Providers. Do you ever feel like your brain is melting? I DO!!!

[Iron Butterfly]

Originally Posted by RedLeg505

The point is that each hobbyist, through proper research and diligence can find a provider that offers what they are looking for. If all you want is someone to "expend your desire" on and not learn anything about them, you can find that.

If I want so know a bit more about the provider so we can have a nice conversation in between romps, I can also find that.

Neither of us is "right" or "wrong".. we just have different desires and can find the lady or ladies that fit what we seek.

I get that, the hobby is whatever you want it to be, I guess I'm missing the point of this thread witch is?

IB

[Old-T]

Originally Posted by RedLeg505

The point is that each hobbyist, through proper research and diligence can find a provider that offers what they are looking for. If all you want is someone to "expend your desire" on and not learn anything about them, you can find that.

If I want so know a bit more about the provider so we can have a nice conversation in between romps, I can also find that.

Neither of us is "right" or "wrong".. we just have different desires and can find the lady or ladies that fit what we seek.

Can we have a huge AMEN, BROTHER!

[burkalini]

Ever notice that people say they are like Neiman Marcus and then when they use the word classy they follow it immediately with the word "Shit". HMMM????

[Old-T]

Originally Posted by RedLeg505

The point is that each hobbyist, through proper research and diligence can find a provider that offers what they are looking for. If all you want is someone to "expend your desire" on and not learn anything about them, you can find that.

If I want so know a bit more about the provider so we can have a nice conversation in between romps, I can also find that.

Neither of us is "right" or "wrong".. we just have different desires and can find the lady or ladies that fit what we seek.

Can someone give us an AMEN, BROTHER!

[stimulatethemind]

Originally Posted by Old-T

Can someone give us an AMEN, BROTHER!

AMEN, my brother!!!!

[katee]

I am in the same boat with Old-T, and RedLeg505. I enjoy getting to know who I choose to spend my time with, much more than just "condom moments"
This is my work, but I feel as though you should enjoy what you do. Life is much too short to do anything other than what you enjoy. It should come as natural as breathing, and an hour "condom moment" does not allow me enough time to really enjoy the person who I am with. I can't imagine that I would stay in this line of work
If that was all that I was having. I understand everyone has different ideas of what they want in a provider, that is why there are many types of providers. Some MAY enjoy what I could only see as very robotic, and boring. I much prefer the gentleman who wants to know about me, as much as I want to know about him. I think it makes for a much better experience when it is "condom moments" ( our new phrase, thank you Old-T)
I wouldn't want someone to text me 100 times in a week, and I don't play those games of sexting with photos of me nude. But, I do like a little flirtation.
This is just me. I like the title "escort" there are other titles that describe some providers better. But wouldn't it be a boring world if we all were the very same?

[Cpalmson]

I am not a robot when having sex. Exchanging meaningless pleasantries makes this more of a connection. Sure, I will probably forget what is said, but still it is normal.

[Fast Gunn]

Wow, it sound like you are really angry at the stupidity of men.

. . . Careful! That is a double-edged sword and it cuts both ways!

Originally Posted by Deluge Falls

WOW I LOVE MEN. I LOVE WOMEN. I LOVE THE HOBBY!!!

But what I can't stand is MEN who act like 12 year old boys. I understand in the principal of wanting quality. Trust me I do. But what really grinds my gears is when a MAN plays games... I swear they are worse then Women.
PERFECT EXAMPLE: DON'T GO TO NEIMAN MARCUS AND EXPECT TO FIND WALMART PRICES AND BRANDS... you go to a classy spot that's what you will find. Classy shit.
I also understand going with a provider that you have never been with before. It's taking a risk. I know. But we providers are also taking an even bigger risk.
Guys hey its real simple. If you like the provider;hey, write a review and move on. If you do not like the provider; hey, write a review and move on. SIMPLE!!!

And OMG I hate those petty questions. What's your favorite color, what school did you go to? Asking me all these dry ass questions. This is so brain picking to me. CAUSE WHY DO YOU CARE? I don't care What you have going. OUR TIME IS OUR TIME regardless of what's going in our OUTSIDE lives.
Goodness and the 500 messages back to back... I know by the 3rd message if we are meeting or not. No other conversation is necessary.
Providers do you get this?

[Blaze]

Some I wish would just show up, keep their mouth shut, fuck me or let me do what I do and get you gone. NO love loss.

Then there are the ones I just want to pull close, get lost in their eyes, lips, and smell.... Do it like they do it on the discovery channel or soft and sensual, and either way,,, spooning afterwards sharing intimate details of each others lives.

