TRAITS OF A UPSCALE,HIGH CLASS PROVIDER

[bladtinzu]

Originally Posted by alluringava

The amount of snobbery of some of the so-called HDH girls never fails to amaze me. And then I find out some of them work under different names, personas, and much lower prices.

It is what it is... I also hate the ones who call out of the blue saying they are in a bind and need money now. Their lack of planning does not constitute an emergency on my part and my basic response is simple. Granted telling them they have a vagina so in theory they have unlimited potential at emergency income and to not call me asking for loans ect is kind of harsh but like I really care...

[JDNorthface]

Originally Posted by bladtinzu

... not call me asking for loans ect is kind of harsh but like I really care...

So can I borrow some money?

[bladtinzu]

Originally Posted by JDNorthface

So can I borrow some money?

Just had to do it didn't you..

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by JDNorthface

I absolutely agree. This is the root source of all arrogance--fear. We see it flowing freely all over this board as well as the websites and blogs you mention. It is a disease and it makes everyone sick.

Arrogance is a manifestation of cowardice; humility of courage.

Wonderful , truly love it. Of course Katy Alexander has a great point too, by saying that we look down on arrogant people with superiopurity complex, which of course makes us arrogant , too. But the "othering" has certainly not started by 300 to 400 $ escorts an hour ;-). It`s a difference to me, if you observe a certain attitude and behaviour and then write about it and make fun of it, and look down on it, then if you do so, just based on wishful thinking. I personally don`t look down on HDH - I myself am one , if you wish to put that criterias ( I personally think, before we start at 5000$ an hour, this label is not worth the distinction , it`s a tomato tomato thing for me .... After a while we all fish in the same pool no matter what a homepage says, maybe the introductions to one escort are different than to the other one, but - hello? That`s about it. And everyone knows.

As long as we are not some VIPs by status, and go to the right parties and the right staff, you can write on your homepage whatever kind of career you think you have outside escorting. As long as you don`t charge 5000 an hour and think you`re worth it, it can`t be that much of a career, really, at least not financially ;-)).. Haha. That is the kind of braggadacious behaviour I witness a lot in the ones , who believe they are superiour to the regular escorts. While forgetting they are as ordinary as it comes themselves, as we all are ;-). I am not an exception , so why pretend in the first place? If people have such a prosperous (financially !!!! career) outside the buz, and put themselves on the level of our clients - as I have seen in many of these arrogant "wannabe something better" homepages - (again , financially speaking), then how the hell it comes HE "just" pays 1000 dollar from HIS income (and He can afford her because he earns and delivers what he says he is .....) and SHE does not charge 5000 , simply because she does not need the money?? Hmmm..... let me think..... ;-)) So the pure fact, that an escort runs around bragging about her career being equal to the ones of her customers shows how idiotic she is ;-))..... and then charges between 400 and 1000 for an hour is - sorry, ridiculous.Even my tax attorney gets more ;-)) haha

Best is the "quality over quantity" thingie (as Ava put it - Perfect "Othering"), which seems to be a kind of riddle no one can sufficiently explain, but everyone uses it in the old fashioned "copy paste without thinking twice" - manner;-) .... Reminds me again of "Gretchen Question" in Goethe`s Faust

Because the women who DO have a career (financially, I mean!!) start at 5000 plus per hour, because they give a f*ck if you book them or not ;-), they are rich either way. I am just saying

So , again, tomato , tomato ;-)

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by bladtinzu

It is what it is... I also hate the ones who call out of the blue saying they are in a bind and need money now. Their lack of planning does not constitute an emergency on my part and my basic response is simple. Granted telling them they have a vagina so in theory they have unlimited potential at emergency income and to not call me asking for loans ect is kind of harsh but like I really care...

Hahahahahaha ..... ;-))). Yes that is the most fun part .... Specially when some ask for money to buy existential necessary stuff like Botox or new titties. (Really, no joke!!!!.......)

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by bladtinzu

Granted telling them they have a vagina so in theory they have unlimited potential at emergency income and to not call me asking for loans ect is kind of harsh but like I really care...

just open up a low dollar hottie homepage and start bashing yourself about how your level of education and snobbery rises in direct affiliation with the level of $$$ you charge ;-)) ? Maybe that`s where they know where the "quality over quantity" distinction comes from? bwahahaha

[Guest121613]

As being new to the scene as part if my mid life crisis....

I would think that want slave/dom may pay a lot, but not my scene.

I have had such great fun with those under 200 PH, but to entice me to pay more will rely on seduction. I have a 2hr coming up this week with a 300 PH provider, and i must say, I have been seduced by her.

It starts with professional photos, and should have a Victoria Secret body type.

Most important is how the pre-date occurs with PM or methods of communication. I need to feel she is really into me, and continues the seduction. Is a bit playful in communications as well. Dies not need to reply to each of my requests, as that can be a bit of tease. If I write something cool, she replies back saying she loves it.

Turn-offs from higher end providers off my list. 1) Greater than thou attitude, like like I should be so lucky, and she is the best 2) asking for too much ID in screening- one provider asked for my paystub, another asked for my send an e-mail from my work, which I will never do. If I am agreeable, I will share my name, as I am not in the public eye, and them find my linked-in and other professional accounts. I know everyone needs to be safe, but lets in the middle for screening

[The Cock Connoisseur]

Omg! Well said.

