Am I Wrong??

[phildo]

Damn, Merci, don't you know you're ALWAYS wrong? (jk) Anyway, the guy was an ass, and here's a secret that was posted early on in this thread...vent, rightfully so, and move on, bust his chops in provider buzz, but move on. The people who can hear you do, and the rest, well anything else you say turns you into flypaper for bozo comments which you're probably better off without. You've already been "crapped on", reduce your exposure to verbal crappers

[KittyLamour]

Thank you phildo! You always give me the best advice...after all, I'm boarding my horse at the stable you recommended to me! (Which is working out great, btw!)

[Taylor Sims]

I am sorry this happened to you. There are alot of good guys but there are a few that arent the best in this world. I hope you know it wasnt you it was him. He got you to drop your plans for him and bust your butt for him and he couldnt stay. I have alot of thoughts but I keep to myself. Try and have a good weekend cause at least you tried.

[yourself]

Mercianna,

From what you said, I can understand how you must have felt and am sorry to hear that this happened to you.

My first impulse was to think this guy was a jerk too but I cannot say that because we have not heard from him. Maybe we never will.. but if not, please try to put yourself in his shoes and imagine what his side of the story may be like.

This may not be easy because, just like you, this guy probably did not tell you everything he was upset about. All we really know here is that he was upset too. The fact that he paid you anything at all tells me that in HIS mind, he may think he took the high road and that you are the villain.

I am not saying this is the case.. IDK..but it probably is because most people think of themselves as "good" and in their own mind, manage to justify the things they do.

Nevertheless, there is always something to be learned when we try to see things from someone else's perspective.

Again, I am sorry that this happened to you.. both of you.

[KittyLamour]

Thank you yourself. I have tried to see things from his perspective...all I can say is that I am no longer accepting appointments with less than an hour's advance notice, so hopefully this situation can be avoided in the future. No matter how I look at it though, I still feel like he should've been a bit more understanding. Although I admit I was frazzled and probably should have never accepted an appointment where I didn't have time to get ready.
Thank you to everyone who has commented to offer advice and support, it was much appreciated!

[AT6Texan]

Originally Posted by Janitor

He paid you 20 bucks to grab your ass? And also provided some incentive to clean your own house.

sounds like you won. what about the guys who were duped by your fake photos? they should get some sympathy too

Nice to see a bit of truth come out once in a while. Thank you sir.

[KittyLamour]

Give me a break AT6Texan. You have dogged me all over this board and it is getting ridiculously old. If you have such a negative opinion of me, when in fact, I doubt you even know me...Then why didn't you write a review? I don't believe that you actually have ever met me, likewise with Janitor. I am none of the things you have said about me. Your attempts to defraud me and kill my business are disgusting to say the least. I am absolutely fed up. I invite you to come over and see for yourself that the accusations you have made of me are completely false. If you cannot do so, then shut the hell up. I would like to know what your agenda is, personally. I don't get why you have made such an immense effort to make me look bad. Well, I am calling you out. I am exactly the same as my pictures represent. Man up and come see for yourself. Afterwards I think you will owe me an much deserved public apology.

[cmorc]

Sorry you had a bad experience......The guy is a jerk, and all the blood flow was obviously heading south - he sounds like he must have really been desperate and in need. BUT I also have to agree with pmdelite's post. Avoid putting yourself into that position in the first place. If I've learned anything over the past several days it's that I must follow my gut - because it's usually dead on!
If you cannot meet the time demands of a client, just say no. If you don't, and you rush, change your plans, trip over your stiletto's ;o), your heart won't be in the moment and you set yourself AND your client up for a disappointing encounter. Just say no - I would really LOVE to see you, but I cannot be available on that timeframe. You then either work out a timeframe that DOES WORK, or you don't. You both move on.

[KittyLamour]

Thank you cmorc. I have already decided to no longer see clients on short notice. I was partly to blame. Thank you for your wise input!

[pmdelites]

Originally Posted by mercianna

... No matter how I look at it though, I still feel like he should've been a bit more understanding. ...

while all well and good, i sometimes look at things this way...
prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

and just dont count on unrealistic things - like everyone will treat us the way we want to be treated. genghis khan, papadoc, pol pot, jim jones, john wilkes booth, the sgt in afghanistan, son of sam, and the guy in florida, to name a few [cant think of any "evil" women off the top of my head, tho i know they're out there]

[KittyLamour]

Your right once again pmdelites... you have a great way of putting things. I hate to prepare for the worst and hope for the best when it comes to hobbying though....I like to think all my clients are gentlemen...which they mostly are and continue to be horrified by the occasional asshole. I think it makes me a much nicer provider. imho.

[pmdelites]

which is why the "hope for the best" comes out more delitefully!

in other words, be aware of the risks and the rewards and have a plan should either present themselves - a) deal w/ the risks if they actually occur and b) enjoy the pleasures and delites when they cum, err, come.

that way, you sluff off the assholes [dont be horrified by them] and revel/enjoy the gentlemen [be pleased by them].

[yourself]

Originally Posted by mercianna

Thank you yourself. I have tried to see things from his perspective......

Mercianna... In my effort to convey my message as kindly and gently as possible, I did you a disservice. I am afraid I sugar coated it so heavily that it is hard to see my point.

It has been mentioned many times on this board that your profile photos are extremely deceptive. If a gentleman shows up and feels that he has been effectively bait-n-switched by the information you provide in your profile, he might get a little bit pissed....and rude.. without regard to whatever effort you may have gone through to accommodate him. In such a case, the gentleman would perceive you as the villian..and that you knowingly used deceptive practices to get him in the door.

