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GingerKatt · 01-19-2019, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by VaniGold1

I’ve noticed a lot of the men on here like “sensual” or “romantic” play.
Maybe bc of the age idk.

I for one find it hard to be SENSUAL with a stranger I just met.
Kissing, cuddling, raw dogging (never happening btw), and ect.

However I am definitely down to toot my booty up, put ya meat in my throat, or letcha go to pound town. Lol

I just can’t become intimate (like two people in a relationship should) with strangers smh.

Which do you ladies and gents prefer?
And is it wrong to not be able to do that with the clients?
How can I maybe “overcome” or “get through” the times when I do, so that I may provide for more clients?

TIA (thanks in advance) LOVE HEARING FROM YALL! ❤️

Well Vani,
I think each provider provides services in her own unique way. There's nothing wrong with not being GFE. It just comes naturally to me, I truly like the sensual, romantic aspect of companionship. Most of the guys I've seen enjoy that too, but NOT all! I've had a few guys who are all business, no kissing, no cuddling, just cut right to the chase. I get a little disappointed with that, but overall I just want my date to be happy, so it's okay.

But anyway, I always advertised as a sensual GFE. There's a market for that, just as there's a market for straight up PSE providers. I'm sure there are MANY providers who don't kiss or cuddle. Many clients seek out the PSE providers who just want to get down to business with no preliminaries. So maybe just advertise yourself that way, and make sure your clients know you're not the kissy, cuddly type. There's someone out there for everyone. However, it wouldn't hurt to practice your IOP a little, just in case. A guy does want to know that you're glad he's there. Make him feel special, because he chose you.

And BTW, "raw dogging" has nothing to do with being GFE, sensual or romantic. That's just plain risky behavior that both parties have to agree to. Don't confuse it with being sensual please.

Analeese · 01-19-2019, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by mrredcat43

It is 21up, but you can still lie about your age in your showcase. Analeese hit the nail on the head OP.

Her showcase says 20. And don’t we have to show proof of our age ?

Edit: never mind I’m being obtuse ...lmao totally get what you’re saying now...I connected the dots now

TinMan · 01-20-2019, 06:10 AM

To the OP’s credit, she doesn’t appear to be confusing GFE with BBFS. She was pretty clear that it’s the intimacy of kissing that turns her off.

Analeese is right, though, that most guys are seeking intimacy in these arrangements. That’s why it’s a tough business for a young woman to master, I suspect.

CG2014 · 01-20-2019, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by TinMan

Analeese is right, though, that most guys are seeking intimacy in these arrangements.

We are?

We just want to nut and having a human female getting us there is more satisfying than doing it ourselves.

If we wanted intimacy, we would have a girlfriend or a wife, wouldn't we?

The reason we contract the services of these providers ladies is so we can get some

"bumping ugly, knocking boots, boom boom, me luv you long time as long as it doesn't go over 30 minutes to 1 hour (and in the case of a few guys here, 2 minutes)"

without

the emotional attachment

and

without the

"don't forget to send her flowers afterward and call her later because she wants to talk about us and where our damn relationship is going" part.

Why do women always want to ruin the intimacy of post sex coitus by wanting to talk???

You just shared something physically and psychologically beautiful together and they want to ruin it.

TinMan · 01-20-2019, 10:32 AM

Yes, most are. You obviously aren’t.

SchnellerFahrer · 01-20-2019, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Analeese

Your clients will not appreciate feeling like you’re repulsed by being with them when they are spending hundreds of dollars an hour of their hard earned money to see you.

There are way too many women they can pay that will give them a level of IOP (illusion of passion) they truly seek so you’ll be looked over and they will move on to the next lady willing to give them what they want.

BINGO! (for me, at least)

When I see someone for the 1st time, I DO spend some "getting to know you" time, and try to establish some rapor and comfort. I feel VERY strongly this should be mutual fun, and I would never want to be some guy a lady has to close her eyes and "get thru" the appointment.

Now having said that - I don't mind no kissing/other rules as long as I feel we're both having a good time. I don't have the power/stamina/longevity to come in and plow away anyway, so all my sessions are more GFE.

