Hobby discretion....does it matter??

[BBW Katrina]

Discretion is not a one way street or only when convenient for you type of situation. It takes many avenues on many levels. Including not getting butt hurt when it surfaces that a HOBBYIST (god forbid) saw another provider without your permission or knowledge per say. My motto.....what people don't know about you, they can't use against you. Shut those gaping visages and party on Wayne!!

[addict]

Originally Posted by misspriss

Personally anyone can find me anything. I don't care - I don't know you.

I personally find these BS threads a form of bullying. Why do people want to attack others? If someone posts an ISO and you aren't looking for or responding to, why judge? Why call out others or dog pile? It's juvenile, really.

Recently many cases of kids committing suicide has surfaced in the news. We always think of how awful the bully children are and yes, that us true but where do they get that from? Adults!

I was bullied and faced atrocities beyond imagination. Gum in my hair, spit wads, all out felony physical assults - but at that time, there wasn't a name for it and I was pretty much on my own. I was once kicked in the back so hard I lost my breath and consciousness for a few minutes. I didn't deserve that, no one does.

I had immigrant parents who didn't understand American kids were not obedient and polite, they were animals. There wasn't even refuge or comfort at home.

From that, I'm grateful. I'm proud of myself for surviving a war zone most adults couldn't even deal with. I have a deep sense of self and believe in the power of 1.

There was a game people played at PE, no matter what sport - if a ball was involved, they threw it at me and it was PHYSICALLY painful. I'm no longer mad at my peers, I'm mad at the adults. The teachers who looked the other way. Shame on adults who put up with this and feed in to it, you know better.

I recently watched the documentary Bully and I felt incredibly sad for the kids who had taken their own life. I know what it feels like to think that time, those horrific people and the breakdown of your spirit - when it feels like it will never end. It does!

I won't let anyone put gum in my hair, no one on Eccie is going to dog pile and throw spit wads at me, I won't be kicked in the back. If I'm a c*nt, so be it.

Hit reply, say whatever you want...just know that your children go to school everyday and you never know what kids do and you never know what adults condone this. If you opened their bedroom door to find them hanging in the closet, you'd feel different. Of that, I assure you. Shame on the adults for allowing and setting such bad examples of how to treat other human beings.

I'll say it again, take my writings off your sig line and leave me the F$CK alone. I make no apologies for that.

Sincerely,
The Cunty Cunt

You forgot to mention the starving kids in Africa.

Btw, I didn't call you a cunt, I said that your post came off as cunty. Another way of saying it would be that it was mean spirited, personal, self aggrandizing, purposely hurtful, and, ironically, bullying.

[guest043013-2]

Originally Posted by addict

Guys with lives outside of the hobby appreciate discretion. It's the guys whose lives ARE the hobby that get off on hookers publicly blowing smoke up their ass.

I prefer all ass blowing to be done in private.

I think you boiled my post down to a more visual explanation.

Originally Posted by addict

Personally, I don't find anything about you even remotely charming. If that's what you were shooting for here, just some friendly advice, you came off pretty cunty instead.

Charming has become a very elusive characteristic. Your visual description here is not my usual choice of words, but going back to Dannie's original post:

I am looking here for something I don't get in my real world. I want an illusion (of passion, or whatever) while at the same time needing discretion. If we just look at my more organized hobbying since I discovered ASPD, I have been doing this for 8 years. Longer if you go back to my unorganized times, probably 20 years. In all of that time, I have personally met 1 hobbyist. Bought him lunch even. Of course, this was because I let a certain young lady and her companions at a certain lair in north Dallas rope me into it. He was a nice guy.

Have had some good exchanges with a few other guys over the years. I do know one hobbyist's real name by virtue of us sharing our names rather than just handles. Sure, I probably learned a few others real names because of stupid mistakes on their part and some provider's part over the years.

Loose lips sink ships and they put your privacy at risk. That is the most obvious reason I see for paying a higher price for a courtesan instead of some streetwalker on Harry Hines.

I used to think that ASPD, and this place after the demise of ASPD, was many steps above the streetwalker. I expect the ladies here to know how to behave, know how to be discrete, to have class, to, well, to not be a hooker or a whore, but a lady. Maybe I missed the notice that dropped any requirements for upscale qualifications here.

(Guess I should be prepared for this to piss off a few people.)

[LickHer]

Originally Posted by TheOriginalDannie

Just wondering, as I see the same ladies repeatedly posting things like "I had a great time sucking your cock last Friday at 5PM!" or, "I can't wait to see you tomorrow morning for our time together!"---is this an effective method of marketing, in your opinion?

Do you gents enjoy it when a lady ignores the fact that a PM system exists? Do some of you gravitate towards this, or is it something you'd rather not be a part of? Is it a matter of who is doing the kissing and telling? I tend to think it is, but I'd rather see what y'all have to say about it.

So..... as the hobby changes drastically, is this practice of kissing and telling on the part of providers, acceptable now? How do you gentlemen feel about it? Especially those of you who have been around for a good long while.

Oh, and good morning!

All I know is if I go see you and you "tell" openly on these boards, Misspriss won't see me any more...
But, seriously, if a provider finds it helps her marketing, whey not? It can also help some "newbie" hobbyists that are having trouble getting seen by overly cautious providers.

[oldbutstillgoing]

Good question girl. From my perspective, I do see an issue.

In very general terms, I feel the guy has more at risk if his activites become knowledge to others, especialy his SO. As such, if the guy decides to make public, even in a limited way, his activites, that is his right. Hopefully he has taken steps to concel his identity but it is up to him to decide to do so or not.. When the lady makes an offhand remark about past or future sessions without making sure its OK with the guy, it is a poor choice. Odds are it will not be a problem but still. Now, if he says something and she is responding, prehaps not so much as an issue as he opened the door, so to speak.

