Approaching a lady in a public place

[randell]

Chat her up, at some point say you are looking for company. If she is a provider she'll get the reference, if she isn't she won't assume you think she's a hooker.

Chatting and showing interest isn't offensive to most ladies. But, Golden rule "Don't be a dick".

Or
just do what everyone else does and ask if she does bareback.

[Randall Creed]

Originally Posted by grean

If you actually think you recognize her from a website, it is best to leave her be. Don't even PM her on eccie. That would probably be very scary for her to know a guy that she doesn't know is aware of where she is staying and possibly keeping an incall there. My guess is she ghosts really quick.

I'm not even sure you bring it up at a later date if you do book an appointment later.

I would say, you don’t have to be THAT overt with it. Instead, just go through the motions of a normal pursuit of an appointment. If she’s in room 308 and you’re 312, there’s NO reason to point this out to her. Once she gives you a location, just say you’re about 20-25 minutes away or whatever. When the time is close, let her know you’re ‘almost there’.

Of course, if she recogniz you from walking around all day before the session (random path crossing), it could be awkward.

[Guest122922]

Originally Posted by grean

If you actually think you recognize her from a website, it is best to leave her be. .....very scary for her to know a guy that she doesn't know is aware of where she is staying and possibly keeping an incall there.
I'm not even sure you bring it up at a later date if you do book an appointment later.

AGREED!

Originally Posted by ValenTX

If you are not certain she is a provider ...assume she is not. .....your fishing for rates and confirmation she is a provider could be enough to win you a special jackpot.

YOU KNOW IT !

Originally Posted by randell

Chat her up, at some point say you are looking for company. If she is a provider she'll get the reference, if she isn't she won't assume you think she's a hooker.
Chatting and showing interest isn't offensive to most ladies...

If someone approached me .... I could probably tell by the look in his eye if he recognizes me or not....although I would prefer no mention of it.
I've come across this scenario before...and when they say .... can I buy you a drink?
I say...and then what?
HE: .. maybe we could"get to know each other better"?
ME: ..well, it will not be free outing, and if you are up to the challenge, I would be glad to offer my companion services on an hourly basis

T

[LustyBustyGina38FF]

Originally Posted by grean View Post
If you actually think you recognize her from a website, it is best to leave her be. .....very scary for her to know a guy that she doesn't know is aware of where she is staying and possibly keeping an incall there.
I'm not even sure you bring it up at a later date if you do book an appointment later


yes please don't go up to her and ask any questions
just let it be ..

this has happen before that I was staying at the same hotel as outcall appt request , but I just played it off and went and saw him , he never asked where I was staying and I didn't let on , we never ran into each other again at the same hotel

[micktoz]

Originally Posted by Torre Tames

AGREED!




YOU KNOW IT !



If someone approached me .... I could probably tell by the look in his eye if he recognizes me or not....although I would prefer no mention of it.
I've come across this scenario before...and when they say .... can I buy you a drink?
I say...and then what?
HE: .. maybe we could"get to know each other better"?
ME: ..well, it will not be free outing, and if you are up to the challenge, I would be glad to offer my companion services on an hourly basis

T

WHAT? "Offer companion services on an hourly basis" ? Yes officer, I'll companion you all the way to the police station.

There you have 2 foolish people looking for 3 hots and a cot.

Really?

[grean]

Originally Posted by Torre Tames

AGREED!




YOU KNOW IT !



If someone approached me .... I could probably tell by the look in his eye if he recognizes me or not....although I would prefer no mention of it.
I've come across this scenario before...and when they say .... can I buy you a drink?
I say...and then what?
HE: .. maybe we could"get to know each other better"?
ME: ..well, it will not be free outing, and if you are up to the challenge, I would be glad to offer my companion services on an hourly basis

T

I suggested in my first post that the OP assume a lady he saw, who he did NOT recognize, smoking a cigarette outside is NOT a provider and he treat her as if she were any other lady he saw and wanted to strike up a conversation with.

I would think that lady, if she were in the hobby, unbeknownst to him, would either politely blow him off, or perhaps enjoy a drink & a conversation. I would not imagine her outing herself.

[Massagejunkyie69]

I think the context is important here.

When I'm traveling on business and I see an attractive lady in the bar and think I can strike up a conversation with her, I will. 99 times out of 100, she's a normal civie, there on business too, which of course, immediately reduces my chances of getting laid. LOL. Unlike some of the women we know, (SB's, Escorts, etc.), Civie's don't just automatically fuck the first guy that talks to them, especially if they're married. Woman are wired differently than men. We'll fuck anything that stays still long enough, whereas women need some encouragement and some motivation.

Now, with that said, I've gotten lucky over the years with a few woman who are out of town on business and do want to get laid. It turns out they were on the hunt too.

I suspect if that if I ever came across a escort at a hotel bar, chances are after talking to her, she would probably politely blow me off if she's waiting on a client, or very discreetly tell me she's available for fun, but there's a cost associated with it.

The trick from the guys point though is to not assume. Just figure she's an attractive woman and is she willing to put up with your lame pick up lines ands one liners? if so, go have some fun, whether you're paying for it or not. Go in assuming the civvie is a escort or professional, and you'll get a drink tossed on you. (fortunately, I've never experienced that. )

[Crock]

Originally Posted by Torre Tames

If someone approached me .... I could probably tell by the look in his eye if he recognizes me or not....although I would prefer no mention of it.
I've come across this scenario before...and when they say .... can I buy you a drink?
I say...and then what?
HE: .. maybe we could"get to know each other better"?
ME: ..well, it will not be free outing, and if you are up to the challenge, I would be glad to offer my companion services on an hourly basis

T

Do you get arrested a lot, or have you been lucky so far?

[LRH76]

Casual convo to help with the assessment then "are you a provider". If she is she will know what you are taking about if not never mind and steer the convo in another direction.

[txexetoo]

Don’t. Just don’t!!!

[corona]

Approaching a civilian OP? Can you clarify your question?

[Guest033019]

Originally Posted by Crock

Do you get arrested a lot, or have you been lucky so far?

Lmao

[Guest121018]

????? You have really been out of the game?? Really?

[Guest121018]

Is this girl a known hooker or regular girl?

[boomvang]

Originally Posted by pmdelites

sah,
wrt “.... notice a girl out smoking or something and I wanted to acquire about her....”
think you meant “inquire”.
or maybe you did mean “acquire” for an hour or so of time :^}

a girl of legal age in general??
or a girl of legal age who you think might be a provider??

if the former, look on the web for “how to pickup a girl.”

if the latter, see posts above. dont go meet her - discretion in the sub-cultureis of utmost importance.

Okay, but what about women you meet online on sites where some are and some aren't. I have asked gently about donations and or gifts trying to come up with a universal code and got it completely backward wrong. Some civilian women can get very offended when you ask about rates. Has anyone found the best way? You don't want to meet someone and be short when they bring it up as they are leaving. That would be a rude thing to do but it could escalate to one of those times when you need to worth this out quietly PLEASE.