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Originally Posted by Irish Vixen
basically i had or so I thought a special friendship with a man here and we know alot about each other and it was agreed to be kept private and than he told me that two other people and I quote "put two and two together" on a post I made and so I asked how and he admitted to telling them about me...and when I tried to tell him I was not happy his reply was "I am done with this topic let it go" let it go like hell.. now I am wondering if he has revealed personal info that he knows...I feel betrayed and he has no clue...and yet if we as providers did that we would not be trusted...my fault for dropping my guard and trusting someone...despite being hurt and pissed I will honor our agreement and not reveal any info...I guess I just needed to vent and get other points of view..especially since the key to the hobby is keeping things quiet....
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You Honorable Bitch (jk, trying to help toughen you up a bit)
Irish,
key words tell you a lot about a person. Both in what you express as well as what they say and/or what they don't say.
"tried to tell him" (your words) sounds like a mofo who doesn't value what you have to say, when you want to say it, nor give a damn...ex:
"I am done with this topic, let it go, let it go like hell..." (his words). He does NOT care! It is NOT your fault for trusting and honoring your words. I've had some crazy bitches in the past trust me and been through hell and back because of loose lips. But, you better believe, they are nowhere near me and never, ever will be again!!!
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Originally Posted by Irish Vixen
agreed and I know the boundaries and glad you are one to thinks like me...I wish I knew how to do the multi quote....
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Dhis is how you do it. Bop!
Let me help ya'
. At the bottom of each post, when signed in, you have a "Multi Quote" option. Click on each one at a time that you want to select (turns yellow), when done selecting the different quotes, then click 'Reply' (located at the bottom left end of the page)...then the rest is as normal. Just enter your shit (jk) in between each quote. You can reduce a mofos quote or highlight, but I NEVER recommend changing the wording in a quote. Some do it with mofos they know just to have some fun, but you don't strike me as that type of an individual. Stay the straight line and you will be just fine.
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Originally Posted by Outdoorsman
Trust is the one element of a strong relationship lacking when a hobbyiest and provider get together, at least in my experience.
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IMHO...
We live our daily lives in different realms, different worlds. In the hobby world, there is a certain code, or trust. Has to be that way. There's way too much at stake! No, it's not equivalent to the moral or social ethic of trust, but there is a necessary code in the Hobby realm. There are various levels of Hobbyists, Providers, and the relationships. My motto is:
"What You Say Can and WILL Be Used Against You". So, be smart in what you say and with whom. Depends on the provider. Ex: one provider asked me my real name. I replied, "what's yours?" She replied...(her screen name)(and, there was some other stupid amateur shit too). And, that was the first time we ever met. Damn, I'm tired of my Dick causing this with fems. My goodness, it is GOOD but not that damn GOOD. Shit. The wrong question, by the wrong person, at the wrong time is what breaks it...right there, she was not being above board, wanting to know something she herself was not willing to divulge, WTF? Yet the right question, by the right person, asked the right way can definitely add to the experience.
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Originally Posted by ZarahAdams
Not those kind of mistakes. No one deserves a second chance after THAT kind of mistake.
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Za, I knew I liked you for a reason
. You are a "Voice of Reason" around this place. Sexy asss.
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Originally Posted by London Rayne
Some men need to learn when to stfu! It goes beyond the hobby honey, so be thankful he did not try to out you in real life. Toss this one aside and quick.
I find it funny when a guy does this, he is supposed to be given another chance and when a provider does it, she's a liability. It goes both ways. Keep your fkin mouth shut if you want her to do the same!
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LR, now that is what I'm talking about. WTF is up with these damn loose lips. I know we have different levels of Hobbyists (hell I'm an
HDH/UTR/Low-Volume Hobbyist), Providers and relationships. But, damn STFU! As much as I ask for discretion, etc. I'm UTR here but for example, yet still I have a provider I clearly told I'm UTR who goes and talks about me to her provider friends. I find out, and distance myself. I am UTR (locally), do not discuss me (locally). Plain and simple, dammit! I weally like you LR. I'm gonna fuck you wit my wittle, wittle dick.