I had situations like that happen to me in the past. A couple of times I tried to be "nice" and went through with it but in the end, I always felt taken advantage of. Now, when that happens, I just walk away.... In a situation like that, I would never consider giving the provider any money at all. I would not walk in the door long enough to grab your ass, I would just turn around and walk away.. pissed off. Personally, I think the provider should pay me for MY time that she wasted, but I know that will never happen.

I do not like hurting anyones feelings and I know this update to my previous post probably will, but I think you as well as a few other providers on this board need to hear this.

Here is the tough part: For the most part, Bait-n-switch tactics work for those that have to use them. If you were to do the right thing and actually be completlely honest with the way you market yourself, you will lose money. That is a hard pill to swallow if you are already having trouble making ends meet.

Take a look in the mirror. If what I have described is really going on, maybe you should consider another line of business. Or possibly promote yourself to the management level of this same business while changing your marketing approach to something more honest.

[Tiffani Jameson]

He was just selfish, and I don't think this is alert-worthy.

This is the reason you NEVER change your plans to meet a client. Being a provider is just an extension of your life. You should always be well rested, and ready for the activities about to proceed. If you've got shit to do, do your shit. His schedule doesn't work with yours, too bad. NEVER give someone a reason to say that you weren't at your best. People LOOK for a reason to put you down. Don't give it to them. Can't you hear his version of the story in his review of you?

You were being nice, but you've got to be nice to yourself FIRST, or no one will. Instead of hearing that you're busy, and you're having to make a choice between changing gears for HIM, or seeing him when you're more prepared to see him, he was selfish and considered his own needs first instead of seeing you when you weren't in such a time crunch.

You should do that same thing. All the best to you, honey...

[KittyLamour]

Originally Posted by yourself

Mercianna... In my effort to convey my message as kindly and gently as possible, I did you a disservice. I am afraid I sugar coated it so heavily that it is hard to see my point.

It has been mentioned many times on this board that your profile photos are extremely deceptive. If a gentleman shows up and feels that he has been effectively bait-n-switched by the information you provide in your profile, he might get a little bit pissed....and rude.. without regard to whatever effort you may have gone through to accommodate him. In such a case, the gentleman would perceive you as the villian..and that you knowingly used deceptive practices to get him in the door.

I had situations like that happen to me in the past. A couple of times I tried to be "nice" and went through with it but in the end, I always felt taken advantage of. Now, when that happens, I just walk away.... In a situation like that, I would never consider giving the provider any money at all. I would not walk in the door long enough to grab your ass, I would just turn around and walk away.. pissed off. Personally, I think the provider should pay me for MY time that she wasted, but I know that will never happen.

I do not like hurting anyones feelings and I know this update to my previous post probably will, but I think you as well as a few other providers on this board need to hear this.

Here is the tough part: For the most part, Bait-n-switch tactics work for those that have to use them. If you were to do the right thing and actually be completlely honest with the way you market yourself, you will lose money. That is a hard pill to swallow if you are already having trouble making ends meet.

Take a look in the mirror. If what I have described is really going on, maybe you should consider another line of business. Or possibly promote yourself to the management level of this same business while changing your marketing approach to something more honest.

OMG!!! This is absolutely ridiculous. I am NOT a bait and switch. THIS IS BULL SHIT. I feel like this is a witch hunt. FYI I have told you haters over and over that I will meet any one of you or any group of you anywhere and anytime to prove that I am 100% the same person I represent myself to be. Now yall are trying to ruin me and I don't get it. I am not posting misrepresentations in my pictures. Please go look at my showcase and tell me what the fuck is wrong with my pictures??? I don't get it. I really don't get it. Why in the hell I am being so ruthlessly attacked on this board. I want to know what the fuck is really going on??? Is it true what they say about eccie? Is it because I am an independent provider and not part of a clique?
I seriously do not get it. SERIOUSLY. I am sooooo damn tired of being treated like a piece of shit. It's old already. I do not misrepresent myself and i dare each and every one of you miserable clods to come and see that for yourself. OR else SHUT THE HELL UP! Whatever the hell yalls agenda is. I am not asking for sympathy I am asking for the truth to be told. As it is, it is at this point a bunch of lies. What do you want? Why are you trying to run me off the board? Well guess what? I am not going anywhere. I have too many obligations than quitting and going on welfare right now. I'm sure that's what you would like to see somebody go under. Well I am not a fake. Iam not a rip off. I don't lie. I don't post fake pictures or reviews. Karma. That's all I have to say. Think about your karma. I treat people as I would like to be treated. I give others courtesy, respect and always consider others feelings. I am a genuine honest person. I care deeply about my reputation. I have gone above and beyond to try to show you people who I really am. I am a person with a heart and compassion. I have a life outside of this board that I am simply trying to live. But you are trying to take it from me. I refuse to let you steal what little bit I've managed to attain for myself. I am a good provider. I am not a beauty queen, but iam not unattractive either. I am exactlyl what I represent. Sorry if I try to look good in my pictures. I don't photoshop them. I just try to look as pretty as possible. Sometimes maybe I don't have my makeup the same and yeah I have a few stretch marks I don't like to show off in my pictures. That is not misrepresentation. AND DEFINATELY NOT A BAIT AND SWITCH> THAT would mean that i was a totally different person than my pictures. How dare you accuse me of such.