Why do You Cheat?

[Sensia]

Originally Posted by discreetgent

I would think that that is true. However, I doubt that any lady has decided to be an escort because she wanted to save marriages.

We become escorts for the same reasons that you and others do your line of work.. to make money!! lawls...

But it is nice to think that maybe I have helped someone in some way, irregardless.

[Meko]

Originally Posted by ninasastri

true. and also, some people prefer to be lied to. That said i am all supportive of escort-client relationships when it comes to this, its a way of acting responsible for other peoples lives. But what i do judge is men dating women for free and having them as secret lovers and make them pay all the emotional debth. And i do not understand (mostly mono) women who would do that anyway. I think monogamy is way too complicated with all its hypocrisies and intricacies. I prefer it simple therefor i am poly :-)

I feel the same I have beat my self over the head trying to conform the to monogamus lifestyle.

[Sensia]

Originally Posted by ninasastri

true. and also, some people prefer to be lied to. That said i am all supportive of escort-client relationships when it comes to this, its a way of acting responsible for other peoples lives. But what i do judge is men dating women for free and having them as secret lovers and make them pay all the emotional debth. And i do not understand (mostly mono) women who would do that anyway. I think monogamy is way too complicated with all its hypocrisies and intricacies. I prefer it simple therefor i am poly :-)

Originally Posted by Meko83

I feel the same I have beat my self over the head trying to conform the to monogamus lifestyle.

OMG, I soooo agree with this. After having a failed 10 year marriage, and a recent 7 year relationship end because it became so well just "ugh", I am now enjoying more than ever what I do! Maybe I have become addicted to the companionship / sexual tensions and excitement of meeting the men, and just dating had become boring.. so I so prefer now what I do. Strange isn't it? I just now enjoy my own company at home, and enjoy my personal space, but like the occasional "hook ups" and what comes with it. The suspense and the excitement! "Like a box of chocolates, you never know what your gonna get"! LOL

Ok, going to stop posting now.. lawls.. I give away too much of myself here!!!

[Meko]

Originally Posted by Guilty Pleasures

OMG, I soooo agree with this. After having a failed 10 year marriage, and a recent 7 year relationship end because it became so well just "ugh", I am now enjoying more than ever what I do! Maybe I have become addicted to the companionship / sexual tensions and excitement of meeting the men, and just dating had become boring.. so I so prefer now what I do. Strange isn't it? I just now enjoy my own company at home, and enjoy my personal space, but like the occasional "hook ups" and what comes with it. The suspense and the excitement! "Like a box of chocolates, you never know what your gonna get"! LOL

Ok, going to stop posting now.. lawls.. I give away too much of myself here!!!

Dido...lol except for the marriage (never could even make it down the isle).
Life has become easier now that I enjoy my occasional treats...lol

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by Meko83

I feel the same I have beat my self over the head trying to conform the to monogamus lifestyle.

HI Meko,
I see you are fairly new here, welcome if that is so? Yes monogamy is a tricky topic socially and otherwise :-)

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by Meko83

Ok, going to stop posting now.. lawls.. I give away too much of myself here!!!

Oh don`t worry :-) you can`t possibly be more emotionally exhibitionistic than i am

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by Meko83

I am now enjoying more than ever what I do! Maybe I have become addicted to the companionship / sexual tensions and excitement of meeting the men, and just dating had become boring.. so I so prefer now what I do. Strange isn't it?

No not strange same here, I recently throw another guy out of my life because of not treating me with the necessary respect. Its rare to find that chemistry outside the business, but it happens. But some men (especially good looking ones and middle aged ones) tend to get women`s attention fairly easy so that making an effort seems something outrageous to do to them.

That said, if i have th efeeling i get treated better in a paid companionship, why would i date someone for free ?

[Guest083011]

Originally Posted by ninasastri

I would never ever ever ever ever date a married man again.

Unless you are compensated correct? (I'm not judging mind you)

Originally Posted by Marcus Aurelius

Same here.

Turn down the halo (you too DG).


I'm going to clean up some quote issues in a sec (formatting).

And before I forget, welcome Meko!

[DFW5Traveler]

I can't imagine straying. Ergo, I'm single. Life is too short and you never know when you may run into that chance encounter. Don't get me wrong I'm all for family, but I have trust issues and it takes a lot for me to become comfortable enough for someone to be a serious companion. I do not give second chances, period. I did and have been burned, it ain't worth the headache.

[pyramider]

The only time I have ever cheated was in high school. Never cheated after high school.

[pjorourke]

I didn't realize that Arnold was the Kennedy.

[JohnMacnab]

Plain and simple. It just gets boring to have sex with the same woman for thirty years. After that amount of time you have done just about everyting you can think of and after that amount of time with one person there is just not much real excitement left. The sex is very nice but just not exciting.

For a man who truely loves women and loves sex, the hobby is a perfect way to indulge in the "box of chocolates" that GP mentioned. The excitement leading up to the encounter is one of the aspects that is makes it enjoyable. Then there is the discovery of what the provider looks like in person and how she is personality wise. Then finally there is the sex with a new woman. The whole experience to me is what life should be all about.

Then there is the wonderful joy of by chance, meeting someone who is just a delight to spend time with. It really is like a box of chocolates, you just don't know what you are going to get.

Yes, GP, you are a joy to spend time with.

Originally Posted by Guilty Pleasures

OMG, I soooo agree with this. After having a failed 10 year marriage, and a recent 7 year relationship end because it became so well just "ugh", I am now enjoying more than ever what I do! Maybe I have become addicted to the companionship / sexual tensions and excitement of meeting the men, and just dating had become boring.. so I so prefer now what I do. Strange isn't it? I just now enjoy my own company at home, and enjoy my personal space, but like the occasional "hook ups" and what comes with it. The suspense and the excitement! "Like a box of chocolates, you never know what your gonna get"! LOL

Ok, going to stop posting now.. lawls.. I give away too much of myself here!!!

[gnadfly]

Originally Posted by pjorourke

I didn't realize that Arnold was the Kennedy.

Did the mother drown?

Close but...

The IMF Chief is!

[Guest050715-1]

Originally Posted by gnadfly

Did the mother drown?

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LOL - It took me a second, but very funny.

People cheat or don't cheat for very personal reasons as it is a very personal decision.

For the most part, cheating with escorts is benign, and men cheating is less devastating to a marriage than a woman cheating. Hypocritical, but true.

[Sisyphus]

No links or studies here...just anecdotal evidence...

Erosion of trust is what kills a marriage. Cheating/infidelity - however one chooses to define it - is just one of the ways that erosion of trust manifests itself.