Many of the comments made seem to be between those who have seen each other; prehaps many times. The better someone knows someone else the easier it becomes to make these off hand remarks. I am as guilty as anyone else.

With the advent of sites whos only goal is to make as much trouble as possible for those in the hobby, it would seem more discression, not less woud be in order. Yet the opposite seems true.

[Brandee69]

Miss Priss u know u really do come off as being a" lil cunty" as somebody stated previously you are coming off as a bully yourself there is no sense in outting Dannie or yourself over a general question if you thought this was about you maybe you couldve taken it to her in private....The Op has never mentioned your name and why on earth would you think this is about you considering you do not even do full-service or L2?...And how could you have stolen her man? I really just think you need to sit back and chill out this thread could've been about any one of us....Good thread Dannie i think it should be practiced more in the hobby...if we were suppose to do reviews it would be put in a forum for others to see just like the guys have for us......

[Luke Skywalker]

To the OP:

Your original question. From the response of some people here, obviously discretion is not important to them.

It is to me.

[Boltfan]

Originally Posted by misspriss

I won't let anyone put gum in my hair, no one on Eccie is going to dog pile and throw spit wads at me, I won't be kicked in the back. If I'm a c*nt, so be it.

So how do you reconcile that rant and specifically this statement with your unprovoked and hateful attacks against other ladies who did not first "attack" you?

Curious, because now you look like an ugly person and a hypocrite. Your attacks for example in the Bridgette Thread were unprovoked by her publicly. You most certainly by your definition bullied her. Are you now going to apologize? If you truly despise bullying your actions don't reflect it.

[misspriss]

Dannie used a quote of mine in her signature line, what the hell for? Obviously it was a passive/aggressive move for what? If you want to get to me, grow up - you are WAY older than me, act your age. Ask so and so for my number, call me. Stop using the board.

Since no one will say it, I'll say it - she was talking about Tara and I'm not one to White Knight anyone but the men do it ... So, stop picking on Tara. She's a nice, beautiful, YOUNG, girl - you were her 15 yrs ago - let it go and let her live her life. It has nothing to do with you.

You started this post to start sh&t, just like you put my name in the signature line. You want to bully someone? Bully me, you've met your match and I'm not having it.

Who I see or what I write should be no ones concern. It's not that serious, really.

In the future, if anyone has any bone to pick - PM that person, call them.

Leon, sweetheart - when are we meeting?

[misspriss]

Originally Posted by BBW Katrina

Discretion is not a one way street or only when convenient for you type of situation. It takes many avenues on many levels. Including not getting butt hurt when it surfaces that a HOBBYIST (god forbid) saw another provider without your permission or knowledge per say. My motto.....what people don't know about you, they can't use against you. Shut those gaping visages and party on Wayne!!

Finally ... A voice of reason

For the record, the post I made ONE silly remark on was pointed out to me by the man in question. I playfully and in a charming manner told him I was going to White Knight him and he smiled.

Never once did he mention a crazy provider GF that I had to watch for. Had I known, good God I would've kept my mouth shut. His bad, not mine.

I'm mad at him now, happy everyone?

[TinMan]

I would be much more impressed by a woman privately sending me a message that she enjoyed spending time with me. I might even believe it to be true, vs the public display that I would take to be just another form of marketing.

[Tara Evans]

Originally Posted by misspriss

Dannie used a quote of mine in her signature line, what the hell for? Obviously it was a passive/aggressive move for what? If you want to get to me, grow up - you are WAY older than me, act your age. Ask so and so for my number, call me. Stop using the board.

Since no one will say it, I'll say it - she was talking about Tara and I'm not one to White Knight anyone but the men do it ... So, stop picking on Tara. She's a nice, beautiful, YOUNG, girl - you were her 15 yrs ago - let it go and let her live her life. It has nothing to do with you.

You started this post to start sh&t, just like you put my name in the signature line. You want to bully someone? Bully me, you've met your match and I'm not having it.

Who I see or what I write should be no ones concern. It's not that serious, really.

In the future, if anyone has any bone to pick - PM that person, call them.

Leon, sweetheart - when are we meeting?

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Thank you.

[Boltfan]

Originally Posted by misspriss

Leon, sweetheart - when are we meeting?

Please answer the question. How do you reconcile your rant(s) against bullying with your unprovoked attacks against others?

And, unless I am fooled into believing I am meeting Katja Kassin for a round 3, it isn't happening.

[Boltfan]

And if you are under the misguided impression that only one lady here routinely cock blocks her clients, you aren't nearly as intelligent as you like to tell us you are.

Numerous ladies cock block here. Tara's just happened to be a bit more public but to ASSume it was her is comical. Tara has turned over a new leaf and doesn't stoop to such levels.

[Guest071613-2]

Originally Posted by Leon Sandcastle

And if you are under the misguided impression that only one lady here routinely cock blocks her clients, you aren't nearly as intelligent as you like to tell us you are.

Numerous ladies cock block here. Tara's just happened to be a bit more public but to ASSume it was her is comical. Tara has turned over a new leaf and doesn't stoop to such levels.

Amen!

And it was not ABOUT Tara as much as she would love it to be . As far as her being so young, she's 3 yrs younger than me. Give me a break. In provider time, that's like 3 months. Misspriss, you are NOT that much younger than me either. Not that age matters here, nor was it the point of the thread.

By the way, I am fucking beautiful.

Certain lyrics come to mind:
"You're so vain; you probably think this thread is about you...."

Holy crap! I posted this thread in the AM and already almost 1k views! Thanks, ladies!!

It seems the consensus is, discretion matters. That's refreshing!