The End...
Lmao!

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by Miss Glamazon Girl

The End...
Lmao!

Nooooo, we have to make this the longest thread EVER!! :-)) (lol)

[bladtinzu]

Originally Posted by lostforkate

Greater than thou attitude, like like I should be so lucky, and she is the best

That is just a defense they throw up because most are too inept to actually carry on a conversation..

[Guest121613]

thanks,
I am baffled by one of my local "high end" providers that claims to only see one client per day, advertises on Eccie, their own web page, Back Page, and some other sites, though I must admit that I have not seen them on cL

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by lostforkate

thanks,
I am baffled by one of my local "high end" providers that claims to only see one client per day, advertises on Eccie, their own web page, Back Page, and some other sites, though I must admit that I have not seen them on cL

Well, some of them (as many providers, not only related to HDHs, that lie too obvious and too visible for anyone with half a brain ;-)......) are just not good at hiding their lies. Or - lets call it that way - their marketing strategy is not very well thought thru ;-).

The same is for tours "Oh I have regular clients, I only see about 3 to 4 new ones a whole year. Ah yes? Then why advertise your tours? Post them on eros, eccie and whatnot, and why tour so many times with informing the whole world? BTW: If you have so many REGULARS and don`t need new clients and only do word of mouth, then why have a webpage??

The escorts who have their regulars do not DO webpages anymore, and the ones who only see 4 new clients a year (yada yada .....) certainly don`t need to post tours and ads and whatnot. Its a bit too much effort for 4 new clients a year, right?

Besides, no escort has regulars for more than 3 to 4 years. Clients change, relationship change, and if a friendship develops people usually don`t charge anymore. Clients grwo fond of other escorts for some time, and people that say they only see regulars simply lie.
The escorts who do see only regulars don`t risk the homepage , LE problems with ads and such stuff.
They go "off the radar" for a certain time, and then back up again to catch new regulars, when the old ones moved on to newer territorry.
That`s how it most often goes.

[Guest121613]

TY Nina, I am enjoying your input, and can easily see you are the zenith in skills and finesse as a courtesan.

Your note talking about those who have a full clientele causes me to think. I am very lucky to be on a list of a provider that comes to my city, off and on, for almost a year now (I am not sure how long prior to my knowledge that she has worked). She never advertises anymore. She will let me know when her next trip is, and I have made 5 visits with her and I can see what you mean by relationship changes. She is more of a masseuse and not really an escort, and I have been very lucky to have her teach me some things as well. She is really all business, I periodically ask for day trip, which she politely ignores. I try tell myself to stop pushing, but I am hooked. When we are done for the visit, I get a black widow feel. Dare I enter into gift giving? (I feel have given myself away)

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by bladtinzu

That is just a defense they throw up because most are too inept to actually carry on a conversation..

Or need to post other people`s private mails (like happened to me) and pretend it`s "their" intellectual property, because they are too dumb to actually come up with any other idea than what some other escorts tell them

(...while actually being too stupid to really "understand" the true meaning behind what I said in the first place, and fail miserably at copy-pasting my ideas, because they are too dumb to understand the core message ..... hahaha .... so for some it`s actually better to stick to "comparing looks and cock sizes" and "beauty" than to pretend" that you can`t compare relationships and sensual experiences" (like was my take on these idiotic arrogance) to gather clients. Next time better pay for my marketing strategies and hire me, so its probably working ;-) then

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by lostforkate

She never advertises anymore. She will let me know when her next trip is, and I have made 5 visits with her and I can see what you mean by relationship changes. She is more of a masseuse and not really an escort, and I have been very lucky to have her teach me some things as well. She is really all business, I periodically ask for day trip, which she politely ignores. I try tell myself to stop pushing, but I am hooked. When we are done for the visit, I get a black widow feel. Dare I enter into gift giving? (I feel have given myself away)

So you mean you try to book her for a day trip and she won`t? Sorry, I do not understand that part properly maybe.

Maybe you really do like her much more and it is a little emotional for you to adjust. It depends on how her situation is, if you are happy with the boundaries she gives, you give, etc.

I had relationships with clients, have some clients turned into friendships, where of course the escort-client - habitus was put aside (sometimes in a good "pure love, lust and support" partnership manner, sometimes in a "oh my god what a freakin`idiot I was" manner, and sometimes in a "no sex-just friends" manner.

I think , it does not matter what "you" do, gifts aside, if the boundaries are clear (it seems to me from her side, as she politely "ignores" day trips) you might have to adjust your expectations. And see that "the way" you shaped it so far - and I am sure she likes you , too, otherwise she would probably not see you regularly (I couldn`t, and I am sure not many out there can see someone more often , if it does not suit and chemistry is not there - whatever that means) - is a way that is a good way , and does not need changes.

I hope I could say what I meant , clearly. If I see a client falls for me, and I am not comfortable with that, I confront the situation myself to avoid akward expectations and frustrations. And I kind of have the feeling like you really really really like that particular provider and might - subconsciously - search for a way to get close to her BCD. Is that possible?