Great Lover or Great Looker?

[Ed Highlight]

Originally Posted by mojojo213

Not always the case though I've met ladies who's wits catch my attention.

Not many of these ladies have displayed their "wits" on their avatar though. For them, the looks bring you in, the "wits" keep you coming back!!

[caramelqtee mila]

Originally Posted by Valerie

Looker....bad lovers can learn and get better....if you're ugly, there's not much you can do to change that unfortunately...That came across a bit harsh....sorry.

A great lover actually there is plastic surgery and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Honestly ya'll how many unattractive have you seen walkin side by side with a spouse? Ive seen plenty. I've tried to teach an ex how to be a better fuck,and im pretty damn good. He still couldn't do it worth a damn. People are actually more accepting of altering their physical flaws. How do tell someone you are an awful lay,here watch this,lol

[Mojojo]

Originally Posted by Ed Highlight

Not many of these ladies have displayed their "wits" on their avatar though. For them, the looks bring you in, the "wits" keep you coming back!!

Agreed!!!

Originally Posted by caramelqtee mila

A great lover actually there is plastic surgery and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Honestly ya'll how many unattractive have you seen walkin side by side with a spouse? Ive seen plenty. I've tried to teach an ex how to be a better fuck,and im pretty damn good. He still couldn't do it worth a damn. People are actually more accepting of altering their physical flaws. How do tell someone you are an awful lay,here watch this,lol

Damn what a dilemma!

[TheHorseTrainer]

Originally Posted by Ed Highlight

For them, the looks bring you in, the "wits" keep you coming back!!

It's sorry but true.

If only more men could look deeper they might find some real gem's they had been missing because they base choices first on looks.

Some of the "not so attractive" people in this world have made some of the best lovers. Why? They don't judge others as harshly to begin with. They have more to offer and tend to try harder. I have found that true even in the hobby.

[Abe Normal]

It's a damn good thing I'm a great lover, cause I look like week old crap, LOL

[Rogue_Gent]

My answere to the Nicole Blackman cite:

I wanna tell you a story
Every man oughta know
If you want a little lovin
You gotta start real slow
She's gonna love you tonight now
If you just treat her right now

Squeeze her real gentle
Gotta make her feel good
Tell her that you love her
Like you know you should
So if you don't treat her right
She won't love you tonight

If you practice my method
Just as hard as you can
You're gonna get a reputation
As a lovin man
And you'll be glad every night
That you treated her right

"Treat her Right" by Roy Head (from San Marcos, Texas) 1964

[SneakyCancer]

looks are deceptive. like being a ugly person personality wise....that spoils the apple. therefore you are ugly on the outside too. once you get pass the looks, you begin to see the person from the inside out vs the way we are programmed to think. i have been with a few ladies whom some say was not my best choice but because i knew them personally, became beautiful ladies to me.

so to be bad in bed,,,that is training, taught, fixable....and Tequila always makes for a good instructor.

i guess it depends on your personality. if your not confident in yourself, then you will need the person with the looks. otherwise....get the great lover and learn to love the person vs the look.

[SneakyCancer]

and when in doubt....turn the lights out....we are all the same in the dark.

[Cpalmson]

Originally Posted by windowshopper

looks are deceptive. like being a ugly person personality wise....that spoils the apple. therefore you are ugly on the outside too. once you get pass the looks, you begin to see the person from the inside out vs the way we are programmed to think. i have been with a few ladies whom some say was not my best choice but because i knew them personally, became beautiful ladies to me.

so to be bad in bed,,,that is training, taught, fixable....and Tequila always makes for a good instructor.

i guess it depends on your personality. if your not confident in yourself, then you will need the person with the looks. otherwise....get the great lover and learn to love the person vs the look.

Originally Posted by windowshopper

and when in doubt....turn the lights out....we are all the same in the dark.

Very interesting POV, and I agree with what you are saying in terms of a long term relationship. However, the hobby is not a long term relationship. For the most part, the hobby is a very short term relationship with little time to get to know if the provider is a good lover or not. By the time one finds out, the date is over. Therefore, given the short time span of an hour or 2 hour "date", looks take a higher priority. Now of course, we all want a gal who is a 10 in looks and a 10 in bed

[London Rayne]

Originally Posted by Cpalmson

Very interesting POV, and I agree with what you are saying in terms of a long term relationship. Had I not been forced to know him, I would have never found out how attractive he could be. However, the hobby is not a long term relationship, and you don't have the amount of time.

For the most part, the hobby is a very short term relationship with little time to get to know if the provider is a good lover or not. By the time one finds out, the date is over. Therefore, given the short time span of an hour or 2 hour "date", looks take a higher priority. Now of course, we all want a gal who is a 10 in looks and a 10 in bed

Yes thank you! I have had relationships where I wondered how the hell I could find that guy attractive, but the more I knew him the hotter he became. That is in the civie world though. I doubt a guy is going to claim that here unless he has ALREADY spent a significant amount of time with a provider...so much so that she had the chance to "become" more attractive.

We did a poll and looks were by far the first thing guys noticed before rates. That's not to say one guy's 2 can't be another's 10, but there has to be some attraction that makes them want to see a person. Be it only a nice butt, boobs, or hair color, guys have to have some physical stimulation to even be able to perform so I don't buy the lover part.

You can't just put a bag over the girl's head lmao. Right!

[Valerie]

Originally Posted by caramelqtee mila

A great lover actually there is plastic surgery

Yes there is always plastic surgery, but that is quite expensive and still may not make one attractive, at least learning to become a good lover is free..

[lovinfun]

This has become quite interesting....however, you have to choose one or the other....you don't get to say...."i want someone beautiful and i'll make them a great lover.

I find the funnest part of all the conversation is every poster implies to be great lovers!

If beauty is in the eyes of the beholder...isn't "great lovers" in the eyes as well???

[Eccie Addict]

Some seem to wanna break it up into catagories like hobby verus reality. In the hobby it really has been a case by case thing. I've had some lookers be terrible, and some non lookers be great. In the hobby because we P4P we tend to be a lot more critical. The hobby kinda throws things out of wack.

In a relationship I would choose a great lover. However I don't think this is a realistc question. How many have sat down after spending a short amount of time with one from both catagories and asked themselves which they would want. Kind of a shallow choice I think. It takes time to make a long term choice and the relationships that I have seen stand the test of time, are the ones where both partners overlook each other's shortcomings whether it be in the bedroom or outside of it. Looks are not everything and neither is sex. Its takes balance and a lot of work.

[Eccie Addict]

Originally Posted by Valerie

Yes there is always plastic surgery, but that is quite expensive and still may not make one attractive, at least learning to become a good lover is free..

That is not necessarily true

[Valerie]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

That is not necessarily true

OK...outside of hookerworld!! LOL