Question for the ladies with SO's or Real world relationships

[Massagejunkyie69]

So I guess I have a different perspective since I'm in an open relationship. My wife has girlfriends and some boyfriends. We play together and we play apart. We'll hit lifestyle clubs and we have a lot of fun, but she's not in the "business" and neither and I.

It really was intended to be a simple question and not a hypocritical one. What drove the question is a SB of mine that told me she's a sex worker. (mainly cams - and apparently being a SB. . ) . It got me to thinking that most men, don't like to go home from their work and do that work at home (ie paint at work, then come home and paint at home). It made me wonder if having job a that requires someone (a lady) to fuck all day, if she's like that painter or mechanic and just doesn't feel like fucking her SO when she gets home.

I know in my personal experience, after the wife and I spend a wanton, gluttonous, sexy weekend at a lifestyle club, we tend to both lay off of the sex for a couple of days when we get back. But then we're back to our normal healthy, sexy, selves.

If I was a male pornstar and my job was to fuck gorgeous ladies all day, or if I had the dream job of being a male massage body rubber who fucked his female clients all day, I suppose I wouldn't want to come home and fuck the wife. But I'm not 100% sure of that.

I was just wondering if the ladies with SO's have that problem.

[pmdelites]

in my view of the world, comparing a mechanic or a plumber w/ a sex worker is just not a valid comparison.

it really and only matters to the sex worker and her partner (bf, fwb, spouse).
if they can work out an agreement that she can be a sex worker AND a partner and both satisfy their sexual desires, more power to them.

also, i think it is pretty narrow minded to think that all or most sex workers “fuck / suck their entire shift” and would be too tired or not want to have sex at home. some women have very high sex drives just like some guys.



btw, how nany of you guys have sex w/ your s.o. w/in 5-15mins of getting home after work & your commute???

[rx.tx]

Let me pre-validate by saying I have IOP radar... perhaps it's more Indifference radar, but believe me I have it and it's on point. I moonlight as an IOP radar calibration reference. We're talking classified DOD-level shit. Okay you get the point.

In general (qualifier), sex workers don't enjoy sex as much as their clandestine counterparts. In my experience most of them enjoy it quite a bit less.

For speculative proof, sex workers have so much more on their minds mid-coitus. They're being judged the whole time, as we all are, but their grades will be hung on the wall outside afterwards and it's only prudent for them to be keenly aware of such. We've all heard the quip that states you don't pay a whore to fuck, you pay her to leave afterwards. Well consider that perhaps whores don't whore for your money, they whore so that they can just leave after getting it. There are plenty of easily manipulable well-to-do tricks who are just dying to give everything they've got to someone who says what they want to hear, and those investment accounts will only metaphorically attempt to sneak it in raw.

[rx.tx]

Oh, I forgot the scientific-ey proof part: holes and beans hurt more the more you smash on em. Also, dopamine and other misc. hormones relating to the nasty must be re-uptaken.

I've only met 2 providers who genuinely liked to fuck. One might just be IOP - she's Korean, speaks no English, and my radar was designed using freedom units, not that edgy neatly-stacking crap.

[TexTushHog]

Originally Posted by Kendall4U

Why do any of you care if our "hobby" makes or breaks sex at home? It is really none of your business.

They probably want to pay you more -- out of guilt. Right?

[FunMonday]

I will admit that over the years if I found out a hot privider was married I wanted to fuck her even more. As a general rule I don’t think anyone should be discussing their relationship status because our selfish motives and some really weird rules emerge. I’m not going to mention any names but after seeing a few married providers many times I basically found myself in verbal contracts pertaining to activities and to be frank it was very exciting but weird. The husband has the exclusive right to CIP unless she was having on her period or the last day of her period. Or I could have her ass and I could not CIM. It was like a very addictive time share of her body.

If I found out a provider was getting a divorce it became a complete fuck fest as she fucked off her emotions big time.

Now I prefer not knowing her relationship status and I’m sure providers prefer to keep things sepearated

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by TexTushHog

They probably want to pay you more -- out of guilt. Right?

No

[Butch Cassidy]

Reading the OP's thread Im reminded of two lines:
1. "To the alcoholic,their way of life seems the only normal one"- Alcoholics Anonymous
2." Do you feel pain?" Jennifer Connelly
" My body does" Keanu Reeves...The Day the Earth Stood Still

To me it seems youre projecting your own lifestyle onto professional working girls and it's not the same.

