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Originally Posted by budrn
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I am not a newbie. I did my research, and read the boards often enough to have a very good feel for providers' reputations for TCB, and in this particular case, a propensity for tardiness. I offered initially a later window for our visit and SHE was the one who fixed the appointment for 10am. She is a long time provider with many reviews (thus me knowing she can be late). She explained she was not a morning person as was obvious when we first spoke on my early arrival.. As I said, I did build in time to allow for that. Just not as much time as was demanded.
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No, no backup plan. Shame on me for expecting the consideration of meeting an obligation made to someone from almost 400 miles away after a week's worth of contact. This trip was well planned. I had been prescreened by several ladies and when I arrived in the area I made my final decisions and confirmed appointments and times. Planning was not an issue on my part here. My leisure time for this trip was filled with other provider appointments, none of whom had difficulty fulfilling their promises...TIMELY.
Fair enough. I reiterate from my OP:
I was gentlemanly and not really PO'ed, but my point is:
If I have taken the time to ask to be pre-screened from far away, contact for an appointment and confirm it, I will BE there. As a traveler, time is of the essence. Please be respectful of the constraints on time we have as visitors not locals. ...
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again, i am sorry that it didnt work out w/ you and the provider.
and i am glad that it DID work out w/ the other women you scheduled with.
but ... restating my point ...
if you knew there was a greater than 0 probability [maybe even much higher than that]..
and you planned your visit knowing her reputation,
then i dont think you should be at all surprised by the fact that the appt didnt make, for whatever reason. upset, maybe, frustated, maybe. surprised, NO.
and i dont think that your diligent planing for being at an appt should be the sole or main reason for her accepting you into her place for the appt. SHE MAKES THE DECISIONS, not you.
this applies to newbies, juniors, vets.
this applies to guys down the street from her or guys 500 miles away.
this applies to morning, noon, afternoon, evening, late nite appts.
this applies to ALL appointments in this subculture.
now, let's examine both possible results.
for those women who you got to visit, would you give them their props for being on time, welcoming you into their place, providing a deliteful time?
maybe yes, maybe no. possibly in a review or a co-ed or ML post.
that'd be acknowledging a positive experience.
that kind of info can be very useful when deciding whether or not to visit her.
as the woman in question didnt follow through w/ the appt, has she gotten back to you and explained antything or suggested any recourse? if not, then why not acknowledge that less than positive experience so that other guys in this area can know what might transpire should we attempt to visit with her?
yes, things happens. but with some women it happens more than with others. that kind of info can be very useful when deciding whether or not to visit her.
and perhaps us responders are jumping the gun where all you wanted to do was describe what happened. however, putting that last bit about being there and consideration about travelers just seemed presumptious to me.
i'm out...