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Originally Posted by Julissia
In what type of setting/location, are you most comfortable when meeting? Do you prefer drinks before, or- going straight to the meeting place of choice? I’d guess that the majority, will say skip the drinks, lol! But, I also value discretion as well!
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Meeting in a quiet café or restaurant provides a comfortable and relaxed atmosphere conducive to conversation. It allows for privacy while still being in a public setting, which can help maintain a sense of security and discretion. As for drinks before, it can help to ease any initial tension or nerves, but it's not always necessary depending on the situation and preferences of those involved. Ultimately, the goal is to create a setting where everyone feels comfortable and can establish a meaningful connection.
Ex:
Situation: a hobbyist who insists upon specific parameters for their encounters, requests to book with a provider who prefers a public meeting prior to the first booking.
1. understand the reasoning behind both parties’ preferences.
2. Discuss possible and realistic alternatives.
3. Come to a middle ground agreement on the situation
If the two have gotten past this point, they have now officially established the following:
1. They are mature adults with social skills
2. Whether the two will mesh together well
3. Established a new connection to build rapport during the next phase - the
first meeting.
This conversation will be different than the prior as it is focusing on the soft skills of the two people and not the hard skills. Conversation is important prior to encounters for several reasons:
1.Getting to know each other: Conversation allows both individuals to learn. about each other's interests, values, and experiences, which is crucial for building a connection and determining compatibility and earning respect.
2. Establishing rapport: Engaging in conversation helps create a sense of comfort and rapport between the two individuals, making the date more enjoyable and memorable.
3. Communication skills: meeting in a different environment than the “play room” provides an opportunity to showcase communication skills, including listening, sharing, and engaging in meaningful dialogue, which are all quality characteristics of an attractive person.
Intimacy can develop through conversation in several ways:
1. Emotional connection: Sharing personal experiences, feelings, and thoughts fosters emotional intimacy, creating a deeper bond between two individuals.
2. Vulnerability: Opening up about vulnerabilities and insecurities can create a sense of trust and closeness, leading to emotional intimacy.
3. Shared interests: Discovering shared interests and passions can create a sense of connection and understanding, strengthening the bond between two people.
4. Deepening understanding: Engaging in meaningful conversations allows individuals to understand each other's perspectives, values, and desires, leading to a deeper connection and intimacy founded on healthy boundaries and mutual respect.
5. Flirting: Playful and flirtatious conversation can create sexual tension and anticipation, paving the way for physical intimacy.
Overall, conversation serves as a gateway to intimacy by fostering emotional connection, vulnerability, understanding, and desire between two individuals. It lays the foundation for deeper connection and can lead to both emotional and physical intimacy over time.
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