One of the asian amp gals lived with me for a while, and she wanted to have sex every night when she came home in the beginning.
It was not because she is a nympho
She said it took the stress away from a long day of making a bunch of dipshits believe they were studs(gd we men are really for the most part dumbasses)
Seeing other women was not ok with her incidentally and only other working girls understand that.
Not all women are whores
Not all whores are whores

[FunMonday]

Butch. I salute you sir! Having a live in AMP girl has got to be one of the best arrangements possible. And I bet she keep the house clean as well?

[TailHooked]

I had a dancer/provider live with me in my house for a little under a year. I covered all the bills. When she danced, all she did on the way home was bitch about be groped, kissed or guys trying to finger her all day and not getting paid enough. She would come home at 3AM and just want to soak in the tub and drink more till she was numb. She was usually pretty lit up from drinking at the club anyway. I worked normal hours, so these nights there wasn't a lot of action. Like every other woman, there were good and bad nights.
As for her other activities, things seemed to drop off from time to time. From her bank statements, it was on days she ubered a lot. She owned a car. We never talked about this and I am not sure she was aware I knew. So I would say the hobby had an effect in my case. A diary she left kind of confirmed this.
She got more depressed from working and the drinking finally ended in a long stint in jail. Three dui's. She has been sober awhile and has a rw job. We still keep in touch but nothing more.

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by TailHooked

I had a dancer/provider live with me in my house for a little under a year. I covered all the bills. When she danced, all she did on the way home was bitch about be groped, kissed or guys trying to finger her all day and not getting paid enough. She would come home at 3AM and just want to soak in the tub and drink more till she was numb. She was usually pretty lit up from drinking at the club anyway. I worked normal hours, so these nights there wasn't a lot of action. Like every other woman, there were good and bad nights.
As for her other activities, things seemed to drop off from time to time. From her bank statements, it was on days she ubered a lot. She owned a car. We never talked about this and I am not sure she was aware I knew. So I would say the hobby had an effect in my case. A diary she left kind of confirmed this.
She got more depressed from working and the drinking finally ended in a long stint in jail. Three dui's. She has been sober awhile and has a rw job. We still keep in touch but nothing more.

Sounds more like you were supporting a drunk more than a S.O. some people (men and women) never change and make poor life choices for whatever reasons they have


I have friends and seen it in the hobby where they just maintain and can't make it over the hump to success. The company you keep around has a lot to do with things

[micktoz]

Originally Posted by rx.tx

Oh, I forgot the scientific-ey proof part: holes and beans hurt more the more you smash on em. Also, dopamine and other misc. hormones relating to the nasty must be re-uptaken.

I've only met 2 providers who genuinely liked to fuck. One might just be IOP - she's Korean, speaks no English, and my radar was designed using freedom units, not that edgy neatly-stacking crap.

Ever considered that either the ladies you choose are indifferent to sex by now or they are generally indifferent to you.

I'm not saying anything bad about you, but this generalization about people has zero validity.

I've been in real life relationships with a few sex workers, I'm in one now, and they loved to fuck, a lot! In fact they would get crabby if they didn't get enough dick.
Of course there were times when they didn't want to, and I was still seeing my regular ladies. Monogamy was not required, so we found balance.

Sometimes, they would come home extra horny because their client wouldn't get them off. Sometimes, they came home extra horny because they were still turned on and wanted to cum more.

In all of these relationships, jealousy wasn't an issue. And when we broke up , we have stayed friends, sometimes with benefits.

My current lives in a different city and she insists that I get Her Cock looked after. Best girlfriend ever.

Some people can do relationships in a mature balanced way. most can't.

[Massagejunkyie69]

umm, maybe I should have asked the spouses or SO's of working girls if they have less sex at home because they're "tired" from "working" all day.

But I know better than to ask the wife of a mechanic if the mechanic is good about keeping up with car! LOL

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by Massagejunkyie69

umm, maybe I should have asked the spouses or SO's of working girls if they have less sex at home because they're "tired" from "working" all day.

But I know better than to ask the wife of a mechanic if the mechanic is good about keeping up with car! LOL

SO'S usually don't appreciate when the car keeps running without any issues, it's the ones with broken cars that value the help.