Is it a slur? What are your thoughts?

[albundy]

I know civilian women that call each other "hooker". So I guess it depends on context. But make no mistake, "Hooker" is NOT meant to be complimentary. True, it describes what some women are, but so does the "N'" word.

My question is, why would you need to or want to call a provider that anyway? Just call them by their "Professional" name.

[berkleigh]

Personally, if I have ever referred to myself or another Lady as this, it was jokingly.

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by Nina the Dicknapper

Being called "His little whore/hooker" during intense sex is awesome

We seem to think alike, name calling turns me on, especially right before/during unloading.

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by Luke_Wyatt

you make some good points, but again you are playing into the "political correctness" bullcrap. I remember years ago at one of my jobs- the boss decided that we are no longer going to use the word "janitor" they are to be called "industrial cleaners" because it's more of a "respectful" term.
I have also heard people that say don't call him or her a "weatherman" call them a meteorologist. Come on people let's cut the bullshit- providers are hookers and hobbyist are Johns- if it makes you feel better or more rewarding to call yourself a provider and a hobbyist so be it- but in the eyes of the law and society we are all hookers and Johns. If any provider thinks that if they applied for a job or met a man that was never in the hobby and you told him that you sold pussy for a living- if you think he is going to distinguish a hooker from a provider you are sadly mistaken.

We are known as tricks, A well known respected classy provider told me so, I agree with your post btw.

[Chung Tran]

I believe Hookers and Johns go together like Whores and Tricks, like Providers and Hobbyists, like Women and Men... need to strike the proper balance.

[Guest113018-1]

Originally Posted by thathottnurse

Imma WHORE!!! Hahahahahhahah

Just like everyone else on the face of the earth.


Hey, dress it up all you like. We all take it in the ass for someone or something.

And that's, okay.

So..... Greek now on the menu?????

[TexTushHog]

Does anyone which which provider first used "silly whore board"? Now that I mentioned it, it's been driving me crazy trying to remember. Lena?

[Heavyiron999]

The dirtier the talk the better, sexy little cocksluts are very hot.

[roaringfork]

Originally Posted by TexTushHog

Does anyone which which provider first used "silly whore board"? Now that I mentioned it, it's been driving me crazy trying to remember. Lena?

I believe there was a guy on aspd (can't remember who) who employed the term in a truly great signature line: "On a quest for fame on a silly whore board."

I think that in most forms of discourse, it's effective to use the most favorable (or neutral) expression available (here, "ladies") and allow reference, intonation and context to convey any negative connotations:

--"Excuse me, waitress. I'm gonna need a replacement on this fifteen-dollar Coke. One of your ladies apparently thought it would be sexy to walk up to my table and spit in the first one."

--"I could give an unqualified recommendation to the lady named NastyNikki, were it not for the two African-American gentlemen whom I could hear giggling in the closet throughout the session."

You get the idea....

[Guest092216]

Originally Posted by golforfish

So..... Greek now on the menu?????

Oops no sorry. It was a reference to the man-vag.

[ElisabethWhispers]

Originally Posted by Luke_Wyatt

you make some good points, but again you are playing into the "political correctness" bullcrap. I remember years ago at one of my jobs- the boss decided that we are no longer going to use the word "janitor" they are to be called "industrial cleaners" because it's more of a "respectful" term.
I have also heard people that say don't call him or her a "weatherman" call them a meteorologist. Come on people let's cut the bullshit- providers are hookers and hobbyist are Johns- if it makes you feel better or more rewarding to call yourself a provider and a hobbyist so be it- but in the eyes of the law and society we are all hookers and Johns. If any provider thinks that if they applied for a job or met a man that was never in the hobby and you told him that you sold pussy for a living- if you think he is going to distinguish a hooker from a provider you are sadly mistaken.

I was asked my opinion, and so it was given. I freely admit to being a hypocrite, or having a few opinions on many topics, however ... let's call a spade a spade, if you wish to go in that direction.

But with my statement, it wasn't playing into "political correction" bullshit. I know bullshit. I live it sometimes. But my statement came from the heart.

You can consider yourself whatever you wish. I've been called trash. Vile. Evil. Oh, just a full litany of names all in the spirit of what is good and right. I've even had husbands of good friends tell me, "You're just evil filth."

So why don't you toss me the proverbial bone, won't 'ya?

If someone asks what is a preference for a work "title" and sex work IS work, then the answer given (by myself) might sound a bit more politically correct. For me, being proper (or politically correct) has nothing to do with it.

Being more human might.

With your addiction talk, I do agree that addictions are a big part of the human psyche. But there are plenty of ladies in this business that don't have those demons.

I, unfortunately, do and have. Going through recovery, and the process of getting there, is a bitch that I wouldn't wish to anyone. However, addictions aren't more rampant in this community (although it would appear that it could be. It's a personal business. And people see more obvious messes of the individual, bed sport brings more personal stuff out in the mix more frequently than in regular life).

It's just a rampant issue, as you've brought out with your own personal experience.

This whole "come on, people" argument that you present is arguing semantics and well, that's what we are discussing. But suggesting that one word is more important, or relevant, than using another one for a personal descriptor is just bullshit in itself. I'm sure that you would agree.

I like your posts. But if you wish to argue with me, and that's cool (in fact, it's kindof fun!) ... then be more compelling. Because during this week of reflection, and I'm doing a BUNCH of reflecting these days, I'm ready to rumble a bit!

Happy New Year.

Sincerely,
Elisabeth

[FunInDFW]

Guessing it's etymology, seems rather apt and neutral, to what it's describing. Not being one though, I can't make the call to whether it's taken as a slur. I wouldn't think it is in saying/using it.

[Guest092216]

I've been called everything but a white woman on these boards. Its just words on a screen.

I appreciate Elisabeth's more progressive scope though and understand the significance of words and their meanings to the greater context of how we see each other and ourselves.

I don't take this all too seriously anymore and maybe that's diminishing my empathy towards those who do take sex workers rights seriously.

I should be more grateful for their efforts and try not to demean myself or others by using derogatory language.

But what fun would that be???

[ElisabethWhispers]

Originally Posted by thathottnurse

I've been called everything but a white woman on these boards. Its just words on a screen.

White woman!!! The circle is now complete.

I'm just wishing to argue a bit. I'm agreeing with most of what I'm reading here. It's words. But words do have meanings and those meanings, especially in the context of this discussion, are associated with very STRONG emotions for many.

[Guest092216]

Oh Damn I added more on when you posted. Hahahahahahahah. Oops

Okay ya lets argue....bitch...or should I say........whore.