I totally understand how you feel Vinny. Finding true love seems like one of those things we are just born wanting, a hunger that never goes away. It is one of life's hardest and greatest accomplishments right up there with career, kids, and house.
Vinny, you are a beatiful young lady! Attracting men would not really be hard for you. You just need to get in public places where men are and broadcast that you are available (flirt).
The Key is just making eye contact a little longer than is "polite" followed by a smile.
You have essentially told the guy, in no uncertain terms, "I Like you."
Then it either happens or it doesn't. It doesn't matter
where you are.
The hard part for you is going to be sifting through all the "unqualified junk" guys that you also attract when you send out your signal. It can be emotionally draining and a LOT of work.
As far as whether to wait or not? Every day you wait is a day you can't get back. We only have so many...
I agree that no man who is truly looking for his soulmate is going to want to share his babe physically with the world... But I also think it's ok for you to make sure you have something worth quitting for before you quit. But only you will truly know and it depends on what life brings your way.
As far as locations ripe for fishing:
match.com is probably the best dating site. It gives you a chance to chat back and forth and get a feel for someone before you meet them. You can also SEE them before talking so you can get
some of the chemistry check taken care ahead of time. It is also a MUCH faster/easier way of rejecting "unqualified buyers" LOL
http://www.match.com/
okCupid is a free dating site. Very popular but I've never used it. I like the fact that people on match are paying (i.e. making a commitment, hence weeding out the non-serious)
http://www.okcupid.com/
HIGH Quality/Posh "Lounge" Bars - like Silo's, CoCo Lounge. The Classy bars attract trendy professionals. They are less of a meat market/fast hook-up environment than "get drunk and f'ck" dance clubs.
Dance Classes - Salsa, Ballroom - these type of classes and "socials" (open dancing) are a great way to meet people. Similar to match, during the class you can scope out who you are interested in. With the class constantly rotating partners it gives you a chance to talk to and interact with a lot of different people. The open social and dancing gives (shy) guys an excuse to come talk to you (eliminates the ice breaker) then at a slower pace they can talk to you or come back later and keep building the relationship. Or you can just say, "No Thanks." Makes the whole rejection/acceptance process less hassle.
HEB - EVERYONE must eat. So at some point EVERYONE is at the Store. Key here is to go to the classiest markets, Central Market, the "Plus" Stores. The unique thing about this environment is that there is a MUCH higher % of genuine, "real" people here. The hard thing is that no one is really in hunting mode. So it makes connecting harder and there are a lot more married men in the mix. Also you can't use your wardrobe as much to attract.
Sleek designer dresses or flirty club clothes just look too blatant and out of place here.
The key here is eye contact and a smile.
Mall - Same game as HEB
San Antonio Adventure Club - SAAC is just a calendar of events. You can attend any and all that interest you. You will find many of the same people swimming around here. It gives you a chance to build your relationships more slowly. You are also exposed to a bunch of different people. This pool also has less players but also probably takes much longer to get to the relationship part since there is so much else going on. Not as direct in intent as match or clubs.
http://www.adventureclubsa.com/ClubP...enuoptID=28339
Gym - Is nice because you already know you are getting a Fit partner, if you like the athletic type. The problem with this environment is that there is also a LOT higher ratio of stuck-on-themselves, treat women like sh!t, guys... Because they are fit
they feel like they should be pursued and competed for (i.e. they feel entitled to date multiple partners)
This is the opposite of a club where the women are courted and fought for.
Summary:
Being in a relationship and in Love is the best (but they rarely last..)
Being single is VERY cool except for those lonely moments where it is not (but they pass).
Being in
the wrong relationship sucks way worse than being Single.
Best of
Vinny,
and remember, in this world, if you are
persistent you can achieve anything!
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