The frustrations involved with not being able to get it up, get it hard, and get it on. Let's discuss.

[Guest111514]

dam .. i going to see melannie_star

[OldGrump]

Pumps, pills and needles have failed me. I do find I can get a slight rise by a close hug. Keep your hips close to mine. Wrap your arms around me. Don't rush into any activities. Just let your eyes sparkle and my hands roam.

If we move into an activity and it fails, don't try too hard to raise the dead, just snuggle up and ignore the annoyance. A slow BBBJ is nice even if it is limp. At the end of an hour, your attitude and closeness will send me home happy, but pissed at myself.

[muffin101]

Oral resuscitation...

Keeping it in the mouth and hum away...

Even if it was unsuccessful, it'd be a sweet gesture anyways.

Don't plan to fuck...

Just tell him "Honey, I'm gonna just keep it in my mouth and see what happens mmmmkay?"

[8701]

Originally Posted by muffin101

Oral resuscitation...

Keeping it in the mouth and hum away...

Even if it was unsuccessful, it'd be a sweet gesture anyways.

Don't plan to fuck...

Just tell him "Honey, I'm gonna just keep it in my mouth and see what happens mmmmkay?"

+1 Muff great answer my brother!

[Halfbad]

Originally Posted by BrownSugarBaby

That's just plain cruel!



That is f*cking brilliant! I've never considered doing this outside of my femdom sessions. Will have to implement this technique with my own personal twist one day.



I have many toys, but some of them are not for everybody!

Its trite but VERY true, the primary sex organ is the BRAIN . . . wiggle your way in there and you might be surprised!!

[lda523287]

Originally Posted by melannie_star

This is why I love my provocative outfits when expecting a guest.

While I am getting dressed.. and doing my make up, I like to look in the mirror
and see if it is boner material...LOL
Still leaving something to the imagination, of course

The majority of my friends are over 50 years of age..
so I tend to take a different approach, while still being there seductress

Upon arriving I always do a penis check while I am giving you a kiss.

Majority of time.. junior will be at full attention.
If not.. then I know how to approach the situation.

As I lay you down and do a body to body slide,
I allow your hands to roam freely as they wish.
Meantime giving light kisses to your neck and all the way down to your stomache.

By the time I reach down south.. if junior is still sleeping
It is time to pay attention to your nuggets..
tickle, firm grip( but not too firm) then let my mouth go to work on them..
Also starting down at the base and just sucking without the up and down motion
sometimes works as well. As you start feeling it get hard in your mouth..
then start doing the bobble head..lol

Licking never hurts too..
Meantime giving your guest a visual..

Mirrors can help a great deal too!!
Always fun..

Dirty talk..Lots of Dirty talk
But only if it is natural..

and as previously mentioned..
patience.. the more you try to rush things,
the less success you will have.
That goes for man and woman!

Love this topic!
Good one BSB

Edit: Sorry for my reading comprehension.. just noticed you did say GUYS,, oops.
not my intentions to butt in.

melannie, you rock!

[Guest112814]

Originally Posted by Halfbad

Its trite but VERY true, the primary sex organ is the BRAIN . . . wiggle your way in there and you might be surprised!!

BINGO. I'm paying, shouldn't be here, if it doesn't happen I'll blowing the money and mad at myself later, work is ultra stressful, SO is never happy, kids in trouble, etc - so many things can be on your mind. When you start to get older you don't get hard every time the wind blows. I've has this happen many times and I'd recommend at true professional like Melannie. She's great at reading people and adjusting. Not every provider gets that. I'd don't need FS every time to have a great session. That's why I prefer true professionals or more mature ladies - they've seen this before and realize it happens and it's very seldom (for me) the lady. Younger ladies sometimes don't realize It's a mind game the guy is playing with himself.

The suggestion of the BJ for the whole session sounds pretty great - hard or flaccid

[melannie_star]

Originally Posted by lda523287

melannie, you rock!

Ironically, I happen to be wearing my USMC sweatshirt right now, with some tight leggings Thank you very much for your words of confidence.

Originally Posted by EasyLover214

BINGO. I'm paying, shouldn't be here, if it doesn't happen I'll blowing the money and mad at myself later, work is ultra stressful, SO is never happy, kids in trouble, etc - so many things can be on your mind. When you start to get older you don't get hard every time the wind blows. I've has this happen many times and I'd recommend at true professional like Melannie. She's great at reading people and adjusting. Not every provider gets that. I'd don't need FS every time to have a great session. That's why I prefer true professionals or more mature ladies - they've seen this before and realize it happens and it's very seldom (for me) the lady. Younger ladies sometimes don't realize It's a mind game the guy is playing with himself.

