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Originally Posted by charlestudor2005
I have only booked one lady twice...and the second time was a complete disappointment. I would never book her again. ... As a matter of fact, my experience has been so dismal (with a few exceptions) that it is beginning to be hard to justify the expense.
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As Einstein reputedly noted; "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." If you are having dismal experiences at any price-point; something is awry and needs changed.
You are absolutely right that, at least in my experience, price in and of itself doesn't matter. But the woman *does*.
As much as we hear "it's a business" and as much as people might discuss pricing as though we are talking about a commodity like oil; the reality is that in a session it is just you alone in a room with a woman; and the qualities and compatibilities of those two people matter. Neither one is a commodity because the nature of the business integrates personality, character and intellect with physiology, emotions and sometimes even spirituality.
Maybe price doesn't matter; but about a million things about the woman (and your own expectations etc.) definitely matter.
Even among two comparably reviewed providers; no two two-person interactions will be identical. A lady who knocks the ball out of the park with me might strike out with you and vice-versa.
Other than one case; I have never had a bad session with a provider -- be it a first session or a repeat. And I have honestly found repeat sessions to be qualitatively superior.
Obviously, most hobbyist experiences lie somewhere between the extremes represented by us.
Most guys would never dream of picking providers the way I do.
My theory is that the woman is the core of whether any male-female relationship works; even if it lasts only an hour.
If a woman can connect and relate to you, it makes all the difference in the world.
Therefore, I select providers not on the basis of who I like (except for a couple of basic personality traits I prefer), but instead on the basis of who I think stands a good chance of being able to appreciate what I bring to a session. In essence, I pick providers that I think in the civie world, if I were to ask them out on a regular non-sex date, would stand a good chance of saying yes.
By putting the woman first; I create a win-win. I'm under no illusions that I'm her dream man. But I don't have to be. All I have to be is someone whose company she enjoys even in a non-sexual sense. Beyond that -- she's a professional. I've given her the right material to work with so her skills can shine. Yes, some providers can do fine even with a guy they detest in every way. But why make a lady work so hard?
The results for me have been a series of unbelievably good sessions; some so good I've wondered what in the world happened.
I am not sure how practical my approach is for other hobbyists; but it has certainly worked for me. :-)
...it could be you.
but she has a point here.
