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Originally Posted by Dirtytinhtown
Yes, she knows that I found out. Her response was as I expected, avoiding all contact so that she doesn't have to explain. And, I know that whenever we do talk again I can't even ask or it will be more silent treatment. Seems like I'm getting punished twice. Such is life...
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Ok that changes everything . Your task is a bit easier now .
Don't expect her to enjoy the confrontation. I never forget another lady's words when she said " We don't like it if they can live with it and we don't like it if they can't" There is a lot of truth to that.
Obviously not something she wanted you to know right off the bat. May be now that you know she didn't want to milk you, you will have a different view of things. May be she wanted to live without it and with you for a while like a normal civilian and see how it would be , knowing it won't last forever . Can't blame a girl for wanting to pretend she is civilian for a little while. I am sure she figured if it gets serious I want to fess up but why give him more weapons to put me down when he breaks up with me shortly from now. He has not earned all the truth in my life yet. Many girls have many boys in their past. I am doing it for a living. Not for romance and deceit.
I am not saying it is good to be hiding from you but there are a lot of factors involved that you can bring up and make it easy on her to pour it out.
In this line of business , reality check is not your friend. It really isn't. Better role play and keep it like an actress's act to save your sanity. I have been to a few parties and I know what the guys look like so I do have a soft spot for those who can see us.
Don't push the issue. It is known to both sides. If you decide you are ok with what she does then let her bring up. You can't force her to put herself into explaining it. The truth is already out . She will bring it up when she is ready.
If you are not ok with it either walk away from it or decide if you want to make a permenant commitment and able and willing to replace that income. Even if you do she has a limited window of opportunity for her age and beauty to do this so it is a great risk for her to give those years to you and be on the street when you decided to call it quits, if you do in a few years.
Not an easy situation .