What do you base your provider judgements on?

[Next Best Thing]

Originally Posted by Buzzword

I like a provider that makes me feel comfortable and desirable, without making it seem phoney. Looks are important, but attitude is what keeps you coming back. GFE, is a really what I crave from a Provider, anything less, and it just seems like sex and bad acting. There are some great providers in upstate NY, and there are some average ones to.
A provider with good looks and a great body will always get a first date, a provider with a good attitude and great personality will get multiple dates and good reviews....."as long as she also easy on the eyes".....

That last part. In quotes. I find that impossible to get away from. It's like the name of the game.

[camouflage]

Originally Posted by Next Best Thing

The emphasis on "behavior" surprises me.

There are a couple of things that could be described as behaviors that are disqualifiers for me - throwing up, acting like ghetto trash in my immediate presence, pretending to ignore me, outright rudeness, arrogance - that kind of shit.

She's not pretending

[Guest072323]

Originally Posted by camouflage

She's not pretending

Exactly.....

[Steve_NYS]

The smaller things for me include:

A little GFE and providing some nice afterplay. I don't want to feel that I'm being rushed out the door immediately afterwards.

The extras you mentioned--like water, wine & toiletries--won't necessarily get me to visit her, but they'll likely get me to visit her again.

And cleanliness is very important--and that includes the provider, the sheets, and the environment.

[cowboy8055]

Originally Posted by brianjackson

I will take a young hottie just going through the motions any day over someone I don't find attractive no matter what they do.

When I started hobbying I had that same attitude. But hooking up with gals with no enthusiasm even if they're young and hot gets old. Especially if their menu is limited and they can't leave their phones alone for 30mins. I agree you have to be at least somewhat attracted to a gal for it to work. But that doesn't mean they have to be a hot young spinner which seems to be the gold standard for many. I've seen GND's with much more sex appeal than many of these young spinners from BP.

[brasil]

I agree with many of the previous comments, such as easy on the eyes, good attitude and GFE. Here are a couple of other points, that don't seem to have been explicitly covered.
1. Sexiness and seductiveness. A woman who by objectives standards may not be beautiful may be highly attractive.
2. Someone who is interesting (as opposed to boring) in ways other than sexual activities. I guess I am talking about some combination of personality and intelligence here. An outgoing personality ads to the fun. By intelligence I don't necessarily mean one's level of education, I admire raw intelligence and street smarts.

[Carlos Danger]

semi incoherent party girls have had immense success around here. Let's include listlessness as an underrated attribute whew

[Zollner]

She has to be good looking, have excellent personal cleanliness, HWP, and have a friendly attitude.

[wotbaby]

The experience overall should be uplifting and it should be something I'd be able to masturbate to later on.

So: A good accomodating attitude is nice, where the girl knows how to be a fuck toy, a lady, a girlfriend, a charmer, a seductress, a pornstar, a whore, are turn ons. This is what good sex is made of. It's not even about orgasm. It's about the aesthetic phenomenom of hooking up.

Everything else for me is secondary. But presentation (hair, attractive clothes, casual or not) matters. Hygiene matters -- Girls whose crotches smell like seafood gutters makes it very hard for me to have a good time.

[Plastic Man]

[hittingcoach]

Personality is almost always #1. Who wants to spend time and money on someone who is an ass. We get that at home!

[TSlyC]

I'll weigh in as my choices often seem out of step with the hobbyist community.

When I hobby I'm looking for a girl to fuck me the way I want to be fucked at the agreed upon time, and leave at the agreed upon time.

From this premise, three things emerge as fundamentally important: (1)Being on time; (2)Providing services paid for,for the duration paid for;(3)Catering to my preferences and expectations of sex work.

(1) Being on time.
Only two providers out of the dozens I've seen have ever arrived to me at the time they said they would. This means not very early, and not very late, within 10 minutes on either side of the time is fine. I live my life with my engagements back to back, so 25 minutes early may leave you running into somebody, and 25 minutes late leave me unable to complete the full length of our session. That's how I work, and it's how I make money to pay for this hobby.

(2) Providing services paid for, for the duration paid for.
Many providers promise services, e.g. Greek and try to back out. They claim it's BBBJ then claim that they do it better CBJ. They say they have a wide open menu, but refuse anything that is "personal" to them. This is bullshit, but common bullshit.

(3) Catering to my preferences and expectations of sex work.
You're not my girlfriend. You're not my wife. I enjoy conversation, but the veiling of paying for sucking and fucking with pervasive "GFE" and sappy conduct have led to a substantial rise in White Knights and less interest in the actual sex acts being performed. "The experience", "the atmosphere", "feeling comfortable", and "feeling desired" have come to be more important than a hot wet mouth that can make you shoot off. Secondly, this cutesy, innocent, naive thing boggles my mind. This isn't what I want from a partner, and not from a girl I'm paying to fuck my brains out. A sex worker to me SHOULD be borderline trashy. It's the taboo, the nastiness that you can't get from your girlfriend. It's the feeling that this woman will cross lines others won't. It's the joy of fucking a self-professed slut without the societal drawbacks. Every girl comes to my door dressed in sundresses and sandals and every time I hope she'll go in the bathroom and put on her fishnets, platform heels and show me her big fake tits.


Everything else I can deal with and make the best of.

[Guest072323]

with a sprinkle of cuntiness.....

[dubstepper69]

1. Personality, energy and passion during the meeting
2. Body type is not super important, they can be on the heavier side but still be sexy due to there confidence.
3. Cleanliness, as far as location and personal hygiene.
4. Menu for sure.
5. Photos "YES" recent photos not from there teenage days. I want to know what you look like now.
6. Sell me the fantasy, make me believe it's about me. I see ads that say "treat you like a king", and it must mean Burger King. I like to feel appreciated because I appreciate the efforts of a good provider.
That's it pretty much, boo me.

[Guest031416-2]

Good personality. Don't want to feel rushed out the door.
Good menu, current pics, good reviews if available.