Dear Shayla84

[Claire She Blows]

Originally Posted by kSoze

Thank GOD most of the girls are not whiney lil bitches and just let things go...

It's too bad we can't say the same for the gents.

[RALPHEY BOY]

I cant answer for everyone but for me it was not really the BCD time I liked, it was the 'chase', everything that you build up prior to a session is what did it for me.
You get your hopes up and you start to imagine the session before you arrive, then you get there or are on your way, then crickets..

Its kind of like getting a new car then 30 seconds after driving off the lot it breaks down,, your joy is gone....
I have been ncns many times and it sucks but if I did post about it , it was always in Private. posting in open forum does not help at all. move on to the next or try to reschedule..
life happens.

Girls I have no idea how you all approach it,.. I am sure its quite different

[shayla84]

Well thank you everyone, and yes it would have been nicer to get the pm but he told me he was upset last week and I apologized many times, maybe this is what he figures will give me punishment for it, I am not upset about it, a little embarrassed but hey I can not do anything about it but own up to it and apologize again. I havent been on the last few days much 4th of july down town some guy stole my purse and fought me and because I was fighting back he decided to stab me and so I have been going through a thing here in my own little world but the world goes on and bills dont stop and neither do the things that need to be done, so I will keep working my XL ass off and make up for all my things that were stolen. I will still see you F2C, and were theres no harm theres no fowl. Hope things get better for me and hopefully life goes on, I do want to mention that now that I think of it that you were calling in the morning to confirm appt, from the texts you hadnt even left your house yet and were waiting for confirmation, of course didnt have it and yes you may pay car payments at walmart when you have to get money orders and they are right across street from car place basically, so is that really a ncns when you havent confirmed yet or left your house ????? Either way again for the last time I am sorry and hopefully we both can just get over the issue, I have anyways.

[Mia Christine]

Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

I agree with Sixx.

I don't agree with F2C posting this in Coed. I think it's a shitty thing to do, actually. If you have an issue with a provider, then PM her. If that doesn't solve your problem, then go talk about her in the men's lounge behind her back like a decent human being. But trying to publicly humiliate her? That's a chicken shit thing to do. And then trying to get the last word in and close the thread - seriously? You've lost points in my book.

Originally Posted by Annef

Oh my god, concur. And all this, let me pat you on the head Shayla, glad you want to do better is nauseating. Completely fucking patronizing. Who in the hell do you guys think you are? As far as funtocome (or whatever), you clearly used this board as a form of retribution and that's not what its for. You could have easily pmed this woman. She doesn't seem to hard to address. Shayla was pretty gracious. I would have torn your ass a new one.

I was thinking the same thing. F2C, this was just unnecessary. If a Provider's TCB is lacking, or if she has become unreliable, inconsistent, a flake, or whatever issue you may have with her, then put it in a review. The Men's Lounge is another option. Either place would have at least reflected better on your character. To call anyone out in this manner, in an open forum, by name, is bad form and in my estimation, borders on bulling behavior. Not to mention, coming across as a condescending Prat.

I know of two other hobbyists who you also NCNS'ed recently (one even more than once I might add). That won't happen with me.
(May be they will step forward or not, I know who they are and they have confirmed it).

Is this a threat? Or spending your time checking up on her?


CinnamonShark- The difference for me is simple:
The structor of a review is matter of fact, this is what happened, period. The tone of this post is personal. It's as if F2C was writing a private PM to the Provider, he even titled it "Dear Shayla84", and then desired to make it public, to shame her, a week later I might add.

[VictoriaLyn]

I don't see how stating she NCNS 2 other hobbiest is a threat.He was just stating that he is not the only one she stood up

[Puccipleaser]

Can't we all just get along and have one big sex party and make up!!!!!! I'm sure that would fix everything!!!! If you are feeling tension from a person right now just blow their mind and make everything better!!!!

[fun2come]

Shayla, yes we are good (better than good :-)

As for the rest of the discussion, very much appreciated and interesting indeed.
Always happy to see, read, hear different perspectives and opinions and receive input and advice that way.

