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Originally Posted by Anita Lay
Ladies and Gentlemen,
I want your thoughts and ideas on what you consider to be upscale and high class in a provider.
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I have been reading this thread for quite sometime, and chose to not chime in until now, as it is a bit of a conundrum when it comes to this type of discussion.
The root words of class are classification and to classify, but a true person of class would never classify another human being into any preconceived notion of a class as they have been brought up to believe that we are all human beings and in so, we all deserve to be treated with kindness. People are people and no matter the lot they have landed in life, their feelings do matter.
Class encompasses style, wit, manners and intelligence.
Class reflects the values of commitment, respect for learning, respect for accomplishments and respect for others feelings, as well as a respect for ourselves.
The truest measure of class is how we treat others, regardless of socionomic status, education, or lineage.
Class is confidence but with humility. It is grace. It bespeaks of aristocracy that has nothing to do with lineage or money, but more of ones integrity, courtesy, compassion, perserverance and indomitable spirit and reserve in difficult circumstances.
Over the years I have heard it stated you're either born with it or you're not, but this simply is not true. While yes, if you are born into a family that already embraces these thoughts and actions, you will of course be reared in this manner, but it can be learned by those who have that indomitable spirit to further their own self improvement, which is what families who had the financial means to send their daughters to places such as the now defunct Institut Villa Mont Choisi or the Institut Chateau Beaue- Cedre did by sending their daughters to these finishing schools, they were sending them off to be trained so to speak, which is what one can choose to do for theirself, by constantly working on their own self improvement. So in some ways, yes, you can truly buy class, but not by wearing Hermes or some other house of couture, but by investing in your own inner, as well as outer, self improvement.
No matter what position in life you were born, you always have the choice to become the person you wish to be, and with hope, it is the very best that you can be and you never stop striving for this.
To be a high end provider with class, it does take some investment of course in your wardrobe and appearance, but it takes on more subtle notions as well. The most important one I believe is really quite simple, to always treat others, no matter what their current place in life is, be it the homeless man or woman on the street or the COO of BP with respect, integrity, and honor to their being. Some might argue that there is no reason to be kind to the waiter, the homeless man or woman, or whomever, but there is. The kinder you are to others, the kinder your soul becomes. In life, we tend to attract others to us through our own actions. When our own actions are angry we will attract the angry, but when they are of a more gentle nature, grounded in compassion, humbleness, (yes, one can be humble in the world of companionship) intelligence and thoughtfulness, you will find yourself surrounded by the same.
When our Mothers told us; People may not always remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel, she was teaching the basic fundamentals of class and on the same chord, it does also apply to being a high end exceptional companion.
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