating website/app is aware of her line of work, one that comes with considerable risks and stigma. She certainly didn't know what your intention was when you brought up her career choice in early contact and before she chose to volunteer that information to you.

She might have erred on the side of caution, but trust me on this: as a woman, that's a matter of survival, and even more so when you're a sex worker. Maybe consider this next time you run into a similar situation.

Originally Posted by stockn2468

Well in my instance, I didn't know she was a provider at first. We may have had a chance to date in real life. As soon as I found out I turned into a John for her it seems. I really wasn't out for a hookup at all. She just seemed like a nice woman that I wanted to hang out with and get to know. Just because I found out she was a provider shouldn't mean anything on a personal level if that's where things were started. Just my opinion.

[DasAmebas]

This has turned out to be an interesting and insightful thread.

[Melissa Madyson]

Yes very interesting thread... I am enjoying everyone's input....
Good night everyone....
M.M.

[GemmaParadise]

If I meet someone as a client, they will never be a romantic interest. I do have very deep and meaningful friendships with some of my clients but I would not date a client under any circumstances. If a gentleman asks once I will gently refuse. If he asks again after one refusal the professional relationship will come to an end.

I have no issues dating and there are plenty of people out there for whom my career is not an issue. Monogamy is only favored by some.

[Audreyg]

Originally Posted by GemmaParadise

If I meet someone as a client, they will never be a romantic interest. I do have very deep and meaningful friendships with some of my clients but I would not date a client under any circumstances. If a gentleman asks once I will gently refuse. If he asks again after one refusal the professional relationship will come to an end.

I have no issues dating and there are plenty of people out there for whom my career is not an issue. Monogamy is only favored by some.

YES

[stockn2468]

As weird as it may seem. Once I find the right woman in my life I would not be against monogamy.