This is indeed a great community here !!!

[JennsLolli]

Originally Posted by HotButteredWhiskerBiscuit

Approx 99% of us paying clients wake up, drag ass to a job we hate, and still have to perform, or guess what? We get fired! Wake up this is reality. No entitlement to easy cash. And none of your clientle are doing it for 200+ hr!

Yes, I know what a "real job" is like and I know the appropriate amount of work and responsibility required to succeed, but providing ain't that. There are girls that just want the easy money, but y'all sure get your panties in a bunch when you can tell someone is burnt out and isn't giving 100% BCD. The providing thing is far more intimate and it takes a whole different breed of effort than the bullshit you'll face in the corporate world. The shelf life of providers would be much shorter if girls pushed themselves to work when they really aren't in the correct mind space. Like being topped when you can't get into your subbie space, this can fuck with your brain and the effects can be long term.

Entitlement? Sure, we can talk about entitlement. Entitlement is seeing an ad for a provider offering services, you having enough bills to cover her fee, and then getting all sorts of riled up when you can't have her. Providers have agency. You know what doesn't have agency? 7-Eleven. When you get kicked out of 7-Eleven when you try to pay for your slushee then I will understand if you get pissed off. (Apologies to my Libertarian brethren for my faulty analogy).

[saustin]

Originally Posted by Mia Christine

I was thinking the same thing. F2C, this was just unnecessary. If a Provider's TCB is lacking, or if she has become unreliable, inconsistent, a flake, or whatever issue you may have with her, then put it in a review.

The general guidelines posted at the top of the Dallas Reviews forum are that NCNS are not reviews.http://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=265739

Originally Posted by JennsLolli

Yes, I know what a "real job" is like and I know the appropriate amount of work and responsibility required to succeed, but providing ain't that. .

Perhaps there are mixed scenarios here: There is a difference between scheduling an appointment then aborting versus waking up one morning without appointments and deciding whether there will be a performance that day.

[Austins1hobby]

WOW! Opinions, discussions, and I guess a wake up call. Either way it has happen to majority of us! Those don't like it don't have to comment and the thread will go away! My 2 cents!

[Austins1hobby]

This is a mean crowd! I believe NCNS is a great topic and if someone does that to a hobbyist that reviews a lot or even post a lot should no better! Common courtesy if your unable to make an appointment call or even pm. If a guy NCNS 3-5 times on any provider he would be flagged and blacklisted! I'm just saying. Give F2C a break. Lets just have fun meet new ppl and just all get along. Make love not war!

[fun2come]

THX Austins1hobby, I also appreciate your comments, but I don't feel or think I need a break. I do welcome the discussions on these boards.

All people have their own way to communicate. Some use stronger words than others, some like name calling and cursing, and some do it funny and witty.

There is always a core message that remains and at the end of the message the facts are what they are.

[sixxbach]

I had no issue with F2C starting this thread. Yes, he is free to request this thread to be closed. However, if you start it, you should finish it, so to speak.

sixx

[fun2come]

Sixx, let me say (off topic): I wish I was on here when you were in full swing.

THX for your initial post and the current MODs seem to have agreed with you.

[Puccipleaser]

My question is if a provider is not feeling she could be at her best, then why would she schedule an appointment?!?! It's very easy not to take appointments if you are feeling burnt out. And as for ladies who feel like this lifestyle can "Fuck with their brain", then why do it?! It's all about trying to get that $$.......I am not saying all providers are like that, but there are some who will perform shitty just to get all the money they can. This lifestyle is no different than the "real world". Word of mouth will make or break a business, always has and always will. If I eat at a Chicago style pizza joint, but when I get there and it's actually NY style, what kind of review do you think I will post on Yelp? You expect one thing, but get something else, and the bottom line is that you are not satisfied with the product. This here is no different. It is everyone's MMV, but people can only speak from their point of view and let the next individual make their own informed decision.