Ideas on How-To Withdraw cash without Spouse Knowing

[Codybeast]

It's all good and you're right. It was off topic. I digressed feeling for the OP's situation. I naturally assumed it was directed at my comment since it was immediately following my post combined with Sups misplaced jab/accusation of morality judgement.
Regardless it was my bad for straying from front and center as we so often do. Thus we have moderators. Onward and upward or would that be downward? As you can gather I'm not a big fan of marriage

[ztonk]

How about converting unneeded household items into hobby cash?

• Place an ad on Craigslist and get rid of some stuff.
• Get rid of your outdated electronics, like that aging iPad, on http://www.gazelle.com/.

z

[SharArcher]

Green Dot Money Pak

[Yssup Rider]

Originally Posted by Codybeast

It's all good and you're right. It was off topic. I digressed feeling for the OP's situation. I naturally assumed it was directed at my comment since it was immediately following my post combined with Sups misplaced jab/accusation of morality judgement.
Regardless it was my bad for straying from front and center as we so often do. Thus we have moderators. Onward and upward or would that be downward? As you can gather I'm not a big fan of marriage

What misplaced jab/accusation are you talking about Willis? I didn't jab or accuse anybody of anything. But please feel free to speculate on what I might have meant!

Read the post please. I was merely agreeing with Vyt.

I'm guessing there are a few folks in this clubhouse who aren't fans of marriage.

[Codybeast]

Originally Posted by Yssup Rider

I find it amazing that folks would use THIS forum to comment on the morality of others.

Of course it's pure speculation so I'll take your word for it. Hate it when I speculate. Of course this is a board and without face to face there is never anyway to know without doubt ones true intention behind the words. I suppose then all any of us can really do in that case is speculate.

[Yssup Rider]

Sarcasm man. But please kick me in the balls. Ooohhhh!

However I do see your point (now) about the lack of face to face interaction. That's both the beauty and the bane of this board. I know a lot of you like to hang out together. I'm guessing there are more members who value their anonymity. Like me. Just gotta be that way.

[mastermind238]

Originally Posted by Rand Al'Thor

If you start spending cash for everything, what your SO will see as itemized purchases on credit card statements become lump sum amounts of withdrawals from ATMs. It's easier to hide a few hundred upswing or downswing out of one nebulous amount compared to an itemized list delivered to her (e)mail box.

I guess I didn't make clear that there's reason we use credit cards for most everything. It's just easier to manage money that way. That may not be true for everyone, but it is for us, and we've done it that way for 15+ years. To suddenly abandon credit cards in favor of huge, lump sum cash withdrawals is a change in behaviour that simply is too suspicious and cannot easily be explained or dismissed.

"Honey, I've decided I just like the feel of a wad of cash in my pocket. To Hell with all those skinny pieces of plastic. Having all those Benjamins rubbing against my junk all day just makes me feel so ... alive!!" Nope, that won't work at my house.

[Codybeast]

Originally Posted by mastermind238

I guess I didn't make clear that there's reason we use credit cards for most everything. It's just easier to manage money that way. That may not be true for everyone, but it is for us, and we've done it that way for 15+ years. To suddenly abandon credit cards in favor of huge, lump sum cash withdrawals is a change in behaviour that simply is too suspicious and cannot easily be explained or dismissed.

"Honey, I've decided I just like the feel of a wad of cash in my pocket. To Hell with all those skinny pieces of plastic. Having all those Benjamins rubbing against my junk all day just makes me feel so ... alive!!" Nope, that won't work at my house.

Very true. Want to arouse suspicion? Change your habits.

[Codybeast]

Tell her you're going to start taking weekly $70/hr guitar lessons and your guitar teacher prefers cash for the month ($280) on the first week of each month.
That is both typical and realistic for a good teacher but of course at some point she is going to wonder why you don't practice or improve.
Perhaps you could barter services for actual lessons. Ever wanted to play guitar?

[Rand Al'Thor]

Originally Posted by mastermind238

I guess I didn't make clear that there's reason we use credit cards for most everything. It's just easier to manage money that way. That may not be true for everyone, but it is for us, and we've done it that way for 15+ years. To suddenly abandon credit cards in favor of huge, lump sum cash withdrawals is a change in behaviour that simply is too suspicious and cannot easily be explained or dismissed.