A two call system works.. No emails, text msg's, or other calls needed. Unless you wish to pay 900 fees too.

[RedLeg505]

Originally Posted by Blaze

Some I wish would just show up, keep their mouth shut, fuck me or let me do what I do and get you gone. NO love loss.

Then there are the ones I just want to pull close, get lost in their eyes, lips, and smell.... Do it like they do it on the discovery channel or soft and sensual, and either way,,, spooning afterwards sharing intimate details of each others lives.

A two call system works.. No emails, text msg's, or other calls needed. Unless you wish to pay 900 fees too.

Ok, I think I've grasped the core argument here, thanks Blaze. Yes, all that talking and exchanging information and chatting in between "condom moments".. are to be done BCD once you arrive for the appointment. You do NOT carry on long intimate discussions and chat via emails or text before the appointment. Some nice casual flirty stuff to get things primed is fine, but a discussion of "War and Peace" and Dostoyevski as he pertains to modern literature, should NOT be done via text or email.

Thanks for clarifying the Provider view Blaze.

[Laz]

Thanks for stating what I think also so eloquently Old-T. I know that there is a balance that must be maintained when communicating with providers but I am not interested in indifferent sex.

[happybanana]

Originally Posted by burkalini

Ever notice that people say they are like Neiman Marcus and then when they use the word classy they follow it immediately with the word "Shit". HMMM????

That would be "classy" shit...
HB

[tbone2u]

I think the OP might want to consider removing GFE from her 411 ad.

[lda523287]

Originally Posted by Laz

Thanks for stating what I think also so eloquently Old-T. I know that there is a balance that must be maintained when communicating with providers but I am not interested in indifferent sex.

Amen brotha!

[Madeline Tze]

its maddening... it reminds me of high school. passing notes back and forth... lol... but its not all about sex for me. AT ALL... but even if a guy approaches me say for example at a grocery store... SMALL TALK will get me to walk away from you... ITS LAME... Cause the main point is can i get your name number and lets hook up sometime... you will either get a yes or a no. either one is not bad. It's funny to me... Men will have a 2 hour conversation about 5 different things. Then after you have put all the nonsense together. You are thinking WOW all he had to say was he wanted to take me to dinner... that would have taken 5 seconds to say.

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Plenty of us think these thoughts and really don't express the annoyances that this type of "job" puts us in.

What completely surprises me is when a man calls, I answer the phone, and he doesn't even introduce himself but starts spouting out activities and asking if I'll do them. "I want you to lick my ass, suck my dick and I want to come in your mouth. Will you do that for me?"

And I'm holding the phone thinking to myself what a complete ass he's being and he probably doesn't even realize it. When I do ask, "Ah, hello. Could you tell me your name, first?" then sometimes the light will come on.

Last week, when I asked a man his name and to screen, he told me something along the lines of his money was his screening and that I could fuck off if I wanted more information from him. I told him that we probably weren't a good match.

I don't mind men offering some small talk. What's your favorite color would probably strike me as charming.

But when I was new, and it took me a few years to "get it", there were men who would start e-mailing me and I thought that they were serious about meeting me. Same thing with I started IM'ing. Then, I realized that these men were bored at work and it provided free entertainment to write back and forth for weeks and years before ever meeting, even if then.

So I'm not overly fond of massive back and forths or anything. Because of the insisant questions, answers, flirting. Sex talk. Crap. If you wish to meet, then meet with me. You don't need to do much more going back and forth.

Yes, it's maddening but I've long ago figured it's part of the business.

My main issue that probably ticks me off more than anything is a guy not thinking that I'm an actual and real woman. They think that even when I'm at home, watching television or reading a book, that I'm still wanting to talk dirty to them. Or that I wouldn't appreciate just an e-mail saying hi.

With plenty of my clients, it's really not all about sex. So I get that a lot of the people that I see wish to know me better. I wish to know them better! I like getting to know the person beyond the cock, if you will.

Sometimes, though, questions from strangers feel really invasive. They'll ask really personal questions and if you do not answer them, they get upset with you. Some of my friends will give answers that are lies. But I don't do that, mainly because I don't wish to have to remember what I've said.

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this hobby of ours as well. It's the way that I live. And there are plenty of annoying aspects to it.

What I attempt to do for myself, is know that all jobs hold certain annoyances and have problems. This one isn't different.

And sex work is REAL work! (From an old activist button that I used to have!)

Elisabeth