Lastly - when I see someone multiple times, I DO ask and expect an honest answer if they are OK seeing me multiple times. I do NOT want to be "that guy" someone has to fight through a appointment, close their eyes, fake IOP, whatever.

Anyhow, that's what works for me. Hope that helps a bit.

BLM69 · 01-20-2019, 01:07 PM

Everybody seeks different stuff here, some guys want to talk and connect, others like me want a good pse experience with someone who enjoys the mouth service and the Dee

I'm always searching for the best that works for me, your great experience/or type of woman doesn't have to mine or vise versa. We choose where and with who we spend our chips at the very end.

Analeese · 01-20-2019, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by CG2014

We are?

We just want to nut and having a human female getting us there is more satisfying than doing it ourselves.

If we wanted intimacy, we would have a girlfriend or a wife, wouldn't we?

The reason we contract the services of these providers ladies is so we can get some

"bumping ugly, knocking boots, boom boom, me luv you long time as long as it doesn't go over 30 minutes to 1 hour (and in the case of a few guys here, 2 minutes)"

without

the emotional attachment

and

without the

"don't forget to send her flowers afterward and call her later because she wants to talk about us and where our damn relationship is going" part.

Why do women always want to ruin the intimacy of post sex coitus by wanting to talk???

You just shared something physically and psychologically beautiful together and they want to ruin it.

No disrespect but.....
You can’t be serious or this naive right ?
A lot of these men are married and still lack different levels of of intimacy maybe you’ve never been married who knows who cares really tbh

Intimacy can be defined in many ways

Synonyms for intimacy: companionship and mutual affection ijs

Your negativity sucks

Back to the real topic...I find it easier to be intimate sexually with my clients when I know something about them....or at least try to know things about them..not always personal info but engaging in conversation and really taking the time to care makes a huge difference

VaniGold1 · 01-20-2019, 05:19 PM

I can definitely put on a show. I do not make my clients feel repulsed lol. At all. I guess I was just looking for advice more on this matter. I got some great advice. Lol I understand other ladies offer other things. So it makes them more easier to visit. Only thing I couldn’t get into is the no protection thing. The cuddling and kissing can easily be fixed and I’m sure if I do it enough times I’ll become comfortable with doing it. Just wanted to know everyone’s thoughts and opinions. THANKS ladies and gents for the advice greatly appreciated

Analeese · 01-20-2019, 05:21 PM

You should probably have this discussion in the ladies area tbh. I realize you’re new here but I’m sure these guys don’t want to see that you have to learn how to like certain activities. Providers may not speak as freely and openly with you about how they get their job done out here on the open forums

Wish you all the best
Ana

VaniGold1 · 01-20-2019, 05:24 PM

And also annalese the age thing was an accident. Just didn’t spin the little thing one more time to 21. I was verified obviously and I am 21. lol but ur advice is good advice as always. I realize the couple of clients I have talked with first I do feel more comfortable seeing so ima start using that to my advantage. I just like asking these questions Bc I know some of u ladies are more knowledgeable about this site and how to make my job more enjoyable for myself and others.

TinMan · 01-20-2019, 05:31 PM

Ana may be right, but I appreciate the honesty. I’m willing to give a lady a shot if she’s giving it her best effort.

Good luck, Vani...hope to meet you one day

Analeese · 01-20-2019, 08:03 PM

I used the term “job” loosely tbh....just have fun...it makes the overall experience better for yourself and those visiting you

I try to offer advice I would have appreciated receiving years ago when I started this ...and things I had to learn sometimes the hard way (mistakes).

CG2014 · 01-20-2019, 09:22 PM

Not every guy is hiring providers for intimacy.

Some guys just want to nut regardless of whether they are married or not.

We are all voicing our opinion on the matter and there is no need to be rude again.

Analeese · 01-20-2019, 09:39 PM

Your definition of intimacy is clearly different than majority of people here I would say...I can appreciate that

However ...

No one was being rude to you. You get your feelings hurt like some women do. You sure you don’t have a pussy too?

If you don’t like what I said hit the triangle and the mods will determine if I’ve broken a guideline and handle it accordingly...lol