Romantic things for her

[Quark]

Such strong feelings here. Some of you help me understand why some providers hate some clients.
Presents are nice. Respect is precious.

[CG2014]

I've taken providers to dinner, to shopping at Galleria, bought them gifts and even bring them small things like some to go food and cigarettes.

Treat them like a normal person and treat the session like a get together between two friends

and not so much a business deal between strangers or near strangers:

You will be surprised how much better the BCD is when you treat a provider like a human being.

Many guys here treat a provider like a hole as the mean and the medium for them to stick their penis in to get their nuts off.

Just because they are a provider does not make them less human.

They have the same feelings you and I have

and they also have the same everyday life's problems and challenges you and I have.

Don't treat them as a sex object or a 2nd class citizen.

Treat them as a human being the same way you want to be treated.

SURELY you don't want a provider to think of you as just an ATM or a CASH COW, do you?

AFTER ALL, you hobbyists are also humans too, are you not?

Both you and them ladies bleed the same red blood when pricked,

do you not?

[Sir Lancehernot]

Originally Posted by TheOracle

He just chose to ask for some insight here for whatever reason.

The biggest reason is because I figure that there are guys here who, unlike me, have bedded women either for free or at the nominal cost of a few drinks or maybe dinner and a movie. I've never been with someone I didn't have to marry or pay for sex, so I thought I might get some insight from some guys who were more successful. And maybe some ladies.

Originally Posted by Lucas McCain

I didn't see that. Maybe the OP can clarify whether that's the case.

I only used the phrase "young woman" as opposed to "escort" or "provider" several times. I know you disagree, but I contend that whether she's a provider, a professional or first-time SB, or an amateur I was able to seduce away from the drive-through window is irrelevant. The basic question, which only a few people have touched on, is: Does anyone have any recommendations for making a favorable impression on a woman when she opens the door and enters the room? I do recognize that most women here couldn't care less about romantic gestures, but when you find one for whom such gestures mean something, it's be nice to have something in mind when scheduling the next meeting.

Originally Posted by Sherry of DFW

i agree with veryclean who said
Rose petals arranged in a heart shape are nice to look at but they won't pay her electricity bill or feed her hungry kids.

give her a nice card with cash in it, or a pre-paid VISA card that she can use in any store--even 50$ helps===100$ is even better

If you could have seen the look on her face when she saw the bed and heard her voice when she said I was "awesome" and that no one had ever done anything like that for her before, you might change your mind. I will guarantee you that the $10 spent on roses made a much greater impression than it would have if it had been placed in the envelope.

[Billogoods]

Never seen a gal say "no" to pizza.

[VeryClean]

Originally Posted by Billogoods

Never seen a gal say "no" to pizza.

Yep, never seen a gal say "no" to Taco Bell either. Run for the border, baby!

[helenparr]

Well I provide both. I prefer to get to know my gentlemen friends when their situation allows, this makes for a more enjoyable experience over time and provide romance. I'm new to this area but welcome new friends.

Love, Helen Parr
225-335-7257

[pmdelites]

lancehernot, the thing is, from my point of view, ...
“Does anyone have any recommendations for making a favorable impression on a woman when she opens the door and enters the room?”

it’s okay to do nice/“romantic” things but not everytime.
you do it a few times and she may expect it everytime. and expect that it be more awesome than the previous time.
if so, where does it end? do you need to do a bit more each time so it doesnt get boring? how much are you willing to do?
and what happens if the next tome you dont do as much or as creative or as “romantic”??

be yourself, ccompliment her, ask her about her day and listen, bring her something she really enjoys (food, dribk), but be reasonable.
like Pavo Nurmi said “pace yourself.”
maybe chk the sugarbaby threads/forums.

pls let us (at least me) know what worked & what didnt. and if she starts saying “awww, you didnt need to do that!”

good luck

[Lucas McCain]

Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

The biggest reason is because I figure that there are guys here who, unlike me, have bedded women either for free or at the nominal cost of a few drinks or maybe dinner and a movie. I've never been with someone I didn't have to marry or pay for sex, so I thought I might get some insight from some guys who were more successful. And maybe some ladies.

Fair enough. I don't know how much money you are willing to spend or how much time you want to spend with her, but nice food and wine always seems to romance the ladies from my experience. Find out what kind of food she likes. Take her to the best of those restaurants. That's what I do for my RW dates.

One suggestion though IMO, get the fucking done before the food and drinks because if all goes well, you'll get a bonus fuck after dinner and drinks as well. Just don't let her get drunk because that never ends well. And don't let her eat too much because unless she is a big chick, she will feel bloated and self conscious and won't be down with additional fun time...just my 2 cents from dating civilians. Good luck

[TheOracle]

Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

The biggest reason is because I figure that there are guys here who, unlike me, have bedded women either for free or at the nominal cost of a few drinks or maybe dinner and a movie. I've never been with someone I didn't have to marry or pay for sex, so I thought I might get some insight from some guys who were more successful. And maybe some ladies.

Well, I fit your description. I've been with significantly more women in the real world than in the hobby world. The hobby thing was more of a phase for me when I got burnt out on dating/relationships for a while and was dealing w/ other life stuff. Definitely not b/c I couldn't get women. That's why if you look at my reviews most of my activity was in 2017, then a large gap until 2019, and that was mostly just a few BNG sessions b/c at the time the real world women I was dealing with were leaving me kind of unfulfilled in that department.

Before I give my two cents...

Have you already had sex with this "young woman" or are you trying to work your way there? I know you said she's not a provider, but is she a sugar baby or stripper? Also, how old is she?

[Lucas McCain]

Originally Posted by TheOracle

Have you already had sex with this "young woman" or are you trying to work your way there? I know you said she's not a provider, but is she a sugar baby or stripper? Also, how old is she?

He never said she wasn't a provider. He's not saying what she is for whatever reason. He appears to just want to receive romantic suggestions he can do for her regardless of whether she is a provider, SB or civilian. At least that's how I perceive his posts. I could be wrong though.

[Vanilla Gorilla]

If romantic gestures truly worked, then none of us would be here.

[Poppa_Viagra]

Originally Posted by Doug4343

If its a provider holy shit run forest run! You gonna get taken advantage of. Ive fallen into that trap many years ago. So glad i came to my senses.

Ps. Dont let her tie you up with big sex toys around or you could have one end up in your anus.

Most dangerous trap in this hobby is the emotional one. If you're basically lonesome it's like Groundhog Day out there.



And be perfectly clear what you expect, if you ask her to try anal sex she may show up with a 12 inch black strap-on and no lube.