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Originally Posted by fawn
No you are not wrong mercianna , you have the right to set the ground rules for yourself, like others have stated above try a CSS.... There are always going to be men asking for something over the top or out of our comfort zone but I don't let it get me worked up or offend me because I have the right to say Yes or NO it is just that plain and simple...Now I will say I don't think a SS is anymore dangerous than a BBBJ/CIM, but that is my opinion! Now if you could please explain how offering a SS has anything to do with making or breaking a providers reputation.. Because I don't offer CIM and it hasn't hurt my reputation or my business! You cant worry about what other providers activities are and judging them for what they are comfortable with doing! You can only worry about yourself..
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I am concerned for myself when I say I value my health and my reputation. I feel like if I was known for providing ss that I might as well provide bbfs. There are bodily fluids exchanged be it penetration or not and any and all std's would be transmitted. It has been my observation that kind of reputation does not stand well in the community. Yes, it is much more dangerous than cim/bbbj, of course I am going to examine something I put my mouth on for any type of skin problems or discharge.
[I]Is Oral Sex Safe Sex?
HIV
Although oral sex is a relatively low-risk activity, particularly when compared to vaginal or anal sex, If you don't choose to use protection for oral sex, you should know that the risk of HIV transmission increases if the person performing the act has cuts or sores in his/her mouth, if ejaculation takes place in the mouth, and if the individual receiving oral sex has any other sexually transmitted diseases. The risk is primarily for the person performing the oral sex. Unless a partner has significant amounts of blood in his/her mouth, such as from dental surgery, oral sex is unlikely to expose the receptive partner to HIV. Just in case you're wondering, getting a blowjob is also not a risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.
Herpes
Although genital herpes and oral herpes are usually caused by different strains of the herpes virus, HSV-2 and HSV-1 respectively, it is possible for either virus to infect either site. Therefore, it is possible to transmit herpes during oral sex, and the virus can spread from either partner. Herpes is contagious even when symptoms are not present. Even though prophylactic medications, such as Zovirax (acyclovir), can reduce the likelihood of both outbreaks and transmitting the herpes virus to your partner, they can not eliminate the risk entirely. Although they should greatly reduce the risk of herpes transmission, condoms are also not completely effective in preventing transmission of herpes during oral sex, since the virus can spread from skin to skin.
HPV
HPV spreads via skin-to-skin contact not through bodily fluids.
Gonorrhea
There is limited research to suggest that it may be possible for someone to acquire a gonorrheal throat infection while performing oral sex on a woman, but transmission in the other direction is relatively unlikely since the site of infection is the cervix -- a part of the female anatomy not reached during cunnilingus.
Chlamydia
Infection risk is probably similar to that for gonorrhea
Syphilis
syphilis can only be transmitted in the presence of symptoms, during the primary and secondary stages of the disease, the sores it causes aren't easy to miss..
Hepatitis B
The research is inconclusive as to whether or not hepatitis B can be transmitted via oral sex.If you practice rimming, you should talk with your doctor about getting vaccinated. Vaccination is a good idea in any case, and the hepatitis B vaccine is currently recommended for all children and many groups of adults.
he or she can acquire an STD in certain circumstances. If an affected and naked person rubs an infected penis against the naked vulva or vagina, germs can be passed from skin-to-skin contact. Yeast is a major problem as are other STDs that sexually active males can carry with no symptoms but then pass the disease on to a naked female, either during foreplay or during sex.
Herpes on the penis or vulva can be transferred in skin-to-skin contact, even with no penetration, especially when the sores are open and oozing fluid. It is always, always important to look at the genitals of any person with whom you are naked, touching, or laying against when you are naked.
STD transmission through touching mucous membranes
Some STDs can be passed even if there is no penetration or exchange of fluids. These STDs can be
passed between the infected area of one person to another person through direct contact. An
infected area on any of these body parts - penis, anus, mouth, scrotum, rectum, genital area, or
vulva (external female genital organs) - can rub against someone else's genitals, any mucous
membrane or the damaged skin of another person and spread the infection.
Bacteria from a syphilis sore or virus from a herpes sore or human papilomavirus (HPV) wart can
pass to another person through mucous membranes or damaged skin such as a micro-cut, tear,
scrape or puncture. It is also possible for viral shedding to occur with HPV or herpes from infected
skin with no signs or symptoms into a genital area, mucous membrane or damaged skin.
STDs that can be spread by direct contact include herpes simplex virus (HSV), syphilis, and human
papillomavirus (HPV)
Other infections that are passed through direct skin contact, as well as more indirect contact such as
shared bedding and clothing, are scabies, pubic lice (or crabs)
There are 19 million new cases of STDs every year in the United States.
• Most STDs have no signs or symptoms and a lot of people do not know they are infected.
This post had nothing at all to do with judging anyone. I simply wanted to know where the community stands on this subject and why I am getting asked for it regularly. Personally, I was offended. That does not mean the next person is wrong if they are not offended. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I am just hoping that it is an educated opinion and not purely self-righteous. I realize I am taking a risk by being in this business. That does not mean I choose to take crazy risks along with it.
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What it was that really got to me is that he #1 really pursued talking me into something I was obviously uncomfortable with. #2 That he expected me to put my health at the exact same risk as providing bbfs which the chart above illustrates. Exchange of fluids (vaginal fluid & pre-ejaculate) is put in the exact same catagory as sexual intercourse. Anybody with a rudimentary knowledge of health can recognize this, and I am offended that anyone would even think that I would provide such a service. I strive to project an image of self-respect and dignity and expect others to treat me with no less respect than I give myself. Obviously the issue was not the cancellation of a prospective appointment. If I had desperately needed it I'm sure I wouldn't be writing this thread and would've taken the appointment against my better judgement.
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