"Honey, I've decided I just like the feel of a wad of cash in my pocket. To Hell with all those skinny pieces of plastic. Having all those Benjamins rubbing against my junk all day just makes me feel so ... alive!!" Nope, that won't work at my house.

No, you made it perfectly clear in the first post. Sorry, I had a brain fart. I swear I read your entire post, but somehow the second part of it escaped me.

[PoetMeister]

Start seperate accounts on Etrade if you don't have them already. They're your stock investment accounts. Occasionally you'll of course need to shift funds into that account but it's easy to explain that you need to shift a grand there at least every now and then to invest with.

Then you'll have an Etrade bank card and you can make withdrawals against the account as needed. Set it up so that it's all electronic i.e. no mail and ur good to go without all the little save a nickle and dime here and there crap.

[RALPHEY BOY]

I can sit in here in judgement of those who cheat on their wife and kids,, call me silly but I believe if you get married you should honor that vow...

lets see,

REB bangs a Provider: nothing to lose, not hurting anyone

Married Guy Bangs a Provider: can lose his house, cars, kids, wife, have his life turned upside down for what? an hour of sex??

if you are willing to take that risk then cheat away

and if anyone wants to call me out on the mat then do it, do not hide behind cryptic posts..

[Codybeast]

Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY

I can sit in here in judgement of those who cheat on their wife and kids,, call me silly but I believe if you get married you should honor that vow...

lets see,

REB bangs a Provider: nothing to lose, not hurting anyone

Married Guy Bangs a Provider: can lose his house, cars, kids, wife, have his life turned upside down for what? an hour of sex??

if you are willing to take that risk then cheat away

and if anyone wants to call me out on the mat then do it, do not hide behind cryptic posts..

Problem is if you're going to start judging married guys for cheating on their wives then where does it stop?

Then judge both providers and all mongers for breaking the law because getting busted can get you the exact same result's you mentioned whether married or single.

Judge all providers for being shallow enough to screw fat bald smelly mongers strictly for the $$. I don't care what their Ad reads.

Judge all mongers for possibly taking advantage of a young provider who might only be providing either out of intimidation or because of what her uncle Mike did to her at 12.

The list goes on. We as single guys are not playing within the rules at an obviously personally acceptable risk. So are the married guys.

Neither you nor I might cheat on our wives if married but our neighbor would never break the law even if like us he doesn't think the law is just.

On Topic
I still think taking guitar or other instrument lessons for cash is a pretty rock solid idea.

[Yssup Rider]

Originally Posted by Codybeast

Problem is if you're going to start judging married guys for cheating on their wives then where does it stop?

Then judge both providers and all mongers for breaking the law because getting busted can get you the exact same result's you mentioned whether married or single.

Judge all providers for being shallow enough to screw fat bald smelly mongers strictly for the $$. I don't care what their Ad reads.

Judge all mongers for possibly taking advantage of a young provider who might only be providing either out of intimidation or because of what her uncle Mike did to her at 12.

The list goes on. We as single guys are not playing within the rules at an obviously personally acceptable risk. So are the married guys.

Neither you nor I might cheat on our wives if married but our neighbor would never break the law even if like us he doesn't think the law is just.

On Topic
I still think taking guitar or other instrument lessons for cash is a pretty rock solid idea.

Well put Codybeast.

One might question why single men "need" the hobby, as well.

Everybody has his/her own reason for playing in this pigpen. It's inappropriate to judge anyone for their participation.

On Topic
Guitar is for homos. Play a real instrument, like the cello! Lessons are more expensive, too!

[Reya Sunshine]

Reading things like this from y'all has pretty much insured that I will never be able to be in a "civie" relationship ever again. Guys are just too tricky to trust with my heart. I would have fell for this traffic school thing hook line and sinker.

Originally Posted by Whispers

Go home complaining about getting a ticket and having to pay the fine as well as take defensive driving to get rid of it....

Ask her to pick you up two money orders.... One for $40 for Defensive Driving and the other for $226 for the Fine....

Bitch moan and complain about the injustice of it all....

Then cash the money orders and spend the time Tues/Thurs playing instead of going to defensive driving