The suggestion of the BJ for the whole session sounds pretty great - hard or flaccid

That is one of my favorite things I have grown fond of you for. I remember the first time we met, it was all giggles and laughter.. while drinking our starbucks. Sometimes the most sexual encounters start with something unexpected and small.. like a smile

Originally Posted by cockofold

dam .. i going to see melannie_star

Would be my pleasure!

Originally Posted by OldLRRP

Damn, you making me hope for a limpness.

Oh there is so much more I can show you... if it twitched a little in your pants while reading that.. We have some unfinished business to attend to Would love to meet you in future as well.

[Batman]

Originally Posted by cockofold

above all dont show any sign of discontent ... just be his mate and slowly touch caress and talk about sexy stuff ... he is most likely upset enough to not add to it in anyway ... if nothing happens in a few "romantic minutes" it ain't going to... just "quietly" reschedule ..

CockofOld is dead on the button; as if seeing a gorgeous provider isn't already anxiety producing, the fear of failure added to it can be debilitating! So pointing it out is defeating.

The very best approach if it occurs is detailed by the lovely Melanie; oh how I wish I could get through her screening (the danger of committing to a single ATF!).

Guys, be it age or meds or, as in my case, both, it happens to us all at some point so know you're not alone and find the right person to help you through it!

[gladius82]

BSB....
As others have stated.....it starts in the mind. Melanie is spot on.....

BUT over fifty......sometimes it is a combination of hormone levels, medications (especially those to control blood pressure), mental anguish/anxiety over not being able to perform, fatigue from the days work.....etc. that can add up.
Each man will have to address his issues....in my case hormone shots and ED meds keep me in the game....and coffee or 5-hour energy helps if I am seeing a provider right after work.

Regardless of the issues I would like to compliment you and Melanie Star for being caring and professional enough to even give a damn and get more info on how to help your clients......now that is CLASS!

[Duthgar1976]

Originally Posted by cockofold

dam .. i going to see melannie_star

yeah i think i need to get in touch with her....... i was on viagra with my last provider and couldnt pop. melannie_star got me half stiff just reading her idea to fix the problem........

[golfertexas]

Good Thread BSB my personnel experience with this is nerves !!!! the more conferrable i get and relaxed the better i can perform and dirty talk is a must !!!!!!!!

[Guest070818-1]

Originally Posted by melannie_star

This is why I love my provocative outfits when expecting a guest.

While I am getting dressed.. and doing my make up, I like to look in the mirror
and see if it is boner material...LOL
Still leaving something to the imagination, of course

The majority of my friends are over 50 years of age..
so I tend to take a different approach, while still being there seductress

Upon arriving I always do a penis check while I am giving you a kiss.

Majority of time.. junior will be at full attention.
If not.. then I know how to approach the situation.

As I lay you down and do a body to body slide,
I allow your hands to roam freely as they wish.
Meantime giving light kisses to your neck and all the way down to your stomache.

By the time I reach down south.. if junior is still sleeping
It is time to pay attention to your nuggets..
tickle, firm grip( but not too firm) then let my mouth go to work on them..
Also starting down at the base and just sucking without the up and down motion
sometimes works as well. As you start feeling it get hard in your mouth..
then start doing the bobble head..lol

Licking never hurts too..
Meantime giving your guest a visual..

Mirrors can help a great deal too!!
Always fun..

Dirty talk..Lots of Dirty talk
But only if it is natural..

and as previously mentioned..
patience.. the more you try to rush things,
the less success you will have.
That goes for man and woman!

Love this topic!
Good one BSB

Edit: Sorry for my reading comprehension.. just noticed you did say GUYS,, oops.
not my intentions to butt in.

Melanie - I love the charm in your posts! Also, the "Nuggets" part made me giggle! Thank you so much for the insight and advice. This has helped me, and I hope this helps others as well!

On a side note, you need to look into writing hobby erotica!

[Gnostalgia]

It happened to me tonight. She asked
me if there was a secret button. I said you
already hit it three times. "Groan"

[txlonghornfan811]

Best thing a guy can do is not smoke as it causes blood issues and ED.... best thing a provider could do is communicate what he likes and tease